Ask Dali Mama

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I am a sex addict and have been in and out of programs numerous times, with no lasting results. How do I stop this? I am surrounded by temptations and see no way out, barring finding a cave in the desert or finding an island in the middle of nowhere.

–Addicted (Brazil)

DEAR ADDICTED:

I applaud that you continue to take steps to conquer your addiction, which is the most important factor in recovery.

I recommend you go into therapy in addition to group work, perhaps something like https://saa-recovery.org. Also, whenever you refrain from making a choice born out of sex addiction, don’t look at your refraining from risky sexual behavior that is not aligned in your highest good like you’re missing out on something; look at that choice as giving yourself a foundation you’re entitled to, such as a foundation of trust for a loving sexual relationship or the maintenance and healthy building of a love relationship you’re already in.