06 Jul 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, bridges, dali mama, detroit, fine art, hollywood, nature, photography, spiritual advice column, steve tracy
I’m excited to introduce you to Steve Tracy’s photography. He covers subjects from the entertainment industry in Hollywood to nature, architecture, Detroit, and even the moon. This artist has a gift for capturing the truest essence of his subjects, whether the subject is a building, a bridge, a horse, or a band.
You can view his work at both of these websites:
https://www.flickr.com/photos/stevetracy/
or
Steve Tracy – Fine Art
You can even purchase prints, cards, or phone cases with his work through his website. Please enjoy.
05 Jul 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, instant attraction, instant hate, instant like, instant love, karma, past life, past lives, spirit recognition, spiritual advice column, teachings
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Why do I meet people sometimes and I either love them or hate them right away?
–Wondering (New Zealand)
DEAR WONDERING:
You’re probably responding to a spirit recognition of someone that you’ve known from a past life. When you instantly hate someone upon meeting them, you’re probably responding to a challenging past life with them, perhaps one in which they did something awful to you.
When you instantly love them, you’re probably responding to a really pleasant past-life experience with that person. Although of course there is often a combination of delightful and challenging experiences we’ve had with people within various past lives. Keep in mind we’ve all done horrible things and wonderful things as part of our learning process.
When you respond with instant clothes-ripping lust for someone, you probably have some major lessons to learn with each other in this lifetime.
Whether you hate them or love them upon meeting them, it’s a sign you have growth you can do together. Sometimes the ones we “hate” instantly can be the ones here to teach us what we most need to learn AND that we have the most resistance to learning. But they are often the ones who can gift us the most valuable gifts of learning.
04 Jul 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, attracting what you want, dali mama, language, not having money, poor, power of language, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I never have any money and things never work out for me. What should I do?
–Poor and not liking it (United States)
DEAR PROSPEROUS:
For starters, you might want to consider changing your language around your situation. Language is a powerful thing and you are a powerful person. Use your words to create a foundation for the wealth and life you wish for. For example, maybe you could say to yourself, “I have everything I need in this moment and am creating even more now.” This alone will start to change your ways of thinking and will start to attract more opportunities and positive people and situations into your life.
Enjoy the process.
03 Jul 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, family finances, family vacation, finances, home trades, low-cost vacations, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
My family and I are a little short financially these days. Not dangerously so, but things are a bit tight. My husband wants us to skip our annual summer vacation this year because of our finances but I think it’s important to maintain our yearly ritual of a family trip for our kids’ memories. What do you think?
–Wanting to Create Memories (United States)
DEAR WANTING:
You and your husband both have valid concerns. Is there any way you both can compromise and either take a shorter or less expensive this year so you can create memories for the family as well as having room to breathe financially? Or maybe you can create your own crazy-fun family ritual at home or camping nearby.
There are many free or low-cost ways to have fun and create family memories. You can also look into one of those sites where you can trade homes with other families online, so you can save on housing costs.
Have fun creating your own unique vacation that works for all of your needs.
02 Jul 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, being a good daughter, being a good friend, dali mama, spiritual advice column, taking care of self vs. being there for others
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I’m torn. I have a rare opportunity for work on the same day of this funeral for one of the closest friends of my parents and I am also one of oldest friends of the daughter of man who passed. I haven’t had much work lately and there’s an audition at the exact same time of the funeral. If I skip the funeral, though, I feel like a bad person and like I’m not there for my friends or my parents. What should I do?
–Torn (Canada)
DEAR TORN:
I understand your dilemma. Could you possibly go to visit with your friend and your parents later in the day after the funeral is over. Or the next day? During the actual funeral, your friend and your parents will be surrounding by other people grieving and they probably will need you even more after the busy-ness of the ceremony is over and the grief and the silence and the loss are really sinking in.
Funerals are ultimately for those who are left, not for the deceased. This man’s spirit will understand and know your love whether you go to the funeral or not. And there are other ways you can minister to and be there for your friend and your parents. Consider giving yourself permission to take care of yourself first, particularly as work has been sparse, and to be there for others the best as you can after you’ve done what you need to do to support yourself.
