Ask Dali Mama

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I hate going to parties but feel bad if I skip them. My good friend’s big 50^th birthday party is coming up and I know there will be a huge crowd and I just can’t deal. Do I have to go?

–Outskirter (Canda)

DEAR OUTSKIRTER:

I think you don’t HAVE to do most things in life. If you are not comfortable at parties, perhaps you could instead take your friend to a quiet lunch together or make him/her lunch or dinner at your home. That way, you can celebrate this special birthday with your friend while not subjecting yourself to a large gathering in which you don’t feel comfortable.

If you do choose to go to the party, or any party or large gathering for that matter, one thing you can do is to help yourself manage the energy. Many sensitive people get overwhelmed with energy in large crowds. One thing you can do is to imagine putting large energetic roses on each side of you (and above you and below you) and to allow those roses to absorb all the energy that’s coming at you while allowing in only energies that you want in a more filtered, neutral form. And set the intention to go to any party for your optimal fun and enjoyment.

Play with that next time you go to a gathering or go out in public and see if that helps.

Whatever you choose to do, have fun!