I had a healing with this woman. She told me during the session that she was “giving” me an energy-infused bottle of water for ease, which is supposed to help me relax.  Well, at the end, when I was about to pay her, she casually informs me that the bottle is $26!  I’m sitting there in shock, not knowing what to say, but thinking “what the hell?” She said she was “giving” it to me, and didn’t even ask if I wanted to buy it!  So somehow, I end up biting my tongue, and convince myself it’s ok, when I know it’s not.  She already charged me $200 for the session.

–What the Hell? (Canada)

Dear WTH:

It is probably better protocol for the healer to have asked you if you wanted to buy the water after letting you know what it cost. She might have used the term “giving” loosely, as in “prescribing” or “distributing,” but I understand why it was a shock. She was not clear.

Perhaps this was a chance for you to own your truth and speak up for yourself. You say you know it wasn’t okay for things to go down the way they did, so it was a soul-agreement opportunity for her to present you with something so outrageous (that you paid for) that you had to speak up. It was also a reminder that you have a choice in every situation. Next time, you can always say no. But don’t worry. You will get another chance to learn this lesson if you haven’t already. Ha ha.

It’s not too late to tie things up with this healer and to speak up for yourself. If you want, you can write a letter, stating your truth about the whole experience from a neutral position of being in your power. You can be very clear and let her know why it was confusing since she said she was giving you the water, which will help her avoid unclear situations with other clients in the future if she chooses to. Write anything else you have to say and mail the letter, letting go of any other energy you no longer need to hold on to as you send it off. Then send her spirit a thank you for teaching you this lesson in a way that could have been even more outrageous and costly.



I can’t stand one of my co-workers. She is so annoying. Her cubicle is next to mine and there’s no getting away from her. She goes on and on and talks to me while I’m trying to work. Now, even when she does nothing, I’m still annoyed. What am I to do?

—Annoyed in Cubicle Land, Corporate America (United States)


At some point in our lives, we all have at least one person that really annoys us. While sometimes we may want to scream and run away from them, this person can also be one of your greatest teachers.

Because one of the things that annoys you is your co-worker talking endlessly to you while you’re trying to work, perhaps you two have a soul agreement where she is giving you an opportunity to strengthen energetic boundaries and practice stating your needs clearly. So give her spirit a heartfelt thank you for the opportunity to learn this important lesson and the next time she rambles on at work,  you could say, for example, “Excuse me. I need to get back to work,” and simply turn back towards your desk. Perhaps saying this kindly but firmly will be an opportunity for her to learn to read and respect other people’s needs as well. If she doesn’t learn from this, I’m sure she will have other opportunities to learn this lesson in even clearer ways. Ha ha.

Good luck with this. Learning how to set healthy boundaries for your time and your energy will be an asset that will serve you in all areas of your life!

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