People always tell me I am creative but I don’t see that at all. I work at a bank as a teller and do nothing creative. I’ve never been good at art or music or writing or anything creative. What’s the deal? I get so irritated when people tell me I’m creative. What does that mean?

–Frustrated non-poet, non-artist, non-creative person (Canada)


Well, maybe you’re creating proof you’re not creative, which would be very creative of you! Ha ha.

Bank tellers can be very creative, just as much as anyone else. Maybe some just tend to use their creative energy differently at work or on their own time.

Maybe you get irritated because there’s truth to the statement that people keep telling you. If someone went up to you and told you that you have purple hair, would you get mad? I’m guessing not. Because you know it’s not true and there’s no energy around that statement either way. Now, as far as being creative….

I believe that every single one of us is creative in some way. It’s up to each of us to find out what that means for us. What do you love to do? Start by playing—play with media you don’t normally do. Go to one of those shops where you show up and paint yourself a mug, for example. Doodle in the sandbox. Get one of those zen drawing tablets. Don’t be attached to the outcome. Just do it with the sole goal of having a great time—of playing. Then see what happens. Try the exercises in Practice of Poetry by Robin Behn or Julia Cameron’s book, The Artist’s Way. Make art everywhere—create sculptures with your spaghetti or oatmeal or anything you eat. Create outrageous and delicious combinations of smoothies tomorrow morning. Doesn’t matter if it’s good or not–look at it as an experiment you can enjoy and modify over time. Draw designs on your stomach with chocolate sauce. Play! Have fun! See what else you can create while having a blast.



I don’t know how to cook but a potential boyfriend is coming over and I’d really like to make something special for him.

–Newbie (United States)


Since you’re just learning, start with something simple and delicious. Maybe a nice hearty soup. You can do vegetable or chicken broth (I love the Better Than Bouillon brand, which has veggie broth, mushroom broth, chicken broth, and other flavors), boil the broth and throw some refrigerated tortellini in with some nice veggies (maybe carrots and spinach) and boil it for the time recommended on the packaging. Maybe get some packaged salad from the grocery store and a bottle of salad dressing, some delicious bread, and some fresh fruit or frozen sorbet or gelato. Then it’ll be delicious and easy.

Don’t stress too much about the food. If he’s the right guy for you, he’ll the most delicious part of the meal is the the effort and the intention behind the meal.

Put lots of love in the soup as you’re stirring it. That’ll make it taste even better!

Bon appetit!

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