ARE NEGATIVE ENTITIES AND EXORICMS REAL AND COULD I DO IT ON MYSELF?

20 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Energy Techniques, Uncategorized

DEAR DALI MAMA:

Are there such a thing as negative entities and exorcisms? If I feel I have a negative entity attacking me, can I exorcise it from myself?

—Haunted (United States)

DEAR H.:

Yes, there are entities that are negative or harmful, and exorcisms, if done correctly, are real. There are also a number of charlatans or people who will say you have a negative entity or bad karma and that you must pay X amount of dollars to release it.

If you believe you have a negative entity attacking you, do not try to remove it yourself. It takes a lot of training in order to do that safely in most cases. For example, someone in the Catholic church told me that priests study 10 years to be able to perform an exorcism. The legitimate healers I know who remove harmful beings all studied and practiced many years as well in order to do it safely.

If you are suffering from this problem, please find someone legitimate who can assist you.

Wishing you a safe journey.

HOW DO I HANDLE MY MOTHER-IN-LAW SNOOPING?

19 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Family, Uncategorized

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I am dreading the holidays as my mother-in-law snoops when she is visiting. I know she has gone through our medicine cabinet and my desk as I have caught her rifling through our things, even though she claims she was just looking for aspirin or looking for a pen or whatever. How do I handle this in a way that won’t start World War III?

—Reluctant Hostess (United States)

DEAR RELUCTANT HOSTESS:

If you have something incredibly personal and private you don’t want to see, perhaps you might need to invest in a lockbox.

The next time you catch your mother-in-law in the act of snooping, I would address it neutrally, saying something like, “I’m really private and prefer that you not go into our medicine cabinet without asking but please feel free to ask me if you need anything and I will happily get you whatever you need.” If she cannot respect your rules and privacy once you’ve made that clear in a friendly and neutral way, you can always book her a room in a nearby bed and breakfast or spend the holidays at her house or meet at a neutral location like a scenic town halfway between you.

WHY DO I FEEL LIKE A STRANGER IN MY OWN LIFE?

18 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Uncategorized

DEAR DALI MAMA:

Sometimes I feel like a stranger in my own life. What makes me feel like that?

—Stranger in a Familiar Land (Canada)

DEAR STRANGER:

Feeling like a stranger in your own life can actually be a very positive sign of your own inner growth. When you change, sometimes familiar situations or groups or environments may feel strange because you’re different than the old you that felt comfortable (or sometimes unaware) in those old environs.

Celebrate this feeling of strangeness and use this as an opportunity to view your life from a different perspective and take the opportunity to change anything you’ve outgrown.

Happy growing!

SUNDAY SHARE: ARTIST SHERYL MERCURE

17 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Sunday's Share, Uncategorized

I love Sheryl Mercure’s incredible art. Look at her paintings and just be. Notice what you feel inside and what comes up for you. Notice your connection to the divine within you and all around you as you enjoy her work. Here is her website:

https://www.sherylmercure.com/artintro.

CAN I ASK FOR MY FINANCIAL GIFT BACK FROM MY BROTHER’S WIDOW?

16 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Family

DEAR DALI MAMA:

My brother passed away and I sent his widow money, thinking she would need a little help with funeral expenses and bills since he’s no longer in the picture. I’ve noticed she’s wearing new clothes and gets her hair dyed regularly and even had Botox and I think a facelift. I wish I had never given her the money. Can I ask for it back? I am still grieving and she is probably just trying to make herself look good to get a new man if she hasn’t already found one.

—Angry sister (United States)

DEAR A.S.:

I suggest you do not ask for the money back. It was a gift and you can’t put conditions on that gift. I understand that you are still grieving and getting that money back will not help your grief. Know that his widow is likely still grieving as well. She might not have spent your financial gift prudently but she might also just be trying to make herself feel better and trying to escape her own pain by shopping or making herself over after the trauma of losing her husband. Grief looks different on everyone.

