WHY CAN’T PEOPLE JUST GET ALONG?

05 Jan 2018 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Love & Relationships, Uncategorized Tags: , , , , , , , , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

Why can’t people just get along? It seems like in every group, from the deacon’s group at church to the PTA to the government, everyone is constantly fighting. How do we change this?

—Tired of the Squabbling (United States)

DEAR T.O.T.S.:

It helps when we all focus together on the ultimate goal—whether a healthy church that helps the community and its members; the parents and teachers working together to provide a good education and a safe and nurturing environment for the students; or a strong government that truly helps the people. Sometimes it is very human to get stuck in the ego or get caught in power struggles or wanting to be right or respected or elevated and we can lose sight of what the true mission of a group is. The more we focus on the mission of any group and on working together towards that mission, the less we will get caught in energy-draining traps of fighting against other members who ideally want to work towards the same goal and the more positive goals we will accomplish.

Lead the way by example, my friend!

HOW DO I HANDLE THE STRESS AND UNCERTAINTY IN THE UNITED STATES?

04 Jan 2018 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Uncategorized Tags: , , , , , , , , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

With all the big changes going on in the world and in the United States, what is the best way to handle all the stress and uncertainty?

—Stressed Out (U.S.A.)

DEAR S.O.:

Take especially good care of yourself and make sure that you are eating healthy foods and getting enough rest and exercise. You might also want to limit how much you read or watch the news, particularly in the evenings too close before bedtime.

If you’re particularly passionate about a cause like the environment or making sure all have access to food or healthcare, perhaps you could find a worthy organization and volunteer. That way, you’re using your energy towards contributing to making the world a better place rather than using your energy to worry about all the negative things that are happening.

Take care of yourself, my friend.

WHAT DO YOU DO WITH ANGER?

03 Jan 2018 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Love & Relationships, Uncategorized Tags: , , , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I am fuming at a loved one. I can’t seem to shift my anger. I’m trying to learn the lessons from the situation, which seems to repeat itself over and over again because of this person’s behaviour towards me. What do you do with anger?

—Angry (New Zealand)

DEAR A.:

There’s nothing inherently wrong with anger. Anger can be a signal where your boundaries aren’t being honored or there’s something you need to look at, even if it’s an energetic match with whatever is triggering you. For example, if someone is being disrespectful towards you or dismissive of you, are they mirroring the ways or energies in which you don’t entirely value or respect yourself?

People do unpleasant things sometimes and less-than-ideal situations will occur. You can’t always avoid that, but you can change your own reactions to their behavior.

So thank your anger for pointing out where it’s time for you to look at something more closely, then let it go and don’t get stuck in it. Then you can transform that energy into gratitude towards yourself for changing the way you handle certain situations.

HOW DO I LEARN TO ENJOY MY OWN GOOD ENERGY?

02 Jan 2018 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Energy Techniques, Uncategorized Tags: , , , , , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

For most of my life I have been in an awful energetic state, bombarded with negativity. This thankfully changed recently but I’m used to looking for good energies/love/happiness to be provided for me from outside of myself. How do I help my mind catch up to the fact that I have A grade energy now and that I no longer need the outside “positive vibes.” How do I tap into this A grade energy to enjoy for myself?

—Confused (Norway)

 

DEAR C.:

Congratulations on the recent change of your energetic state. Learning to tap into your positive energy will take commitment on your part as far as strengthening the habit of enjoying this positive energy for yourself. Whenever you catch yourself looking for things outside of yourself (whether love or good energies or happiness), say hello and validate those good energies inside of yourself. Validate the love you have inside of you, validate that you are made of love, and practice loving yourself completely and unconditionally, for example.

You can change your outward behavior accordingly as well. For example, if you think you need to buy a nice outfit to look nice, take a look inside your closet and see what you already have and pull it out and experiment with a new way to enjoy it or pair it with a different pair of shoes that you already have to give it a fresh feel. Or even better, just look in the mirror and admire the beauty staring back at you!!!

Also, even as you enjoy your own positive energy, choose friends and others to be around who mirror and support that positive energy rather than people who tend to pull you down with negative habits like gossiping or putting others down. Be around people who reflect joy and light and see how much merriment and good in the world you can make together.

 

 

WHAT ABOUT HAVING SEX JUST FOR ENJOYMENT?

01 Jan 2018 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Sex, Uncategorized Tags: , , , , , , , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I’m thinking about enjoying sex without any love involved for the first time. I’ve always said I could only have sex when I loved someone but do you think I’m capable of having sex just for enjoyment?

— Thinking (France)

DEAR THINKING:

You might be capable of it, but does that mean that you should? Only you can decide what’s right for yourself, but pay attention to the energy of people with whom you engage in sex with. When you have intercourse, and especially when you have an orgasm, your energy field is much more open to the energies of your partner—good and bad.

If you want sex for enjoyment, consider having fun with yourself or maybe exploring a new toy (love the eroscillator—see www.eroscillator.com). You can enjoy yourself and not worry about breaking someone’s heart or about getting an STD!!!

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