WHAT DO YOU THINK OF WHITE LIES?

08 Oct 2014 Leave a comment

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DEAR DALI MAMA:

What do you think of white lies, like saying you like someone’s cooking if you don’t really? Energetically and otherwise….

–Curious (Canada)

DEAR CURIOUS:

It’s always best to be honest, energetically and otherwise. Honest doesn’t mean you have to say “You are the worst cook I’ve ever met,” but you can be honest while choosing something positive to say. For example, you could say, “I really appreciate the time and effort you took in preparing this meal for me” or “I like the salad greens you used in the salad.” And next time, you could suggest going out or you could make a dish to share so you have something to eat that you like and you could ask them, for example, to get those yummy salad greens they got last time.

Besides which, if you say a white lie, like, “I love these brownies,” the person might be really happy and, thinking you like them, go to a lot of trouble and expense to keep making them for you, which does neither of you any good.

 

IS IT OK TO HAVE SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE WHEN YOUR PARTNER NO LONGER WISHES TO HAVE SEX?

07 Oct 2014 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Love & Relationships, Sex Tags: , , , , , , , , , , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I am married to a woman who no longer wants to have sex at all. It’s been almost a year. The last time was on our anniversary. Do you think it’s ok for me to have sex with other people under these circumstances? I wouldn’t tell her because it would hurt her feelings but I also feel it’s hurting me to go without sex when she has zero interest.

–Basically a Good Guy (United States)

DEAR BASICALLY:

That is a difficult situation. I suggest that your wife see her doctor to see if there is some underlying medical issue (or some issue from her past) causing her to not want to have sex anymore and that the two of you see a marriage counselor and that both of you might want to see a counselor individually as well to get to the root cause of why she does not want to have sex. This might be emotionally painful at first, but necessary in order for the healing and true change to begin.

Then, after doing everything you can to resurrect your sexual connection, including perhaps taking a tantric workshop together, you both can make an informed decision that is best for you individually and as a couple.

Once you have each tried all you can to salvage and nurture your sexual and general relationship, at that point, you can make a decision together as far as what will work for both of you.

Even though it must be both frustrating and difficult to be in a marriage where your partner does not want to have sex, I would advise you to keep other people out of your marriage even under these challenging circumstances. A lie of omission is still a lie and seeing other people without your wife’s knowledge would introduce deception into the marriage, which is not a good energy for any healthy relationship.

Once you’ve had counseling together and addressed any potential medical issues and tried everything you can to address the cause of the lack of sex, then you and your wife can make a plan together—to concertedly improve the sexual relationship between the two of you (having sex, for starters), for her to possibly consider participating in giving you some kind of sexual relief (manually perhaps) to foster some kind of sexual connection between the two of you even if she does not wish to have actual intercourse, for her to give you permission to have your sexual needs met elsewhere if she does not want to engage with you that way, or for both of you to go your separate ways and find people more sexually compatible.

 

IS IT POSSIBLE FOR A PERSON TO MAKE THINGS BREAK?

06 Oct 2014 Leave a comment

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DEAR DALI MAMA:

Is it possible for a person to make things break? Whenever I touch computers, something seems to go wrong with them. Often small things but sometimes big, expensive, irreparable things as well. Am I crazy or could I be the one affecting this equipment?

–Seeming Destroyer of Computers (United States)

DEAR SEEMING:

Funny you should ask. I experience the same thing. Interestingly, I don’t destroy Macs, only PCs. I also used to destroy hot/cold water dispensers and batteries in my healing room until I changed the way I set the energy when I did healings. If you’ve been having trouble with PCs, I suggest you give Apple a try if you haven’t already. For some reason, Macs seem more stable with certain energies, at least for me and some others I know.

I also recommend the extended warranties on any computer you purchase. Oh, and don’t ever go near your friends’ computers if you want to stay in their good graces. Ha ha.

And I know one woman that instantly destroys all watches she comes into contact with (both digital and analog). She has decided to go watchless after breaking enough watches to accessorize troops of time-conscious octopi with places to be, usually within 10 minutes of putting them on her wrist.

Sometimes people’s energy is simply not compatible with certain kinds of machinery. Sometimes, too, there are trance medium energies that can affect machinery as well, including computers. But that’s a whole different subject.

Try switching to Macs and write again if you are still having computer issues.

