ANY ADVICE FOR A WOMAN WHOSE SEX LIFE WITH A MAN HAS STARTED TO PETER OUT?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I have been dating this guy for a year and things were going really well in bed but lately things have started to peter out. No joke. I felt like we have good chemistry but am concerned about this turn of events. Do you have any advice?

–Frustrated woman (United States)

DEAR FRUSTRATED:

You might want to have a candid conversation with him. Perhaps neutrally say you loved how you connected sexually before but that you notice the energy feels different and ask him what’s going on. Hopefully he will share his thoughts with you. If there’s nothing physical (medications, a health conditions that needs to be investigated, etc.) or emotional (stress or worry at work, for example), it could be that you two can actively spice things up between you.

Sometimes, too, when men haven’t fully cleared their mother’s energy from their energetic space, once they get deeper into a relationship and the novelty between you has worn off, once he starts to hit that female creative energy in you that he experienced in utero within his mother’s body, sometimes that has quite a dampening effect on the man’s sexual energy. It’s kind of the psychic equivalent about thinking about one’s mom during sex, which just doesn’t do it for most guys unless their name is Oedipus. For most men, it’s the ultimate anti-Viagra.

Some men will subconsciously think it’s the woman’s fault or they get bored and chase the next fresh woman with different sex energy, only to discover they once again fell into the same energetic rut no matter how wonderful the woman is if they haven’t worked through letting go of their mother’s energy from their space and reclaiming their own energy.

In any case, I wish you much good sex.

1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. John
    Jun 05, 2014 @ 11:30:57

    Wow! This one resonates with me. Thank you for this question and answer.

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