WHY DO PEOPLE SAY I’M JUDGMENTAL WHEN I DON’T ACT THAT WAY?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

My friends have told me I’m judgmental but I don’t feel like I ever act judgmental to them. What’s going on? It’s not just a couple friends who have told me that, but a number of people who have mentioned that to me over the years.

—Worried (United States)

DEAR W.:

I applaud you in looking for the truth in a case where many don’t have the courage to look within to see if something is the truth or not. Because you’ve heard this comment not once but a number of times and because you’re thinking about it, it’s probably a sign that there is some judgment energy to look at within yourself.

Even if you are not judgmental towards your friends, perhaps they have noticed you being judgmental towards others. Most likely, you may also be judgmental towards yourself. Also, people often pick up on not just words or actions, but energies as well.

Oftentimes, we may so in a particular energy that we don’t even notice that this is the case, particularly when we were raised in those energies so we don’t recognize a different way to be until we choose to be conscious of it.

Practice validation and acceptance towards others as well as towards yourself. Have fun doing this and notice if your relationship with others as well as with yourself starts to shift.

Enjoy the journey, friend.

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