WHAT’S GOING ON WITH MY FOOD HABITS?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I love going out and eating delicious food. About 2-3 times a week and usually on my own. It’s burning a hole in my pocket and I’m gaining weight. Do you think I’m substituting food for something? Is my behaviour normal? I feel guilty for wasting money like this.
–Food Mad (S.Ireland)
DEAR F.M.:
You most likely are substituting food for something. This pattern is very common, but not a terribly healthy one. Notice if you eat more when you’re stressed. Notice if you’re eating to soothe yourself and to try not to feel the stress as much. Notice too if there are other things you’re wanting that you don’t have that make you reach for more food. For example, you might be craving love and companionship, or even just sex.
Instead of focusing on spending less on going out, focus on using more of your money to invest in things that support your well-being–your health, your dreams, a gym membership, etc. And use your money towards something that will support your happiness long-term beyond the enjoyment of a restaurant meal.
Congratulations on looking at this issue. I applaud your awareness and consciousness.

HOW DO I HANDLE BEING A KLUTZ IN A FAMILY OF ATHLETES?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I am not athletic but I come from a family of athletes—my dad is a coach and my mom was a cheerleader and my brothers and sisters are each superstars in more than one sport. I feel I was switched at birth or am experiencing some sort of cosmic joke. How do I handle this?

—Two Left Feet (United States)

DEAR T.L.F.:

Even if sports are not your forte, no doubt you have some unique gifts you can focus on and develop. Not everyone needs to be a track star or football player or cheerleader or volleyball player.

I do encourage you, however, to find something you love doing that involves moving your body and make it your own—doing it for your strength and cardiovascular health and mobility, whether that’s yoga and zumba or dancing around in your room to your favorite songs or using free weights. That will give your body the support and attention it needs with the sole purpose of honoring and maintaining your physical vessel so you can continue to do all the things you love with ease and comfort.

Good for you for following the beat of your own drums! Have fun with it!

HOW CAN I COMFORT MYSELF OTHER THAN BY SMOKING?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I’m having difficulties in stopping smoking. I’ve been a smoker all my adult life but I’ve been vaping for a few months (using an e-cigarette). However, lately I tend to fluctuate between vaping and having a few cigarettes a day when I’m tired, lonely or down.

I have identified that I smoke cigarettes by way of seeking comfort—to go unconscious for a few minutes in order to distract me from my feelings. In what ways can I go to myself for comfort as opposed to going to a cigarette? I hope I manage getting off the cigarettes and vaping in the long run for good.

—Desperately Seeking Comfort (Argentina)

DEAR D.S.C.:

Good awareness about your reasons for having smoked.

To comfort yourself, when you crave a cigarette, instead do some small thing that your body wants—do a nice stretch or have a healthy snack or take a whiff of one of your favorite essential oils. And consistently replace the ritual of smoking with whatever reward for your body you choose at trigger points of smoking—when you feel down or after dinner, or whenever you normally would have smoked.

Congratulations on taking care of and honoring your body and also for consciously changing old patterns. Good on you!

WHAT KIND OF EXERCISE DO YOU LOVE?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

What kind of exercise do you love for yourself?

—Just Curious

DEAR JUST CURIOUS:

Oh, thank you for this very easy-to-answer question. I love zumba and Pure Barre (especially at the studio in Broomfield, Colorado, http://purebarre.com/co-broomfield) and yoga and I also love to go hiking with my friends. I also love snorkeling although I have not gotten to do it all that often. Oh, and of course sex, which is great cardio, great glute and other exercise, and just plain fun. Haha.

WHAT RESEMBLES DEPRESSION, ENERGETICALLY SPEAKING?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

My family thinks I’m depressed but I don’t feel depressed or suicidal or self-destructive. What could that be, energetically speaking?

—Not Depressed (United States)

DEAR N.D.:

If you don’t feel depressed, perhaps you are going through a cycle of energetically withdrawing from the world. Cycles like these are important from time to time to allow us to withdraw from structures and roles we’ve been engrained in, giving us the chance to detach from them and emerge with a clearer idea of who we truly are and what is most important to us.

If you start to feel depressed, do go see your doctor just in case something is going on.

If you are going through a withdrawal cycle, enjoy it and mine all the pieces of you that are buried. Enjoy the process of discovery!

ARE THERE ANY NON-INVASIVE WAYS TO HELP REDUCE THE SIZE OF AN ENLARGED PROSTATE?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I always enjoy reading your latest commentary and really appreciate your thoughts on health and wellness. Over the past few years I’ve been dealing with an enlarged prostate and wondered if you have had any experience in dealing with others with the same affliction? I would love to know if there are any non-invasive ways to help reduce the size?

Cheers!

—Mr. E (United States)

DEAR MR. E.:

I recommend asking your doctor if prostate massage might be helpful in your case. It can often be a beneficial therapeutic method, except in contraindicated cases where the prostrate is too enlarged for prostate massage to be safe. You can have your partner do it for you or you can do it on yourself using a prostate massager device. See https://prostate.net/articles/prostate-massage-for-enlarged-prostate-bph for further information.

