Ask Dali Mama

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I can’t stop thinking about a man I dated (only briefly years ago). How do I stop this unhealthy behavior?

–Heartbroken (Brazil)

DEAR HEARTBROKEN:

It’s great that you recognize continuing to think about this man is not healthy for you. Validate the time you had together and let that be enough as the gift it was. Give thanks for the experiences you had together and for what you each learned from each other, then make room for someone new to come into your life.

If you want, I also encourage you to get rid of any old photos of him or momentos of your time together to make room for new romance and love.

Maybe you could even join some singles clubs or host a singles party or something and get the word out to your friends you’re ready to meet someone new in case they know someone you might hit it off with. Whether you hit it off romantically or not, it can be a lot of fun to make new friends and meet new people.