HOW DOES ONE COME OUT OF DEPRESSION AND START FEELING JOYOUS?

16 Jan 2018 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Uncategorized Tags: , , , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

Right now I feel there is no meaning to my existing on this planet. I realise I am suffering from depression. I’d rather not take medication but bring myself out of it. How can you come out of it and start feeling joyous about life again, despite your external circumstances?

—Depressed (Sweden)

 

DEAR D.:

First of all, if you feel depressed to the point of feeling like you seriously want to end things, please call emergency services or your doctor right away. Although I myself am not a big fan of certain medications, in extreme circumstances, we may need it till things balance themselves out to a safe level.

You can’t always change your external circumstances right away, but you can change the way you respond to those circumstances and you can train yourself to have more joy and gratitude. Start noticing all the small things you have to feel joyful about—a rainbow in the sky, the color of the blooms of a flower you walk by, or having your dog lick you, for example. The more you start to notice how many little things you have to feel joyous about, the more you will notice the blessings big and small in your life, and the more you may even attract more blessings.

You may even want to start volunteering for a cause you believe in. For example, if you love animals, there are tons of animals at humane societies that need some attention or walking or petting. Perhaps you are the one who can start giving more meaning to your existence. Your being on the planet is in itself a huge miracle and gift, but you can use your time and energy to add even more meaning and contribute to the world being a better place in any way you choose.

Thank you, my friend. Wishing you much joy.

WHAT DO YOU DO WITH ANGER?

03 Jan 2018 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Love & Relationships, Uncategorized Tags: , , , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I am fuming at a loved one. I can’t seem to shift my anger. I’m trying to learn the lessons from the situation, which seems to repeat itself over and over again because of this person’s behaviour towards me. What do you do with anger?

—Angry (New Zealand)

DEAR A.:

There’s nothing inherently wrong with anger. Anger can be a signal where your boundaries aren’t being honored or there’s something you need to look at, even if it’s an energetic match with whatever is triggering you. For example, if someone is being disrespectful towards you or dismissive of you, are they mirroring the ways or energies in which you don’t entirely value or respect yourself?

People do unpleasant things sometimes and less-than-ideal situations will occur. You can’t always avoid that, but you can change your own reactions to their behavior.

So thank your anger for pointing out where it’s time for you to look at something more closely, then let it go and don’t get stuck in it. Then you can transform that energy into gratitude towards yourself for changing the way you handle certain situations.

WHAT DO YOU SUGGEST DOING AT THE END OF A YEAR/BEGINNING OF A NEW YEAR?

22 Dec 2014 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Uncategorized Tags: , , , , , , , , , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

Is there anything you suggest to do at the end of a year or beginning of a new year?

–PREPARING TO RING IN THE NEW (UNITED STATES)

DEAR PREPARING:

I like to do a few things to say goodbye to a year and bring in a new one.

  • I think about the wonderful things that happened during the past year and also reflect on any lessons I’ve learned and how I can make the most of what I learned moving forward. I also give thanks for the past year as well as for everything else that I’ve experienced.
  • I get rid of anything I no longer need. For example, tax papers I kept for the prescribed three years that I can no shred; manuals for appliances that broke or that I no longer own; clothes that I haven’t worn for the last year or anything else I own that I haven’t used for a year; or tokens and gifts from old beaux.
  • I envision what I’d like to create during the next year and write everything down as a first step to my intentions concrete.

Play with this and see what you come up with. Have fun and happy new year. May this next year bring you all many blessings.

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