01 Jul 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, changing your life, dali mama, priorities, spiritual advice column, sudden death, wake-up call
DEAR DALI MAMA:
All these weird things have been happening to everyone I know right now. One person had this weird health scare. Another got in an accident. One friend who was only forty-something died in the middle of the night, no warning. And another guy’s wife suddenly up and left him. And on and on. I’m feeling paranoid. Am I next? What’s happening?
–Paranoid (Brazil)
DEAR PARANOID:
This is kind of a crazy time on the planet. Sometimes when these unexpected events happen (health scares, divorce, accidents), it’s a wake-up call to step up and be who you are and live your life according to what’s really important to you. So what is really important to you and are you living you life in accordance to your true priorities?
No need to worry. Just because someone chooses to have a wake-up call in a dramatic way doesn’t necessarily mean you have to do it the same way. Just make the changes you need to and live your life fully awake so you don’t need a wake-up call.
30 Jun 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, income, income discrepancy, intuition, man makes less than woman, self-worth, spiritual advice column, woman makes more than man, worry
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am a 42-year-old and I have been dating a 36-year-old man for some time. The only problem is that I make a lot more than he does. I do great financially and I could even support us both, but I feel a little uneasy about this. Your thoughts?
–Wary (United States)
DEAR WARY:
If you could support both of you, are you wary because you’re worried about being taken advantage of? Or are you worried because the two of you don’t fit the typical American cookie-cutter template of the man making more than the woman and supporting the woman? Or are you wary because you feel like your guy is using you for your money? Or that maybe you’re not enough as you are and that you’re worried he’s with you for financial security? Or is your intuition, your higher self, pointing to something you need to pay attention to?
Notice what it is exactly that is bothering you about the situation. Let go of any fears that are not reality-based nor actually pertinent to your true happiness. Then let go of other people’s ideas of how you should live your life and notice what is left after you’ve moved out these fears and other energies. If you’re still wary, enjoy yourself and also laugh as you take a closer look at the dynamics of what is actually causing you to worry.
28 Jun 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, hate talking on the phone, spiritual advice column, telemarketer
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am a telemarketer and I have gotten so I just can’t stand to be on the phone, even with my family and friends. What should I do?
–All talked out (United States)
DEAR ALL TALKED OUT:
I think it’s time to look for another job, my friend. Perhaps you would be happier even doing a job more suited to an introvert, at least for a while. Or a job where you’re not constantly on the phone or trying to sell things. Maybe you could ask your friends to humor you for a while and text you instead or calling for now as well, just to give you a vacation from being on the phone much.
Also release any resistance to talking on the phone and also anybody’s resistance to talking to you on the phone that you’re still carrying energetically.
Good luck, my friend.
26 Jun 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, nobody likes one guy’s girlfriend, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
One of my buddies has a girlfriend who is a total witch. All of us guys used to hang out all the time and sometimes all our girls would come but we don’t really do that much anymore before of this one awful hag. Nobody can stand to be around her and so we just don’t get together as much. Can I ask him not to bring her anymore?
–Fed up (United States)
DEAR FED UP:
You can ask him but you will risk alienating him as a friend. Is there something in particular his girlfriend is doing that you find so objectionable? Is there a way you can bring it up with her directly in a gentle, nonconfrontational, respectful way? Or could you speak to your friend about this issue in a gentle, nonconfrontational, respectful way (to him and to her) and see if he can mention it to her? This could bring up some tension between you and your buddy but if you guys are truly friends, being honest yet compassionate and respectful (to him as well as to her) is always the best, I believe. In other words, “Your girlfriend is a witch and we all hate her” will probably not go over well at all.
You might also want to notice what it is exactly about his girlfriend that rubs you the wrong way and give her a spirit thank you for bringing up whatever energy this is for you to look at and learn from.
25 Jun 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, combining households, dali mama, getting rid of stuff from exes, moving in with girlfriend, spendthrift, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
My girlfriend is moving in with me and she wants me to get rid of anything that any of my exes have ever given me, including my ex-wife. I don’t want to do this, nor do I think it’s necessary. I also think doing so would be a big waste of money. What do you think?
–Spendthrift and Proud of It (United States)
DEAR SPENDTHRIFT:
Well, it’s up to you to decide which is worth more—saving some money on not replacing things or setting up your new life with your girlfriend on a positive note. There should probably be some compromise on both your parts.
