I’ve had this same job for 18 years but now I feel so unmotivated. They pay is good and the people are nice but sometimes I just want to scream. I don’t know what else I’d do if I left though, or how I would pay the bills. Do you have any suggestions?

–Am I Lazy or What? (United States)


A very wise man and teacher, Michael Tamura, once told me that motivation doesn’t disappear. It just goes somewhere else.

Follow your motivation to wherever it has gone. What excites you? What would you love to do? Then start doing it, even as a hobby and see where it leads. You don’t have to quit your job for now. Just start exploring and follow your heart. It may lead you to some miracles.

Have fun cultivating your passion.

Note to readers: I apologize for my absence over the last few days. I thought I would have Internet access where I was but did not. I did, however, while I was “out,” get to experience a wonderful sweat lodge led by a beautiful healer and also meet a wonderful photographer, who I will be featuring in a future Sunday Share. Anyway, thanks for your patience and thanks for joining me. And as always, feel free to email a question of your own if you’d like to




Is it possible that there is a part of my soul that is wandering around in another body? I get the weird feeling that this is happening for me. Am I crazy?

–??? (United States)

Dear ???:

It is indeed possible. Sometimes pieces of your soul might be in other times or even in other bodies that are wandering around doing their own thing. A good example of soul efficiency and delegation, if you will. Sometimes you can get more done with two bodies/lives than with one.

So much is possible that the human cannot even begin to comprehend.

Trust your intuition.




What do you recommend for training dogs? I’m thinking about getting a dog but I’ve never had a dog before.

–Puppy Lover (United States)


Congratulations for thinking about this BEFORE getting a dog. How you set the tone and provide a good foundation for a long life together with your dog are essential.

Once you establish a relationship with your dog and train your dog properly, you might even want to consider getting a second dog if, for example, the dog would be alone during the daytime while you’re at work. That way, your dog would have a pal to hang out with while you’re gone.

First, research what kind of dog you want so you can pick a dog that is a good match for you. Some dogs need tons of exercise, which is great if you’re an avid hiker or walker but not so great if you aren’t, for example.

Next, check out Cesar Millan, the dog whisperer. He has a TV show and books and DVDs that you can learn a lot from to prepare for your dog.

Also, communicate with your dog’s spirit and be consistent and communicate in psychic pictures as much as possible in a vibration of love and certainty. You might want to also invite in the spirit of a dog who is a great match for you (and think about what that looks like for you) so the right dog can show up for you.

Wishing you a wonderful life with your dog, who is very lucky to be with someone like you.





I am 36 years old and have a new boyfriend after having been single for a few years. I find intercourse painful every time and wonder what suggestions you might have. I almost want to give up dating but maybe there is another way.

–Embarrassed (England)


Please continue dating. There is no reason this has to keep you from being in a relationship.

Keep communicating with your boyfriend. If he’s the one for you, he’ll understand and work through this with you.

First of all, talk to your doctor or health-care professional to ensure there’s not a physical issue that needs to be addressed. There are a number of possible medical causes for this, so talk to your doctor about possible causes and solutions.

If there are no particular medical conditions, start by experimenting with the following:

1)    Be sure to use condoms and practice safe sex.

2)    Engage in lots of foreplay and wait till you feel completely comfortable and turned on before penetration, and use plenty of lubricant.

3)    When you’re not sexually active and your hormone levels could be changing, it may help to keep everything nicely elastic on your own while you’re single. It’s generally easier to keep things maintained through regular sex (including with yourself even when you are not with a partner). However, you can still get your body used to accommodating something inside of you with yourself or with your partner, perhaps starting with something smaller like maybe a finger, then two, etc. Medical vaginal dilator kits are also available, and you can go up in size gradually, getting your body used to accommodating something inside of you until you can physically enjoy intercourse with your new boyfriend without discomfort.

On an energetic level, release any fear or blocks about intimacy and any energy that doesn’t serve you between you and your partner as well as any fears about being vulnerable or getting hurt. Then reset your sexual space to comfort and ease and pleasure.

Enjoy the journey!




Why do I always choose the wrong sort of women to date? I look back on my life and notice I always walked right past really nice and beautiful women but beelined towards the ones who would wreak havoc on my life. I am a decent looking guy with a good job and pretty smart except for when it comes to picking women. When I look back, I see that all the signs were there from the beginning but I was blind to them or something. What is wrong with me?

–Disgusted (Mexico)


There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s called being human. Ha ha. The good thing, though, is, even as a human, you don’t have to keep repeating the same patterns of the past.

We’re often drawn to those with have karma with—perhaps one of the lessons you’re learning as a spirit is learning how to make choices in relationships that are healthier for you and to learn more deeply about what love is.

