HOW DO I COPE WITH FRIENDSHIPS FADING AWAY?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

It seems that all my friendships are fading away or already have. It seems that they all move on to other things, or to other friends.

I am a very loyal friend, and even when I am trying to reach out, they are all too busy! I am busy also with work and kids but I always have time for friends, and I feel very lonely and empty if I don’t have a people connection. Please advise.

–Lonely

DEAR L.:

You’re not alone in this feeling. As one moves through life, sometimes waves of friendships or relationships pass through due to life changes (friends may move away or get busy with their kids or work or other things or may simply drift away). Sometimes, too, friends may be feeling depressed and unable to deal with anything other than the bare necessities and can’t cope with anything else.

Friendships require maintenance and fortunately it sounds like you’re a loyal friend who knows what it takes to maintain and build friendships.

Sometimes, too, as you shift and grow, friends may fall away for a while or longer. Keep doing what you need to do for yourself to feel good. Exercise, eat right, and maybe join some classes or some clubs around your interests (painting or hiking or whatever makes you happy). Some of your old friends may catch up with you eventually and some may not. In any case, validate the fun you had together and create energetic space for wonderful friendships (new as well as old) that align with your true self.

See yourself as “the party” and do things for yourself and have a great time on your own. Go to your favorite café and have a cup of your favorite coffee while reading a great book or journaling and validate what a great time you’re having all on your own. Doing so will attract others into your life who want to join the party.

This can be a process and may take time, but use this as an opportunity to really learn to enjoy and love yourself and your own company! Have fun, my friend.

WHY ARE MANY OF MY FRIENDS DISAPPEARING FROM MY LIFE?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

Over the last few years, somehow I’ve lost a lot of friends I’ve had for decades. They haven’t died or anything. They’ve just disappeared from my life, even the ones that said we’d be friends forever.  Some of them have disappeared without a word or explanation. What is going on?

–Confused (Brazil)

DEAR CONFUSED:

This has been an intense time on the planet, with the vibrations of the planet and of everyone on the planet shifting immensely, causing instability in societal templates and structures such as in our economic system, government, religious institutions, and elsewhere. Accordingly, we’re feeling those shifts in our relationships as well.

If you’ve asked them if anything’s wrong and they refuse to communicate, the best thing you can do might be just to let them be wherever they’re at. Keep on your path and do what you need to do in your divine vibration.

Some people you think you have lost might catch up with you later down the road. Some people maybe just had to go their own way as you go yours in order for everyone to experience the growth and lessons they came to learn in this lifetime. Sometimes we need some space and time away from our familiar loved ones in order for us to gain a new perspective and growth in a different direction before we come back together again. Sometimes, too, maybe you have finished up your karma with someone and it’s time to move on.

In every case, just validate and appreciate the time you had together and create space for each of you to be on your true paths, wherever that might lead. Create space too for you to reconnect with the ones you’re meant to reconnect with and to let go of the ones with whom you’ve completed your time together, creating space for new people you are meant to connect with to come into your lives in divine timing.

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