Remember that, no matter what, you both loved your brother and she probably gave him a lot of joy by being in his life so thank her for that and think about positive things you can do for yourself that will make yourself feel better in a productive way.

Much love.

WHY DO I GET DEPRESSED AT THE ZOO?

15 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Animals, Energy Techniques

DEAR DALI MAMA:

Whenever I go to the zoo, I get really depressed. I can be having a great day and happy as a clam, and then get to the zoo, and feel awful. Why is that?

—Not Having Fun at the Zoo (United States)

DEAR N.H.F.A.T.Z.:

You’re probably very sensitive to energy. Before I learned how to protect my energy, I too would get extremely depressed at the zoo because I would pick up on the energy of the animals, many of whom were bored and depressed.

Try imagining energy roses on all sides of you and allow the roses to absorb external energy rather than having your body absorb it. When the roses get full of depressed or other energies, explode them and create fresh new roses around you. Repeat as needed.

Also, consider visiting and supporting places that treat animals well and that give them plenty of space, preferably in their natural habitat. One animal sanctuary I love if you are ever in the San Francisco Bay Area, is PreetiRang (http://www.preetirangsanctuary.org).

HOW DO I STAY FAITHFUL?

14 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Uncategorized

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I sometimes fantasize about other men. I have been married to my husband for more than twenty years and he is a good man but I just feel so bored that I am almost depressed. I have been faithful but I don’t know if I want to or am capable of continuing to be faithful. I am longing for something more than this. Is this all life is? Is this all love is? Even with a good man?

—Wifey (Canada)

DEAR WIFEY:

I applaud the fact that you have been able to stay faithful to your husband for decades. The most important thing to remember is the importance of creating passion for ourselves. That means for your individual life, not just for the marriage, although of course marriages need passion as well. What do you love to do? Do you like to paint, do crafts, write, or travel? Start getting excited about your life in ways that don’t involve some other man. Once your reignite the passion in your own life, it is much easier to build and maintain the passion for your husband.

For the two of you, try switching things up—travel, take a class together on something you’ve always wanted to learn about, eat a new kind of food at a local restaurant, try some new sex positions or tantra, or go camping or take a little trip to somewhere the two of you have never been before. Yeah, it can get old when you’re with the same person for decades but it certainly doesn’t have to and it doesn’t have to stay old. Validate the beauty and the magic and miracle of creating a love and a life with the same person and experiment and see just how deeply in love the two of you can go. No matter how familiar he is to you, or how old hat he may seem, I guarantee there are things about him you will be delighted to discover and explore because no, this is not all that life and love have to offer you.

HOW DO I TELL MY PARENTS ABOUT MY SEXUALITY?

13 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Love & Relationships, Sex, Uncategorized Tags: ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I am in high school and I guess I am popular but I’m a big fake. My whole life is fake. My parents are fake. My sister is fake. I’ve been into a couple of girls but mostly I’m not into girls. My parents will go ballistic if I try to tell them the truth. What can I do? I don’t want to be a big fake like my family.

—Scared Sh*tless (United States)

DEAR S.S.:

I congratulate you for your quest for living an authentic life. Many people, no matter what age, are “scared sh*tless” to be who they are in the world. Your asking this question means you have the courage and also the means to be REAL instead of fake.

No matter what your parents’ reaction is to your truth, honor yourself for being who you are and for taking steps to live your truth. This is a process and you are taking the first steps.

You might want to check out this website for some resources: https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/teen/dating-sex/Pages/Gay-Lesbian-and-Bisexual-Teens-Facts-for-Teens-and-Their-Parents.aspx. There are many other resources online, so check those out as well.

Above all, know that you’re not alone. Many other people of all ages are on all different ranges in the spectrum of sexuality and this is just one aspect of who you are—like your hair color, your talents, your intelligence, etc. It is part of the unique recipe of what makes you the person you are. So keep getting to know who you are and celebrate all parts of your individuality and celebrate your courage to express your unique brand of authenticity in the world.

