Ask Dali Mama

DEAR DALI MAMA: 

How do I get a guy to ask me out?

–Shy (Canada)

DEAR SHY:

Probably the best thing you can do is smile, show interest, and be yourself. If he’s not interested in the real you, being yourself is a good way to weed out anyone who is not a good match for you.

Also, ask him questions about himself and let him lead the conversation so you can get to know him better to see if you’d actually want to be in a relationship with him, much less go on a date with him—particularly helpful when you’re shy.

You also might want to consider asking him out. These days, there’s really no reason you can’t. Even if he’s not available or interested in a relationship, he’ll probably at least be flattered you asked.