Ask Dali Mama

DEAR DALI MAMA:

How do I get someone to fall in love with me?

—Ready for Love (United States)

DEAR READY FOR LOVE:

I’m going to assume you mean generally and not someone in particular. Let me know if I did not understand your question correctly.

First question: Do you go out of your home where people can meet you? That is very important. I know many people who would like to someone but they are never anywhere (even online) where someone can meet them. You might want to consider going out to places where you can meet people with common interests, whether there is a meetup in film, for example, or a hiking meetup. You can also check your local newspaper classified ads for lectures or meetings on topics of interest. If you are religious or spiritual, go to your local church or synagogue or mosque where you can meet people who might hopefully have values similar to yours.

Also consider the fact that you might want to think about loving people (whether that’s your community or family or specific individuals you are interested in) rather than worrying about getting love. Sometimes we can worry so much about getting love that we forget to love. Haha.

Sending you love!