According to the Mayo Clinic, a healthy diet may also help, specifically a low-fat diet, lots of vegetables, particularly those high in vitamin C, foods high in zinc, lots of physical activity, and avoidance of excessive amounts of alcohol (http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/benign-prostatic-hyperplasia/expert-answers/enlarged-prostate-and-diet/faq-20322773).

Do check with your doctor for medical advice for your particular case, as with all health matters. Good for you for being proactive about keeping your prostate heathy, Mr. E!

WHAT CAN I DO FOR MY INSOMNIA?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

Recently I just cannot fall asleep easily. Once I fall asleep, it’s ok but the initial stage of sleep is awful recently, It takes so long to fall asleep. Is there any way to improve naturally? The troublesome condition is almost a month now.

—Sleepless in Japan

DEAR SLEEPLESS:

Have you been under stress? That can affect your ability to fall asleep. Before you go to sleep, set your intention to fall asleep easily and quickly and to get quality sleep and also create an energy bubble and put that bubble up in the sky and move all your worries into that bubble and explode the bubble.

You might also want to avoid caffeine after 3:00 p.m. in case that is affecting your sleep. In addition to obvious caffeinated things like tea or coffee, check other things you eat such as acai or chocolate or weight-loss pills and all kinds of other things may surprisingly contain caffeine, particularly if there is some food or drink or supplement you have added to your routine recently.

You may also try googling “acupressure points for insomnia,” as stimulating certain points on your hands and feet and other places can help you fall asleep.

Sweet dreams, friend!

HOW DO I GET BETTER AT GETTING SLEEP?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I know that I should try to get 8 hours of sleep per night but I don’t want to go to sleep. Instead, I stay awake till odd hours and only get 5 to 6 hours of sleep per night and then I’m tired all day. I’ll do anything but fall asleep even though I’m sleepy.

—Sleepless in the States on Purpose (United States)

DEAR SLEEPLESS:

Validate all the benefits that sleep has to offer you—a healthy body, support for improved memory, decreased inflammation in the body, support in maintaining a healthy weight, and much more.

Notice too if you have any worries that by sleeping you will be missing out—missing out on fun things, life, or even missing out on noticing what you might consider potential threats or dangers.

By simply being conscious of what you stand to gain by sleeping more and what you may be subconsciously worried about related to sleeping, perhaps you can start to make healthier choices around sleep.

It may also help you to start to train your body to sleep and wake at the same time. You can set your alarm or your phone to alert you when it’s time to start getting ready for bed and then get in bed at a designated time the same night every night and lay there with your eyes closed even if you can’t sleep easily at first. Do this over time and it may become much easier.

Happy snoozing and happy health!

HOW DO I LOSE WEIGHT AFTER THE HOLIDAYS?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I put on a lot of weight over the holidays, largely because of stress eating while spending Christmas and New Year’s with my parents and my brother and his family. How do I stop this and how do I lose the weight? Are there any energetic “tricks”?

–Stuffed (United States)

DEAR STUFFED:

It is very common for people in the United States and some other countries to gain weight over the holidays as well as to stress eat. Overeating (particularly sugar or other processed foods) and excessive drinking (alcohol in particular but even too much caffeine can have a similar effect) can pop you out of your body, leaving you numb to whatever stresses you’re experiencing or to the issues that are getting lit up for you by being around your family.

I am sending you the free grounding exercises for you to do, which can help lose the excess weight. Also pay attention to any feelings (during the holiday or otherwise) that make you want to get the heck out of Dodge by overeating or overconsuming alcohol or even caffeinated drinks. When you feel like you want to pop out by overeating or overdrinking, it’s even more important to stay grounded so you can look at any release any energies pushing you out of full awareness so you can full enjoy being in a healthy body with choices that support your optimal health.

HOW TO BALANCE HORMONES AND PROLONG FERTILITY?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I’m in my early forties and might be getting signs of early menopause. I have been very emotional the past 15 months though I put this down to emotional release through healing—I live in Brazil and get healing from John of God. I cry at the silliest thing and an annoying thought can spiral me into an internal emotional drama for the remainder of the day.

I have also periods every three weeks now, sometimes twice a month (before it was every 28 days).

Do you think it could be early menopause? Or is some of it healing related (physically and emotionally)? I know nothing about how to balance my hormones…

Also, is there any way my fertility can be prolonged? (I want to have a child in the not so distant future if possible). Thank you for helping.

– Completely Clueless (Brazil)

DEAR COMPLETELY:

Probably the first thing you might want to do is consult your doctor and get an exam and possibly a blood-chemistry test so that he/she can look at your hormone levels and make sure nothing else is going on. Once you do that, if you like, I can point you in the direction of some websites that can give you information on alternative treatments based on your blood-chemistry results. I don’t want to recommend phytoestrogens or anything like that because they might be contraindicated for you, depending on what all is going on.

Irregular periods and mood swings can certainly be signs of perimenopause, but your doctor can give you a better idea from your blood tests. The emotional sensitivity can be part of your growth period from being down in Brazil and getting healings over as well in terms of releasing energy and shifting your vibration. Some of your physical symptoms could be a result of the energy work you’ve been doing as well since sometimes healings cause occasionally exacerbate existing symptoms.

