Ask Dali Mama

DEAR DALI MAMA:

Once a cheater, always a cheater?

—? (United States)

DEAR ?:

Sometimes but not always. If someone cheated once or a long time ago, but has been faithful since then, perhaps they will never cheat again. If, however, someone has a long history of being a serial cheater, they are very likely to cheat unless they’ve done a lot of inner work as to the cause of their cheating behavior.

Trust your gut. If you feel that they will likely cheat again and this feeling is not borne out of your own fear or distrust, perhaps it is better to let them go and be with someone you can trust completely.

Wishing you the best.