WHAT DO I GIVE TO MY SISTER-IN-LAW WHO ALWAYS GIVES ME CHEAP OR AWFUL PRESENTS?

18 Dec 2014 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Family Tags: , , , , , , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

My sister-in-law always gives everyone else these hugely expensive and elaborate presents and always gives me something insultingly cheap and/or ugly. For years, I always gave her nice presents but I am thinking that I am just going to either get her something cheap like she gets me or nothing at all. Your advice?

–Scrooged (United States)

DEAR SCROOGED:

If you can’t give her anything with love, maybe it’s best to just give her a card. You might also want to consider giving her a present from an organization such as Heifer International (see http://www.heifer.org/gift-catalog/index.html). Through Heifer, you can buy, for example, a share of a sheep so that a family can use the wool to make products to sell or clothe themselves.

Another great organization is www.kiva.org, through which you can make a micro-loan of $25 (or more) in her name, or let her choose which person or cause to support with her micro-loan. Once the loan is repaid, it can be loaned to the next person to keep the cycle of positive good going strong.

Otherwise, if she has a pet cause or nonprofit, you can make a donation in her name, spreading the love that way. In this way, you can give with love even when it’s difficult to muster up love for someone that is not always kind or generous with you.

HOW DO I STOP MY PARENTS FROM FIGHTING?

16 Aug 2014 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Family, Love & Relationships Tags: , , , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

My parents fight all the time. They fight about a lot of stuff. Sometimes they fight about me. How can I stop this?

–Tired Out (United States)

DEAR TIRED OUT:

It is very difficult to keep other people from fighting, particularly when they’re your parents. Perhaps what you can focus on for now is how you handle their fighting. Are you taking on responsibility for their fighting, especially when they fight about you? If so, recognize that their fighting ultimately has nothing to do with you, even if you or subjects related to you seem to be a point of contention between them. Even if you were elsewhere, I guarantee you they would be fighting anyway.

You might also want to use this opportunity to delve and live in a space of your own inner peace, no matter what the people around you are doing. Do this and maybe just a little bit of this may rub off on the people around you. Maybe, maybe not, but you will ultimately be healthier and happier this way.

Much peace and love to you on your journey.

 

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