HOW DO I STOP OVERSPENDING?

14 Jan 2015 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Money Tags: , , , , , , , , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I have a problem with my spending. I am in debt but cannot seem to stop. I buy things in stores and online that’s I don’t really need and even have multiples of (how many little black dresses does one girl need?) but I am reaching a critical point here. What can I do?

–Digging Myself a Big Hole (United States)

DEAR DIGGING:

You’re starting with the most important thing you can do—asking yourself what you can do!

First, take some time to think about why you’re buying things. What hole in your life are you trying to fill with stuff (physical stuff as well as the distraction and busy-ness of acquiring more things).

Intuitively, I believe you’re an extremely creative person. Are you using your creativity to do what you love (drawing, painting, knitting, sculpting, etc.) or are you diverting your creative energy into creating debt. Keep in mind that as much as you’re able to create debt, that’s how amazingly you can create something else when you direct your energy towards that.

Also, take some time to think about whether you’re distracting yourself from thinking about or looking at other areas in your life. Are you in a relationship that is draining you, for example? If so, are you trying to distract yourself from dealing with the issues in the relationship with shopping?

I applaud your courage in looking at this issue that affects many people. Congratulations on taking the first step towards creating prosperity in your life.

DEALING WITH STRONG EMOTIONS

25 Feb 2014 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Uncategorized Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I have such deep emotions, and I don’t know what to do with them.  Most of my daily existence is tinged with an undercurrent of sadness, and then sometimes I do things out of rage that I later regret deeply.  How can I deal with these strong emotions?

–S.R. (United States)

 

DEAR S.R.:

It’s great you’re allowing yourself to feel these intense emotions. During the current intense energies, many are turning to drink, drugs, constant mindless entertainment, and other distractions to try to escape from these intense energies, but that doesn’t ultimately help us make productive changes for the long run.

First of all, know that you are not alone. So many people on the planet have been feeling these huge energy shifts, one after another. Sometimes we can feel like we’re drowning in a tsunami and feeling like we’re finally coming up for air when we get hit with another big wave. Astrologically, we’re working up to a Grand Cross, and things will continue to get more intense, particularly over the next couple months. What’s happening on an energetic level is we’re being pushed to align our lives with our authentic selves, and something’s got to give. We’re also in the process of releasing a lot of old energies that no longer serve us, from this life and from way before this lifetime even.

Second, when you allow yourself to feel the grief and release it, you might notice that, as you release each layer of grief, you may find layers of anger underneath. Also notice how you can change your life little by little to create more peace, more joy, and more fulfillment.

Sometimes we settle into a way of living that doesn’t really fit who we are as spirit, with pressures from others as well as pressures that we put on ourselves because we think that’s how we’re supposed to live. I’m sensing this is an opportunity for you to take stock of how you’re living, really examine what parts work and don’t work, and start to make gradual changes to build a life that really fits you, with the help of counselling.

Another thing you might want to do is to channel these intense feelings you’re experiencing into some sort of creative expression—painting, sculpture, dance, or music. Really allow yourself to feel and experience these emotions and transmute them through a medium that resonates for you.

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