Ask Dali Mama

DEAR DALI MAMA:

Hi. I just read your post on jealousy (from July 29, 2014) and it makes for interesting reading as I’m into a guy who loves big, curvy butts on women. He keeps talking about his love affair with big J.Lo-type butts…! I have a fairly flat, non-existent butt which I have never had an issue with before but with him I now feel a little insecure—what if my butt’s not sexy enough for him to find me attractive when the clothes come off…

Don’t think it’s a past life dynamic. But it makes me feel not good enough physically. What to do?

—Buttless (Ireland)

DEAR BUTTLESS:

Love your butt and, for that matter, your whole body exactly how it is. When you feel sexy, you are sexy.

Sometimes people may make comments like that to bring up insecurity in someone so they may have a better chance with him/her or to gauge if they have a chance with them if they get jealous. Sometimes people make comments like that because they’re just saying whatever pops into their head.

If he is not satisfied with you because you don’t have a bigger butt, he doesn’t deserve to be with your butt and you can make room for someone who appreciates your butt and all of you exactly how you are.