I have been married for 21 years to a decent man but lately, I keep dreaming about my boyfriend from high school—sexy dreams. I looked him up on Facebook and saw he has an account but I have not friended him yet. Should I contact him?

–Tempted (United States)


I would advise you not to friend him on Facebook nor seek him out in any other way as long as you’re married to this decent man of yours. If you’re tempted now, how much more tempted will you be once you’re in contact with your old boyfriend, maybe even in regular contact with him. I suggest you not even open that door if you value your marriage and the vows you made.

Perhaps there is a part of you that is yearning for more passion in your life. Maybe it is time to take a tantric class with your husband or go somewhere together you’ve always wanted to go explore together or take up a hobby you’ve always wanted to try.

NOTE TO READERS: I do free healings the first Sunday of each month. If you would like a free healing that day, email your healing request (with “free group healing” in the subject line) with your name and up to three healing requests to You may do this every month as many times as you like. I also invite you to send in your own questions to


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