My son gets bullied a lot at school. He’s short for his age. Maybe that’s why he gets picked on. How can I help him?

–Concerned father (United States)


Start by talking to him and making a plan with him and any other family members, taking into account of your son’s input and feelings. Ultimately, you will have to do what you think best as as parent and adult, but do listen to him and make sure he feels heard and incorporate any of his ideas and suggestions that are feasible. Then talk to his teacher and possibly the principal to make sure they know what is going on and agree on a plan to resolve and monitor this situation.

Another thing you might want to do is find something that helps him develop confidence as well as social skills in group settings.

You might want to consider something like either a children’s tai chi or qi gong class (or even some places offer father-son or family classes). This is something that will help him develop confidence and will help him practice allowing his body to let the energy flow and also help him learn neutrality and ease in a peaceful energy. When he is confident and not resisting the energy of bullying, the other kids will start to leave him alone more.

Also, keep the lines of communication open with him and his teachers and principal to monitor the situation while giving him space to learn how to handle himself (keeping a watchful eye from afar) and validating his inner strength and power. Don’t treat him like he is helpless or weak or a victim, as that gives more energy to those pictures. Do what you need to to ensure his safety and well-being while validating his spirit, which is strong and whole.



What are some really good ways to strengthen our energy bodies?

–T.A. (England)

Dear T.A.:

Strengthening your energy body is just as important as maintaining your physical body. There are many components of the energy body and many ways, but some basics for starters include grounding, running your energy, and doing things that help strengthen and integrate your physical and energy bodies (yoga, tai chi and qi gong, acupuncture, as just a few examples). (If you want some free meditations on how to ground and run your energy, please email to request the free recordings and I will send them to you.)

Also, it’s very important to exercise your physical body as well. Some people that are interested in energy can sometimes focus all of their attention on their spirit or their energy bodies without providing proper exercise and movement for their physical bodies, but physical movement and care of the physical body (healthy nutrients and foods) are very important to the energy body as well.

Likewise, training your energy body can help with physical health and performance. That’s why it helps for athletes to imagine their energetic kinesthetic bodies training or going through a dance routine, or why it helps musicians if they practice on an “air piano” even when they’re not on a real piano, or why it helps someone who has been in an accident if they can imagine their bodies moving, practicing moving their energy bodies even when they cannot yet move their physical bodies. We are, after all, spirits in a physical plane.

Thanks for asking this important question.

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