HOW DO I GET GUYS TO ASK ME OUT MORE?

19 Jan 2018 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Love & Relationships Tags: , , , , ,

How can I get guys to ask me out more?

—Wilting Wallflower (Canada)

DEAR W.W.:

If you want to get to know somebody, maybe you could take the initiative and invite them for coffee or something casual.

Notice too how you’re coming across to people. Perhaps you may want to meet people, but do you give off vibes through body language or other means that keep people away (avoiding eye contact or crossing your arms, for example). You might want to ask a couple close friends that have good people skills what they notice about what kind of signals you’re putting out, and let your signals match your intention by having as much fun as possible as you get to know various people, whether romantic possibilities or just generally cool people.

Enjoy!

HOW DO I GET TO KNOW A WOMAN WITHOUT SEEMING CREEPY OR HARASSING SOMEONE?

10 Nov 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Love & Relationships, Uncategorized Tags: , , , , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

Can you tell me how to get to know a woman without seeming creepy or like I’m harassing someone? I know these days it can be considered harassment to comment on a woman’s looks so how do I make my interest known without being a creep?

—A Good Guy (United States)

DEAR GOOD GUY:

That’s a great question and wonderful that you’re cognizant of avoiding potentially creepy come-on lines. How about just saying, “Hi. I’m ____. Nice to meet you.” Or even, “Hello. How are you?” Or comment on a shared experience. For example, if you’re at a bar and listening to a band, you can comment on the music. After you start a general conversation, if you seem to be hitting it off and have things in common, you could say something like, “I’ve enjoyed talking to you. Would you be interested in coffee (or dinner or whatever) sometime?”

Personally, as a woman, I am always much more interested in getting to know people who treat me like a person rather than getting to know men who just comment on my looks without knowing anything about me.

Thanks, Good Guy!

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