I am a medium and having worked on myself for forever, you would think I would be free of negative attachments (spirits). However, there is one spirit in particular that tries to upset me and it manages to do just that.

It feeds off my need for “external romantic love” and company and comes in and imitates loving energies very similar to those of my partner. It is very conniving and good at getting me off track.  It also knows I get angry at its presence and plays on that. I’m losing the will to live here! I have tried EVERYTHING to get rid of it.

Being an amazing medium, can you see anything I can’t see regarding why it’s here? Maybe I’m doing something wrong as surely there’s a reason it’s still hanging around? Please help.

—On My Last Nerve (Bolivia)



We are all in process, no matter how long we’ve worked on ourselves (and that includes past lives).

Spirits are just like people, who are of course spirits in human bodies. There’s a saying, “What we resist, persists.” Anything we resist energetically keeps sticking around or we’ll manage to get rid of something and something of a similar vibration comes along. For example, if a student is being bullied at school, the more he resists, the more the bully may bother him and may even escalate. However, once the student learns to get neutral to the bully and starts to have more of his true power, the bully will generally find someone else to go persecute. This is of course easier said than done but it is possible with practice and retraining of your attitudes to learn to get neutral to what you are resisting.

Another example is when dealing with energy vampires, people who suck and suck and suck our energy, whether they are narcissists or people who try to ingratiate themselves, then pester to get some kind of reaction and to pull energy from you, even if it negative attention. Once you stop resisting them and give them space to be without giving them any attention, they generally tire and go suckle the energy from someone else, whether that is by charming them or creating drama or pretending to be helpless, or whatever techniques they use to suck energy.

Keep your focus on what’s important to you. Since you want love and good company, use your energy to take practical steps like joining a meetup group for a topic that interests you (hiking or art or movies or whatever) or just get a group of friends together and encourage them to bring their nice friends as well. You’ll meet people, have fun, and who knows what else? And your focus will be on creating positive things you want rather than giving your energy to this spirit or your worries or any negative people or anything else you don’t really want in your life.

Good on you for your awareness and making these changes!



I think I am a pretty creative person. I have a lot of great ideas for creative projects (books, movies, paintings, stuff around the house), but I never seem to get anywhere although I have a bunch of things I’ve started but not completed. How do I get to the next stage?

–Expert at Starting but not Finishing (United States)


Well, the great thing is you have the most difficult piece covered—having a lot of creative ideas.

Maybe you could pick two small projects and finish them to give you a boost in confidence in your ability to complete them. Later, if you’re a person that fares better with multiple projects going on, you can have one small project and one longer-term project going on at the same time. And even with the larger project, you can break it into smaller, more manageable segments (like having a goal to finish three pages a day or a chapter a week).

Also, ground yourself (email to request a free exercise on grounding) and ground your creative space as well (both the physical space you work in as well as the energetic space of each project).

Notice too any anxiety or fear that comes up as you imagine having all your projects complete and let all of those fears go.




I really want to be a movie critic. How can I get a job like that?

–Wanna be a female Ebert (United States)


You picked the perfect time in history to be born. The internet offers a democratization of media that did not exist before. You don’t have to be born into a position like that. You don’t even really have to have connections. If you do know anyone or anyone who knows anyone, though, start by asking them about internships or entry-level positions or other opportunities.

If you don’t, start a blog and faithfully write some reviews of your favorite movies. They don’t all have to be new releases, although at least one or two should be. You can have a “Classics” section or “See it Again” or something. Then write the best reviews you possibly can and post them on a website or blog. These days, there are many blog hosts that are free. Once you get a decent sampling of say ten to twenty reviews up, start contacting some of the big and indie movie companies and ask them to put you on their list for review copies. They might not all respond, but you can build your. Right now, truly, hard work and innovation and your talent can get you everywhere. Once you get at least 10 reviews up, set aside time every day for administrative stuff, marketing, etc., and do it faithfully. You can have the best site ever but you need to spread the word too, including through friends and other connections.

Have fun, female Ebert! 



My daughter is eight years old but she already tells me she wants to go on a diet or that she’s fat but really she’s just at fifty-second percentile for her age and height.  Totally average so she really doesn’t need to worry. What should I do?

–Worried Mom (Canada)


Start by having a conversation with her about why she thinks she is fat and needs to go on a diet. Kudos for being alert to these energies to keep an eye on her before these patterns can develop even further into a more serious disease.

Although modern-day kids are deluged by unrealistic expectations and pressures to look a certain way, you can counteract unhealthy influences. To support an optimal healthy body image in your daughter, try the following:

  • Be very aware how you (and anybody else in the household) speak about or judge your own or other people’s bodies, even when you don’t think she’s listening or paying attention.
  • Use loving, positive language about your body; e.g., “I love how strong my arms are” or “I love that my legs help me run these marathons” or “I love that my legs are so strong that I can be on my feet all day at work” or “I love my beautiful curvy hips that helped me give birth to you.”
  • Pay attention to what kind of television shows, movies, or other media she is exposed to. Try to choose shows that portray healthy body expectations and values.
  • Validate her health and her body’s health and emphasize health rather than looks.
  • Consider signing her up for a sport she is interested in so she can gain confidence in what her body can do in sports and the enjoyment of activities rather than just seeing her body as something that is supposed to look a certain way.

Also, notice her behavior and words and her eating patterns. If things continue without improvement or get worse, please seek out a health-care professional in the near future for assistance so this doesn’t become a life-threatening issue. Thank you for paying attention to this important issue at an early stage.

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