Ask Dali Mama

How can I get guys to ask me out more?

—Wilting Wallflower (Canada)

DEAR W.W.:

If you want to get to know somebody, maybe you could take the initiative and invite them for coffee or something casual.

Notice too how you’re coming across to people. Perhaps you may want to meet people, but do you give off vibes through body language or other means that keep people away (avoiding eye contact or crossing your arms, for example). You might want to ask a couple close friends that have good people skills what they notice about what kind of signals you’re putting out, and let your signals match your intention by having as much fun as possible as you get to know various people, whether romantic possibilities or just generally cool people.

Enjoy!