 

SUNDAY SHARE: ARTIST CELIA DICKSON

05 Oct 2014 Leave a comment

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TODAY’S SUNDAY SHARE:

Every Sunday I feature something cool I’ve come across.

Today I’d like to feature artist Celia Dickson of the U.K., whose work is out of this world. Check out her wood relief carvings, wood carvings, drawings, murals and more at www.celiadickson.co.uk.

 

IS IT A MISTAKE TO LIVE TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE?

04 Oct 2014 Leave a comment

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DEAR DALI MAMA:

My boyfriend and I are going to move in together but my mother thinks it’s a mistake because “who wants to buy the cow when they can get the milk for free?” What do you think?

–Am I Making a Mistake? (United States)

DEAR AM I:

Are you a cow? If so, you’re an extremely literate bovine to be able to write such a clear and concise email. Ha ha.

I say you should do what is right for you. While some people think it’s a mistake to live together before marriage (I’m guessing your mother is worried your guy won’t want to commit if you’re living together), some might consider it a mistake to pledge one’s life and loyalty to someone they’re not sure they can get along with day in and day out over extended periods of time.

Follow your heart, my friend.

NOTE TO READERS: I do free healings the first Sunday of each month. If you would like a free healing that day, email your healing request (with “free group healing” in the subject line) with your name and up to three healing requests to holdinglightproductions@yahoo.com. You may do this every month as many times as you like. I also invite you to send in your own questions to askdalimama@gmail.com.

 

SHOULD I CONTACT AN OLD BOYFRIEND EVEN THOUGH I AM MARRIED?

03 Oct 2014 Leave a comment

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DEAR DALI MAMA:

I have been married for 21 years to a decent man but lately, I keep dreaming about my boyfriend from high school—sexy dreams. I looked him up on Facebook and saw he has an account but I have not friended him yet. Should I contact him?

–Tempted (United States)

DEAR TEMPTED:

I would advise you not to friend him on Facebook nor seek him out in any other way as long as you’re married to this decent man of yours. If you’re tempted now, how much more tempted will you be once you’re in contact with your old boyfriend, maybe even in regular contact with him. I suggest you not even open that door if you value your marriage and the vows you made.

Perhaps there is a part of you that is yearning for more passion in your life. Maybe it is time to take a tantric class with your husband or go somewhere together you’ve always wanted to go explore together or take up a hobby you’ve always wanted to try.

NOTE TO READERS: I do free healings the first Sunday of each month. If you would like a free healing that day, email your healing request (with “free group healing” in the subject line) with your name and up to three healing requests to holdinglightproductions@yahoo.com. You may do this every month as many times as you like. I also invite you to send in your own questions to askdalimama@gmail.com.

 

DO ALIENS EXIST?

02 Oct 2014 Leave a comment

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DEAR DALI MAMA:

Do aliens really exist?

–Curious (Canada)

DEAR CURIOUS:

I think it’s much more likely that, with all of the planets out there, it is much more likely that at least some of those planets have some form of life than not.

 

HOW DO I MOVE ON FROM AN OLD LOVE?

01 Oct 2014 Leave a comment

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DEAR DALI MAMA:

How do I move on from an old love? Everywhere I go, I think I see him or people remind me of him or I remember when I was at certain restaurants with him when I’m out to eat.

–Lovelorn (United States)

DEAR LOVELORN:

Moving on from a relationship is difficult but it will get easier with time. Eventually, you can choose to keep memories of the great times you had together and release the memories and energy of the difficult times and of the breakup.

In the meantime, as you’re healing from the breakup, perhaps you can try out some new places (that you didn’t frequent with your old love) and shake things up—meet some new people, join a club, try a new restaurant, catch up with old friends….

You might want to also switch up your routine. If you had certain rituals with your old love, like taking a walk together after dinner, maybe you could go for a lunchtime walk or a walk before dinner. If you spent a lot of time together in your home, you might even want to switch things up at home—get a new comforter or rearrange your bedroom slightly so it has a different feel to it, signifying a new beginning and a fresh start for you and making room for new love in your life. Also it might be great to get rid of old momentos from the old relationship (photos of the two of you from the wall, for example), or at the very least, to put them in storage somewhere you’re not going to see them all the time.

Validate your ability to love and know that love will come to you again.

 

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