I applaud your courage and your walk of authenticity, my friend.

HOW DO I HANDLE MY GOSSIPING FRIEND?

12 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Love & Relationships, Uncategorized

DEAR DALI MAMA:

One of my friends is always gossiping about our friends and I feel very uncomfortable. How should I handle this?

—Uncomfortable (United States)

DEAR UNCOMFORTABLE:

First, be very careful what you say to this friend because he/she is likely to gossip about you in the same way he/she does about others.

Second, you might want to mention you don’t feel comfortable hearing gossip about your other friends. If the gossiping continues after this point, change the subject to something more positive. You might want to also consider if you really want to spend as much time with this friend.

Great awareness of your feelings in this energy. Thank you.

HOW TO BUILD TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP ONCE THE TRUST IS BROKEN?

11 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Love & Relationships, Uncategorized Tags: , ,

DEAR DALI MAMA:

How do I build trust in a relationship again after it’s been broken?

—Samba (Mali)

DEAR SAMBA:

Whether you have lost someone’s trust or whether someone has lost yours, it will take time and consistency to rebuild the trust.

If you are the one who broke someone’s trust, it is important for you to look at your part in breaking the trust and the reasons behind it. If you do not do this, you are likely to repeat similar mistakes. Next, apologize to the person and explain that you realized why you did that (and share the reason if it feels appropriate) and tell them you are working to regain their trust. Finally—and this will be a process—you will have to work consistently to prove to them you are trustworthy—you are going to have to show up and be impeccable in doing what you say you’re going to do. And then you’re going to have to do it again and again and again.

This is a wonderful journey, however, not just for them but also for you because, in regaining their trust, you are practicing becoming a more trustworthy individual, not just for them, but for yourself, and this will only make your life better in the long run.

If someone broke your trust, look at your energetic matches with them in yourself. Are there ways that you break promises to yourself? Or let yourself down in your goals towards your betterment as an individual? Are there similar ways you let others down? Next, sit down with that person and talk about how you felt and what needs to happen for you to regain trust in that person. Their reaction to this conversation will be a good clue as to whether they will work to regain your trust or not. If you feel that they are sorry and are truly going to try to make amends and gain your trust back, you can think about moving forward with them.

Keep in mind, however, that some people may give lip service but not follow through on their actions in becoming more trustworthy. Over time, you will have to decide whether you truly want this person in your life. If someone is not loyal to themselves or strong in themselves, they can not truly be loyal or trustworthy to you, much less anyone else, and this is no reflection on your worth as a person.

Thank you for bringing up this important topic, Samba.

SUNDAY SHARE: SULLY, THE MOVIE

10 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Uncategorized

SUNDAY SHARE: THE MOVIE SULLY

Love the movie Sully, based on real-life hero Chesley Sullenberger. The movie stars Tom Hanks, Aaron Eckhart, and Laura Linney. Directed by Clint Eastwood and written by Todd Komarnicki and Chesley Sullenberger.

I won’t say too much about the movie so I don’t ruin the story for you, but Sully was extremely inspiring in his ability to be in his power, stay in touch with his intuition, and be proactive despite any challenges he faced.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt3263904/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

WHAT DO I DO IF I THINK MY FRIEND’S BOYFRIEND IS ABUSING HER?

09 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Love & Relationships, Uncategorized

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I think my friend is being abused by her boyfriend. What should I do?

—Concerned (United States)

 

DEAR CONCERNED:

Thank you for your concern. Can you talk to your friend neutrally and without judgment and try to suss out what is going on in more detail? If you can get her to talk, you can find out more about what is happening and go from there. Is there a reason you think her boyfriend is abusing her? For example, if you have seen bruises on her, ask her neutrally what happened. If your intuition is telling you something is going on, you might want to talk to someone in common who can help. Perhaps there is a school counselor or pastor or someone who can help. If not, you may need to contact her family for assistance.

