Ask Dali Mama

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I am a 42-year-old and I have been dating a 36-year-old man for some time. The only problem is that I make a lot more than he does. I do great financially and I could even support us both, but I feel a little uneasy about this. Your thoughts?

–Wary (United States)

DEAR WARY:

If you could support both of you, are you wary because you’re worried about being taken advantage of? Or are you worried because the two of you don’t fit the typical American cookie-cutter template of the man making more than the woman and supporting the woman? Or are you wary because you feel like your guy is using you for your money? Or that maybe you’re not enough as you are and that you’re worried he’s with you for financial security? Or is your intuition, your higher self, pointing to something you need to pay attention to?

Notice what it is exactly that is bothering you about the situation. Let go of any fears that are not reality-based nor actually pertinent to your true happiness. Then let go of other people’s ideas of how you should live your life and notice what is left after you’ve moved out these fears and other energies. If you’re still wary, enjoy yourself and also laugh as you take a closer look at the dynamics of what is actually causing you to worry.