Ask Dali Mama

DEAR DALI MAMA:

My guy is pretty selfish in bed. I always give him lots of foreplay (oral and manual) and I love doing so. But he just accepts it then just wants to have intercourse without reciprocating at all and I am starting to feel pissed. What do you think? I’m even getting a little turned off at the idea of having sex and I’ve always been a woman that loved having sex.

–Frustrated (United States)

DEAR FRUSTRATED:

First, communicate about this to him. Second, the operative phrase here is quid pro quo, my friend. And I think you should have him pleasure you before and intercourse to lessen the chance of him rolling over and passing out without ensuring you have been satisfied.

Maybe you could even make it fun and play a game of he does one thing for you, you do one thing for him. Tit for tat. Ha ha.

Remember: quid pro quo!