Ask Dali Mama

DEAR DALI MAMA: 

I am a very sensitive person. When I’m around family or friends or even people I don’t know very well, I often feel what they’re feeling. When they’re not feeling happy, I start feeling anxious, like maybe it’s my fault or that I did something or said something to make them feel that way. Do you have any advice for me?

–Easily Anxious (United States)

DEAR EASILY ANXIOUS:

You’re not alone. That is very common for sensitive people.

I suggest you start training yourself to focus on how you feel. This is hard for sensitive people, particularly for clairsentients who can often feel in their body how others are feeling.

Also, keep in mind that people often have feelings (insecurity, invalidation, anger, pain, etc.) that have nothing to do with you. Give them space to feel whatever they’re feeling and just pay attention to how you feel and do whatever you need to in order to keep your spirits up. This will model behavior that will ultimately help others as well.

I wish you much ease.

DEAR DALI MAMA: 

I feel like I have the worst luck in the world. Is it possible I am cursed?

–Psyching Myself Out (United States)

DEAR PSYCHING MYSELF OUT:

Sometimes we can experience a difficult thing and we start to dread and resist similar difficulties, which can actually attract more of the same. The more we dread something, the more we can create something. And the more we create difficult situations, the more we can come to believe that is our norm.

I suggest you play with creating positive expectations and create structures to bring in positive events and people into your life. For example, when you wake up in the morning, imagine something fun happening. Or when you meet someone new, smile and expect the best, even if it’s a one-second loving spirit connection with a fellow human being. Try this and notice and positive changes that you see over time.

DEAR DALI MAMA: 

Sometimes I date different men and get really turned off by the smell of some of them but it’s not even like they have body odor. What is the cause of this?

–Sensitive Smeller (Brazil)

DEAR SS:

You are likely responding to the pheromones of the men. If they’re not a good biochemical match for you, their pheromones won’t smell good to you. You’re right—it does not have anything to do with body odor. They’re likely just not the right match for you.

The other possibility is that you’re someone that smells energy. Some people see energy or feel energy. Some people know stuff or hear psychic messages. And some people can smell energy. They might smell someone whose energy is coming around them. For example, maybe they’d smell their grandmother’s perfume when their grandmother’s spirit comes to visit them. They might smell lovely smells when lovely energy comes around. Or they might smell disagreeable odors when energy they don’t resonate with is around.

Or it might be a combination of pheromones and smelling energy. Play with this and see which it is for you. And trust yourself. Your nose knows. Ha ha.

DEAR DALI MAMA:
Lately I’ve been so tired and don’t feel like doing anything. What should I do?

–Listless (United States)

DEAR LISTLESS:
Give yourself a little time to feel this way but be sure to eat healthily and at least go for a short leisurely walk each day. Also, try to avoid excess processed foods and sugar as this can cause feelings of tiredness.

If it continues for more than a couple weeks, see your doctor and also a counselor. You could be experiencing depression.

Sometimes, though, we need a little time every now and again to do nothing and to go within. This may look like depression from an outside perspective, but what is sometimes happening is that we are disengaging from the outside world in order to let go of old templates and mine the best parts of ourselves from the inside out.

Wishing you the best.