I am an engineer but have been unemployed. I got offered a great job but it is in a different state where I know no one. It is difficult for me to make friends but I finally know a lot of nice folks in my current city. What do you recommend?

–Looking to Get Back on the Gravy Train (United States)


If the job you have been offered is good and you’ve been looking for a long time and the town you’d move to seems livable, don’t let the fear of not being able to meet people stop you from taking the job.

You managed to get to know lots of nice folks where you live now so you can do it again in your new home. Plus you’ll still be able to keep in touch easily with your current friends, thanks to the Internet and reasonably priced airfare.

If you do take the job, start looking into clubs or organizations in the new location. Check into places such as, where you can hook up with people with similar interests and have the opportunity to meet new friends.

Congratulations on this new opportunity.




At this point in life I have a weak resume, no real connections and all I’ve done for the past eight years is send out resumes to nonprofits, which I’d eventually like to work in, to no avail. My plan B has always been to just work for a college but it ALL seems so ho-hum. Do you have any suggestions as far as bringing something about easily–I’m pretty tired of trying to figure it out and going that route just makes everything seem hard and a little pointless. Am I apathetic or what?

–Ann (United States)


I understand the challenges of seeking work during this time in the United States. Don’t just send out resumes as many jobs are not actually filled solely through the standard resume route. Only target places you really want to work for. Find a place that does work you’re passionate about and, if you can, volunteer a couple hours a week so they can get to know you.

Another target maybe five top places with causes that you want to champion and call the person who is in charge of the area you are most interested in and talk to them. Tell them your skills, your experience, ask how you can help, and ask if they can meet with you or at least have a chat about how you can get in at their organization. It doesn’t hurt to ask.

Once they know you and what you’re capable of, they’d be smart to hire you. Even if nothing is available at the time, leave your contact info and keep in touch periodically (maybe a postcard every month or something) and keep yourself in the forefront of their minds so hopefully they’ll contact you when an opening does come up.

Finally, reset the energy of your job search. Go in and HAVE the job you want in the powerful energy that is divinely yours. Don’t go in with the energy of needing a job, like they’d be doing you a favor to hire you, or like a beggar asking for a handout. HAVE the energy of your dream job first, then go in, offering and allowing them the honor and gift of you working for their organization. Once you do this, the energy will start to build.

As far as apathy, apathy is a form of resistance, and resistance can create walls between you and what you’re trying to create. So have enthusiasm and fun in your job search. The human resource people will sense that, even when they’re just looking at your resume.

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