IS YOUR PARENTS’ BLESSING IMPORTANT FOR A MARRIAGE?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I’ve been dating this fellow for a few years but my parents don’t like him at all. They say he’s just not right for me but I think it’s because he’s blue collar and I am a white-collar professional woman who does pretty well financially and because he doesn’t have a lot of money. Do you think it’s important to have your parents’ blessing before marrying?

–Uncertain (United States)

DEAR UNCERTAIN:

Well, it’s always a gift to have your parents’ blessing for your marriage. Some marriage ceremonies even ask the family and friends to pledge their support of the couple.  It’s not essential, however.

Have you asked your parents why they don’t like him? Is it because he simply doesn’t fit the picture of whom they think you should be with? Or is there another reason? Ask them, hear what they have to say, and consider it with an open mind but let your inner knowingness make the final decision.

More important than your parents’ blessing is your own happiness. Since you’ve been with this man for a while, I’m guessing his “collar” status or income isn’t that important to you, especially since you’re bringing in enough money. So as long as he makes an effort to contribute and is not frivolous with the finances or is not energetically mooching off of you, it’s probably not an important factor as long as it doesn’t matter to you.

At the end of the day, when you are both at home alone in those quiet moments on the couch or at the dinner table or in the garden or in bed, are YOU happy? If you are, that’s what matters the most. Even if someone had a platinum collar, it still couldn’t buy your happiness if he is just not the right match for you.

WHY ARE MANY OF MY FRIENDS DISAPPEARING FROM MY LIFE?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

Over the last few years, somehow I’ve lost a lot of friends I’ve had for decades. They haven’t died or anything. They’ve just disappeared from my life, even the ones that said we’d be friends forever.  Some of them have disappeared without a word or explanation. What is going on?

–Confused (Brazil)

DEAR CONFUSED:

This has been an intense time on the planet, with the vibrations of the planet and of everyone on the planet shifting immensely, causing instability in societal templates and structures such as in our economic system, government, religious institutions, and elsewhere. Accordingly, we’re feeling those shifts in our relationships as well.

If you’ve asked them if anything’s wrong and they refuse to communicate, the best thing you can do might be just to let them be wherever they’re at. Keep on your path and do what you need to do in your divine vibration.

Some people you think you have lost might catch up with you later down the road. Some people maybe just had to go their own way as you go yours in order for everyone to experience the growth and lessons they came to learn in this lifetime. Sometimes we need some space and time away from our familiar loved ones in order for us to gain a new perspective and growth in a different direction before we come back together again. Sometimes, too, maybe you have finished up your karma with someone and it’s time to move on.

In every case, just validate and appreciate the time you had together and create space for each of you to be on your true paths, wherever that might lead. Create space too for you to reconnect with the ones you’re meant to reconnect with and to let go of the ones with whom you’ve completed your time together, creating space for new people you are meant to connect with to come into your lives in divine timing.

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