WHY DO SOME PEOPLE SEEM TO HAVE BETTER LUCK WITH MONEY THAN OTHERS?

31 Oct 2017 Leave a comment

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(DEAR FRIENDS, PLEASE PARDON MY LONG ABSENCE. I WAS OUT OF THE COUNTRY AND UNABLE TO ACCESS THE SECURITY CODES ON MY PHONE THAT I NEEDED IN ORDER TO POST.)

DEAR DALI MAMA:

Why do some people seem to have much better luck with money than others?

—Curious (Brazil)

DEAR CURIOUS:

Sometimes people that have a strong sense of their own self-worth and a strong sense of havingness (capacity to receive and have certain things) tend to attract money and opportunities to have and to make money.

Sometimes, too, it may seem like people have better luck with money than others but they have developed smart ways to manage their money, whether through study or from growing up around people with healthy money habits.

In some cases, people were born into a certain lifetime with the mockup to have a lot of money for various reasons, including so they can help others financially.

There are many reasons but the best thing we can do is to work hard, educate ourselves financially, and make smart decisions based on what we learn while developing the energies that support our wealth (strong self-esteem and self-worth, for example).

WHY AM I UNEASY BECAUSE I MAKE MORE THAN MY BOYFRIEND?

30 Jun 2014 Leave a comment

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DEAR DALI MAMA:

I am a 42-year-old and I have been dating a 36-year-old man for some time. The only problem is that I make a lot more than he does. I do great financially and I could even support us both, but I feel a little uneasy about this. Your thoughts?

–Wary (United States)

DEAR WARY:

If you could support both of you, are you wary because you’re worried about being taken advantage of? Or are you worried because the two of you don’t fit the typical American cookie-cutter template of the man making more than the woman and supporting the woman? Or are you wary because you feel like your guy is using you for your money? Or that maybe you’re not enough as you are and that you’re worried he’s with you for financial security? Or is your intuition, your higher self, pointing to something you need to pay attention to?

Notice what it is exactly that is bothering you about the situation. Let go of any fears that are not reality-based nor actually pertinent to your true happiness. Then let go of other people’s ideas of how you should live your life and notice what is left after you’ve moved out these fears and other energies. If you’re still wary, enjoy yourself and also laugh as you take a closer look at the dynamics of what is actually causing you to worry.

 

WHY DO I CHOOSE THE WRONG WOMEN?

08 Mar 2014 Leave a comment

DEAR DALI MAMA:

Why do I always choose the wrong sort of women to date? I look back on my life and notice I always walked right past really nice and beautiful women but beelined towards the ones who would wreak havoc on my life. I am a decent looking guy with a good job and pretty smart except for when it comes to picking women. When I look back, I see that all the signs were there from the beginning but I was blind to them or something. What is wrong with me?

–Disgusted (Mexico)

DEAR DISGUSTED:

There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s called being human. Ha ha. The good thing, though, is, even as a human, you don’t have to keep repeating the same patterns of the past.

We’re often drawn to those with have karma with—perhaps one of the lessons you’re learning as a spirit is learning how to make choices in relationships that are healthier for you and to learn more deeply about what love is.

The key thing is to develop awareness, which you’re already doing a good job of since you’re asking this question instead of choosing to blindly keep following the same patterns.

The next step is sitting down and meditating on why you are drawn to women who have a chaotic effect on your life. Do you feel you’re not worthy of being with someone who is nice to you (and pretty too since you mention that) and is a positive influence on your life? If so, validate your worth and your right to be with someone who is a positive influence in your life. Do you feel like being with someone who is a disruptive influence is more exciting than being with someone you can count on? If so, maybe you need to find another source of excitement in your life. Like bungee jumping or crocodile wrestling. Ha ha.  Do you choose people that are similar to a parent (or choose the opposite of a parent out of resistance to being with someone like one of your parents)? That’s fine if you want to do that but you can choose consciously. Or do you choose these women because you think you can help them or heal them in some way because you do not feel that just being and not working for love is enough in a relationship? If so, notice that instinct when you are getting to know someone and decide if that’s really what you want in a relationship.

Congratulations on opening up your awareness so you can make choices that support and honor you.

Wishing you much love.

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