Maybe there are a few momentos from previous relationships that you treasure, in which case you should not have to give them all up. But you also don’t want to leave a huge portrait of you and your ex hanging above the dining-room table. I’m kidding but you get my drift. Perhaps you could tuck some sentimental things away in a place where only you can access them like in your man cave if you have one if they’re really important to you. Even better, perhaps you could store a small box at a friend’s or in storage so the house is energetically just for you and your girlfriend.
One thing you might want to consider as you decide what to keep and what to donate/sell/give away, though, is how satisfying it can be to get rid of the old to make space for the new. It really helps to clear the space energetically when you get rid of unnecessary memorabilia of the past.
Since it sounds like you’re combining households, your girlfriend likely has things to replace some of what you’d be getting rid of, so think of yourself as gaining a bunch of stuff for free to make up for or even surpass the value of the things you’d be getting rid of.
Some things I’d consider getting rid of for sure. For example, if your girlfriend wants you to get rid of your bed because she doesn’t want to start your new life together sleeping on a bed you’ve slept with other women on, get rid of the bed. It’s worth the money you’d spend on a new mattress and bed.
24 Jun 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, anti-social wife, ask dali mama, dali mama, judging, modeling positive behavior, parenting, social life for daughter, socializing, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
My wife and I have a young daughter. My wife is kind of anti-social and always has a reason for not liking or hanging out with everyone: She’s too talkative or he chews too loud or she’s too slutty or whatever other bogus excuse to exclude people. Now that my daughter’s getting ready to go to school, I worry about this affecting her. Will she not be able to play with people because something’s not good enough about the other kids or the other kids’ moms? How should I handle this?
–Worried Dad (Australia)
DEAR WORRIED DAD:
Good awareness of noticing these dynamics. Your wife is modeling behavior to your daughter of judging people and pushing them away. Perhaps you can model a different kind of behavior: a more social, positive kind of behavior of both appreciation the qualities of different people and also giving each person space to be exactly who they are. Perhaps you could also organize some small play dates with other parents and maybe even have a party at some point (maybe for your daughter’s birthday), inviting all of the kids from her class along with their parents for a potluck.
23 Jun 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, blocking someone from facebook, dali mama, facebook, neutrality, not adding a “friend” to facebook, resistance, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Is it okay to block someone from my Facebook page? There’s a friend of a friend who keeps asking me to add her and I really don’t want to.
–Wondering (Brazil)
DEAR WONDERING:
It’s ok to block someone but I suggest doing it in an energy of neutrality—not resisting them energetically, in other words. If you block them out of resistance, it can block other energies you actually want in your life. If you simply decide not to add them (without resistance to that person), that keeps the energy open and flowing.
You might want to take the opportunity to notice what it is about this person that you don’t like and to clear similar or opposite energies from your space that you longer need if you like.
21 Jun 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, differences in religious beliefs, differences in spiritual beliefs, preaching, spiritual advice column, spirituality
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I have a good friend who has been friends with me since kindergarten. She’s a hard-core Christian-right person and sometimes she gets really preachy with me AND my family, including my kids. I am fine with whatever she believes but she is definitely not fine with me, as I am a looser spiritual person with no particular institutional or religious affiliations. How do I handle this behavior? When I try to address it, it’s gotten really tense and I feel like it makes things even worse.
–Spiritual but anxious (United States)
DEAR SPIRITUAL BUT ANXIOUS:
Give her space to have her beliefs and remain neutral when she begins to proselytize. If you don’t resist her or her preaching at you energetically, there is no energy to push back against, and she will back off or lose interest in trying to convert you. You might also want to have a conversation with your kids about people having different beliefs and that it’s okay for them and everyone else to have whatever beliefs are appropriate for them.
Enjoy the process.
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22 Jun 2014 Leave a comment
by askdalimama in Uncategorized Tags: ask dali mama, dali mama, Davide Luciano, photography, social commentary
I came across Davide Luciano’s thought-provoking photo series. I particularly love both “Sheep Nation” sets and the pothole series. “Meals Interrupted” will really make you think as well. Check it out if you want: https://www.flickr.com/photos/davideluciano/sets/.
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