The key thing is to develop awareness, which you’re already doing a good job of since you’re asking this question instead of choosing to blindly keep following the same patterns.

The next step is sitting down and meditating on why you are drawn to women who have a chaotic effect on your life. Do you feel you’re not worthy of being with someone who is nice to you (and pretty too since you mention that) and is a positive influence on your life? If so, validate your worth and your right to be with someone who is a positive influence in your life. Do you feel like being with someone who is a disruptive influence is more exciting than being with someone you can count on? If so, maybe you need to find another source of excitement in your life. Like bungee jumping or crocodile wrestling. Ha ha.  Do you choose people that are similar to a parent (or choose the opposite of a parent out of resistance to being with someone like one of your parents)? That’s fine if you want to do that but you can choose consciously. Or do you choose these women because you think you can help them or heal them in some way because you do not feel that just being and not working for love is enough in a relationship? If so, notice that instinct when you are getting to know someone and decide if that’s really what you want in a relationship.

Congratulations on opening up your awareness so you can make choices that support and honor you.

Wishing you much love.




Sometimes when I wake up in the morning, I’m still so exhausted. Do you know why I’m so tired even after sleeping enough?

–Sleepy in Seattle (United States)



If you’ve addressed the standard possibilities (having blinking or other lights in your sleeping area, electronics near your bed, caffeine or alcohol disrupting sleep, or sleep apnea), try setting the intention to have a restful night’s before you go to bed and calling your energy back to you in divine form from the astral when you wake up. A lot of times when we’re working hard on the astral, we may forget to call all our energy back from the astral, which can help your energy levels a lot.

See for more information on potential sleep disrupters.




My psychic gifts are quite developed and I find I can know a lot about a situation or a person through using them. I can ask particular questions and then see psychic pictures about people that tell me what’s going on or I see and feel an energy I read that gives me the same result. I also can contact the spirit of people and ask them questions. Sometimes someone’s talking about their friend for example and I get images of what that friend feels or thinks. Do I pass that on?

But I am equally very aware that you can accumulate bad karma by misusing your psychic abilities. And as that’s not working for the light obviously it is not somewhere I want to go….When would it be considered as misuse by the Universe/God to use your gifts? Where do you draw the line?

Also how do you shut down your gifts when you want time out?

–J.P. (New Zealand)



That is wonderful you are developing your gifts as well as contemplating how to use them in a positive way.

As far as getting psychic hits when someone’s talking about their friends, it’s not always helpful to pass them on. Look at the energy case by case of whether or not it is appropriate, helpful, or even wanted in each situation. Even when you’re accurate, some people do not want to know. Especially when you are accurate! Ha ha.

And that is an important question about what it means to use your gifts for good. Generally, I would say never use your psychic abilities to manipulate or control others. Also, never spy on anyone psychically. Those are the kinds of things that generally create the kind of karma you don’t want.

The intention is the most important. If someone is missing and thought to be in danger and you’re trying to help them, it’s okay to check in psychically if you have permission on a spirit level from them and maybe their family has asked you to help find them. If, however, you’re simply curious about what someone you like (or don’t like) is doing, doing remote viewing or psychic surveillance on them is not good psychic etiquette. If you have any doubts that anything you’re thinking of doing is okay, don’t do it.

As someone that works as an intuitive and healer, I always turn down my psychic space, including turning down my sixth chakra, when I am not in session by consciously setting that intention when I am done with each session. I find that I have more than enough to look at in myself rather than paying attention to all the energies around me when I am not in session.

Don’t worry that you will miss any hits you need necessary for your survival—if you stay grounded in yourself, you will know anything you need to know, like maybe you forgot to turn off the stove or you need to call your mom.

Have fun with this! Congratulations on really delving into how to best use your gifts for the light.

Note: Readers, I invite you to send in your own questions. You may email them to or write them in the comments section.






DEAR DALI MAMA: I have seen animal communicators on TV. How do I communicate better with my dog?

–Not Versed in Doggie Language (Canada)


Start practicing and do it all the time. You’ll get better over time and your dog will surely appreciate the effort. Trust the hits you get as far as communication your dog gives you.

Also, with dogs, it’s important to communicate from your heart and from the fourth chakra (center of the chest near the physical heart) as well as the fifth chakra (which is located in the throat). Also, practice communicating with mental pictures, not just with words. For example, if you’re trying to communicate to your dog you will be out of town for three nights and the dogsitter will come to the house, transmit from your mind a visual picture of you leaving with a suitcase, the dogsitter coming to the house and staying there, with the sun and moon for three cycles, then you driving up to the house and coming in and petting your dog.

Most importantly, have fun and enjoy the love vibration of communicating with your dog. Dogs are experts on love!

Note: Readers, I invite you to send in your own questions. You may email them to or write them in the comments section.


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