Ask Dali Mama

DEAR DALI MAMA:

Why do we feel alone and lonely in a crowd? 

–M.C. (India)

DEAR M.C.:

When you’re sensitive to energy, sometimes you could be picking up how other people are feeling. Sometimes, too, if you’re born with a spirit awareness of what it means to truly connect with others, individually or as a group, the physical experience of human connection may pale in comparison and feel less than satisfactory. Usually it is not necessarily because people don’t care about you, but most people are themselves learning how to truly connect with another, much less themselves.

Start by practicing a deep connection with yourself—your heart, your soul, your body, and your mind, and by loving all parts of you, and by validating yourself as “the party,” whether you’re on your own or hanging out with others. Also, keep validating the oneness of all. When you do this, you will feel less and less lonely in a crowd over time.