And since you’re down in Brazil, perhaps you could ask for healings on hormone balance and fertility as well as finding the right person to have a child with if you haven’t already.

As far as the energetic aspects of your questions, here are some things to consider. Hormone imbalances are related to the need to balance the male and female energies that run within each person. For example, when we need more female hormones for an optimal balance, that can correspond to either/both needing to expand our energetic receptiveness/havingness/passive creation energy (a more yin energy) with our active male creative energy (yang energy). Both energies are necessary for balanced hormones as well as in the conception of a child.

Here is a link that might be helpful: http://www.webmd.com/menopause/guide/guide-perimenopause. I also recommend you check out some of Dr. Christine Northrup’s books as well.

Feel free to write in again when you get your blood-test results from your doctor and perhaps I can give you more detailed suggestions at that point.

NOTE TO READERS: SORRY I’VE BEEN GONE SO LONG. HAVE BEEN WORKING ON SOME DEADLINES. SHOULD BE MOSTLY BACK TO MY REGULAR SCHEDULE NOW.

IS THERE AN ENERGETIC COMPONENT TO MULTIPLE SCLEROSIS?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I have MS (multiple sclerosis). Is there an energetic component to multiple sclerosis I should be aware of?

–Wanting to Heal Myself (Brazil)

DEAR WANTING TO HEAL:

All diseases related to the immune system bring with them lessons on the importance of honoring and loving yourself. Perhaps you could practice doing things to honor and love yourself. Notice where you consistently put others’ needs before your own; for example, taking on volunteer work or helping out a friend (in a non-emergency situation) when you are already exhausted or feel like you’re fighting a cold. Start a new habit of consciously attending to your needs and treating your body and yourself as well as you would your child or your best friend.

Your determination to heal yourself and to look at the energy of MS is a wonderful step on your path to more optimal health. Congratulations.

 

HOW DO I START A NEW EXERCISE REGIMEN?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I am trying to start a healthy exercise regimen but just can’t seem to get going, even when I wake up early in order to go exercise. I welcome any suggestions.

–Slug (United States)

DEAR SLUG:

This is pretty common when you’re starting out any kind of new program, so keep heart! Do you have any friend/neighbor you can be exercise buddies with? If you’re meeting someone at the gym at a certain time or at the corner to go for a jog, it’s a lot easier to create a habit of healthy exercise when you have to be accountable to someone else who would be very annoyed to not have you show up!

Also, set your exercise to honor and support you and have fun with your body and keep validating it as the blood flows more easily through your body, as your lungs build its capacity, and your energy levels start to change. Set your exercise to validation and for your optimal health, and release any existing energies of “having to” to anything or resistance to the way your body is now.

 

WHY IS IT DIFFICULT TO LOSE WEIGHT?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I’m trying to lose weight but am having a really hard time. What causes this difficulty?

–Overweight, Overdo (Canada)

DEAR OVERS:

There are many physical and energetic aspects related to both being overweight and difficulty losing weight.

One of the primary energetic challenges I see is that sometimes the extra weight has served as a buffer for the person feeling the energies within themselves that they’re buffering against. Common energies may include a need for healthier boundaries between themselves and others, a tendency to absorb unwanted energies for other people, and simply not wanting to feel energies within themselves (including energies from childhood) that made them pop out of their body somewhat by excessive drinking, eating more than their bodies truly wanted, or other reasons.

When a person begins to cut down on unwanted weight, they can hit up against all those energies that made them put it on in the first place. If you can be present to these energies and process them, you’ll be able to drop the weight that much easier on an energetic level.

Congratulations on looking at this so you can move forward more consciously and confidently. I wish you good health.

 

 

HOW DO I GET OFF SUGAR?

DEAR DALI MAMA:

I am addicted to sugar. It’s as bad as if I were an alcoholic, only sugar is my poison—pastries, ice cream, straight sugar, you name it. What causes this and how do I get this bitter/sweet monkey off my back?

–Tweaking (United States)

DEAR TWEAKING:

You are exactly right that sugar can be just as much an addiction as alcohol. Or drugs or anything for that matter.

You might have to go off sugar totally for a few weeks—pastries, ice cream, sodas, fruit juice, and maybe even high-glycemic stuff such as pasta and rice. You might even be one of those people that pretty much needs to go off certain sugary foods for good in order to control your consumption of sugars. You’ll have to experiment with that. The first couple weeks, you might go into major withdrawal.

Try to recognize triggers that make you want to eat sugar and substitute healthy activities into your life instead—eating protein such as raw almonds or going for a walk. Sometimes stress or sadness or other emotions may make you want to eat sugar. Sugar, like alcohol or drugs, tends to pop you out of the body, temporarily making it easier to “deal” with whatever you’re avoiding by popping you out of the emotional or psychic pain you’re trying to escape from, consciously or not. However, those energies never really get dealt with if you pop out through sugar or other substances so kudos on really dealing with this so you can get to the root of the issue.

Talk to your doctor or nutritionist for specific suggestions tailored to your individual health needs. Congratulations on making this positive change to support your optimal health!

 

 

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