Please follow up in some way with someone who has the power to help you or who can direct you to community resources. If you can’t find anyone, please email me again and I will give you some contacts if you like me know what state you are in. Your friend is lucky to have you in her life. Bless you.

HOW DO I HANDLE MY MOTHER-IN-LAW’S INAPPROPRIATE GIFTS TO MY CHILDREN?

08 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Children, Family, Uncategorized

DEAR DALI MAMA:

We have two kids, one in kindergarten and the other in third grade. My husband’s mother is always giving the kids inappropriate gifts—whether it’s toy guns or DVDs with bad language or tons of violence or objectification of women. I have asked her not to give my kids those kinds of gifts but she gets offended, gives me the silent treatment, and then gives the kids those kinds of presents anyway. How do I stop this?

—Fed Up (United States)

Dear FED UP:

It sounds like there is a power struggle going on between you and your mother and you might want to remove yourself from the equation to save yourself the hassle. Have your husband talk to his mother about this and have him explain why the two of you do not want your kids to play with certain kinds of things.

If you both have already asked her to stop giving the kids those kinds of gifts and have explained why and she still insists on giving the kinds of presents she wants to give and not the kind of presents you and your husband want the kids to have, you might want to try one of two options: 1) give her a wish list of toys the kids want that you approve of, or 2) start a new tradition of gifts that the kids themselves will gift to children in need. Then at least if your mother-in-law insists on giving gifts that are not age appropriate, perhaps that rated PG or R movie can instead be gifted to an older teenager, for example. Or you could all start a tradition as a family of giving gifts to those in need from the entire family (including your mother-in-law) on birthdays and holidays rather than having your two children receive gifts.

Enjoy the opportunity to start a wonderful new family tradition.

WHY DOES MY DATE’S SISTER ALWAYS TAG ALONG?

07 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Uncategorized

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I like this girl a lot and have taken her on four dates but her sister is always coming along. Why? Can I ask her to leave her sister at home?

—Three is a Crowd (Canada)

DEAR THREE:

You might want to simply ask the girl why she always brings her sister. I don’t know how old your date is, but perhaps she is responsible for babysitting her sister, or perhaps her parents might be cleverly sending along a younger chaperone. Haha. You also might want to, just in case, clarify that you are asking her on a date just in case she thinks you are inviting her out as a friend.

Perhaps one strategy would be to simply say, “I’d really like to take you on an official date, just the two of us,” and see what she says.

Best of luck, my friend.

ARE THERE ANY NON-INVASIVE WAYS TO HELP REDUCE THE SIZE OF AN ENLARGED PROSTATE?

06 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by askdalimama in Health, Uncategorized

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I always enjoy reading your latest commentary and really appreciate your thoughts on health and wellness. Over the past few years I’ve been dealing with an enlarged prostate and wondered if you have had any experience in dealing with others with the same affliction? I would love to know if there are any non-invasive ways to help reduce the size?

Cheers!

—Mr. E (United States)

DEAR MR. E.:

I recommend asking your doctor if prostate massage might be helpful in your case. It can often be a beneficial therapeutic method, except in contraindicated cases where the prostrate is too enlarged for prostate massage to be safe. You can have your partner do it for you or you can do it on yourself using a prostate massager device. See https://prostate.net/articles/prostate-massage-for-enlarged-prostate-bph for further information.

According to the Mayo Clinic, a healthy diet may also help, specifically a low-fat diet, lots of vegetables, particularly those high in vitamin C, foods high in zinc, lots of physical activity, and avoidance of excessive amounts of alcohol (http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/benign-prostatic-hyperplasia/expert-answers/enlarged-prostate-and-diet/faq-20322773).

Do check with your doctor for medical advice for your particular case, as with all health matters. Good for you for being proactive about keeping your prostate heathy, Mr. E!

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