Ask Dali Mama

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I have endometriosis and sex is so uncomfortable because of this that I don’t want to have sex. Do you have any recommendations?

—Uncomfortable (Japan)

DEAR UNCOMFORTABLE:

On an energetic level, it might be helpful to get your second-chakra energy moving, stoking the female sexual and creative energy. Do this by doing creative projects (whatever tickles your fancy that you love, whether it is knitting or painting or singing or poetry or something else entirely) and by getting your sexual energy moving with or without a partner.

You might want to check out modalities such as orgasmic meditation (OM) to get the energy moving without discomfort. Classes on OM are available, but here’s a little information about the logistics of what you can expect: https://onetaste.us/container.

On a physical level, experiment with different positions (after extended foreplay) to see if intercourse is gradually getting more comfortable. Try, for example, the coital alignment technique (http://www.newhealthadvisor.com/coital-alignment-technique.html). Also, try the snake position (http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex-tips/5-sex-positions-women-secretly-crave).

As with any medical condition, make an appointment with your doctor. You might want to ask him/her about complementary treatments such as acupuncture as well.

For additional information on endometriosis, here are some links you may find helpful:

http://www.everydayhealth.com/womens-health/why-sex-hurts-with-endometriosis.aspx

https://www.womentowomen.com/sex-fertility/endometriosis-start-with-a-natural-approach/

https://www.verywell.com/natural-treatments-for-endometriosis-89275

http://endometriosis.org/resources/articles/painful-intercourse/

I wish you much comfort and pleasure and connection on your healing journey.