Ask Dali Mama

10/25

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I am a straight man in his thirties but people always think I am gay and outright ask if I am gay. I don’t understand it. What is going on?

—Bewildered (Straightland)

DEAR BEWILDERED:

Bottom line is it’s really not your issue to worry about. If you’re straight, then let people think whatever they want or ask whatever silly questions they want.

People have different pictures (some cultural) about what qualities a gay man may have. The truth is that every single woman runs both male energy and female energy and every single man runs both male energy and female energy. Some people run more of one than the other and the proportions of either may change in the moment according to whatever we’re doing. But let them have whatever pictures they have and think whatever they want and just live your life and enjoy it and don’t waste your thought and energy on nosy questions that aren’t really any of anyone’s business in the first place.