HOW DO I GET OUT OF THE RUT OF FEELING LONELY ON A SATURDAY NIGHT?

19 Sep 2014 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Uncategorized Tags: , , , , , , , , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

On weekends, sometimes I end up at home alone as I am single and in my 30s. Being alone on a Saturday night makes me feel like a loser and even more alone. How do I get out of this rut?

–Lonely (Canada)

DEAR LONELY:

Well, you’re doing the most important thing—looking at this so you can change your situation. First, validate the worth and joy of your own company. When you have time to yourself, whether on a Saturday night or any time of the week, take some time to honor that opportunity and to enjoy your own company, whether it’s an opportunity to sit quietly and meditate, to take a bath, catch up on errands or organizing, taking nap, or doing something you’ve wanted to do a long time.

When you’re in the energy of really appreciating you and who you are, take action to create some social opportunities if you like. Invite a few friends over for a potluck or coffee or movie night or something fun for some Saturday night. Chances are, other people are feeling the same way and would be delighted for the opportunity to hang out together and do something fun on a Saturday night.

 

WHY DO WE FEEL LONELY IN A CROWD?

13 Mar 2014 Leave a comment

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DEAR DALI MAMA:

Why do we feel alone and lonely in a crowd? 

–M.C. (India)

DEAR M.C.:

When you’re sensitive to energy, sometimes you could be picking up how other people are feeling. Sometimes, too, if you’re born with a spirit awareness of what it means to truly connect with others, individually or as a group, the physical experience of human connection may pale in comparison and feel less than satisfactory. Usually it is not necessarily because people don’t care about you, but most people are themselves learning how to truly connect with another, much less themselves.

Start by practicing a deep connection with yourself—your heart, your soul, your body, and your mind, and by loving all parts of you, and by validating yourself as “the party,” whether you’re on your own or hanging out with others. Also, keep validating the oneness of all. When you do this, you will feel less and less lonely in a crowd over time.

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