09 May 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, exes, orphan, orphan magnet, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Five of my exes have been orphans. What’s up with that? I don’t even know that they’re orphans when I meet them and we first start going out.
–Male Orphan Magnet (United States)
DEAR MAGNET:
That is a very interesting pattern in your life and I congratulate you for looking at this. I’m assuming you’re not an orphan yourself as you did not mention being one, in which case do you notice yourself taking on the role of healer in relationships, thereby attracting someone that is looking for a knight in shining armor, a savior, or perhaps a parental figure?
If you want, when you’re dating, notice if you are drawn to people you want to help or if you are putting out vibes of being a helper instead of an equal partner/helpmate. Also notice if there’s a part of you that needs to do for people instead of simply being in a relationship. Also notice—do you feel like you need to DO for someone in order to be able to have a relationship? That perhaps you do not feel worthy of being in a relationship by simply being, not doing?
Have fun noticing these dynamics and creating whatever dynamics you want.
08 May 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, job, nepotism, owner’s son, passive-aggressive co-worker, sloppy co-worker, spiritual advice column, work
DEAR DALI MAMA:
How can I deal with nepotism on the job? One of my co-workers, the owner’s son, deserves to be let go but he knows he’ll never be fired. He’s even said so. He always leaves work behind for the rest of us to finish (it’s a small company with a small staff) and is very sloppy in the work he does do, creating problems for all of us and for the company. He is very passive-aggressive and it’s extremely aggravating. How can we deal with this problem?
–Aggravated (United States)
DEAR AGGRAVATED:
Do the best you can at your job and pay attention to how much (if anything) the owner is actually willing to hear about his/her son or the situation before speaking to him/her, if you even decide to. As far as the son, tread lightly as well and pay attention to how the son might draw his parent into work dramas and use his position to alienate any co-workers who refuse to enable his behavior.
I can imagine that this is a very frustrating situation. Try, however, to be neutral and perhaps even amused at the comedy inherent in the situation—this will make it easier to shift the energies.
In your particular case, I suggest you notice any energetic matches you have with the owner. For example, what choices are you making in your own life that go against your best interests? For example, think about people you try to help in your own life or include who are actually working against you or your interests in some way or who simply don’t care about your needs or wants. Also consider if there are any areas in your life that you haven’t paid attention to—thinking about or even knowing what some of your own needs are, any areas in which you’re doing the lion’s share of work or responsibilities in your personal life as well as professional life, etc. Then intend to reset the energies of your life (career, family, friendships, etc.) to support you in your wholeness and divinity.
Enjoy shifting the energy and noticing what happens as you do so.
06 May 2014
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I’ve had this same job for 18 years but now I feel so unmotivated. They pay is good and the people are nice but sometimes I just want to scream. I don’t know what else I’d do if I left though, or how I would pay the bills. Do you have any suggestions?
–Am I Lazy or What? (United States)
DEAR AM I:
A very wise man and teacher, Michael Tamura, once told me that motivation doesn’t disappear. It just goes somewhere else.
Follow your motivation to wherever it has gone. What excites you? What would you love to do? Then start doing it, even as a hobby and see where it leads. You don’t have to quit your job for now. Just start exploring and follow your heart. It may lead you to some miracles.
Have fun cultivating your passion.
Note to readers: I apologize for my absence over the last few days. I thought I would have Internet access where I was but did not. I did, however, while I was “out,” get to experience a wonderful sweat lodge led by a beautiful healer and also meet a wonderful photographer, who I will be featuring in a future Sunday Share. Anyway, thanks for your patience and thanks for joining me. And as always, feel free to email a question of your own if you’d like to askdalimama@gmail.com.
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02 May 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: administrative, advice column, ask dali mama, blog, connections, dali mama, democratization of media, Ebert, marketing, movie critic, movie reviews, movies, networking, review copies, spiritual advice column, website
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I really want to be a movie critic. How can I get a job like that?
–Wanna be a female Ebert (United States)
DEAR FEMALE EBERT:
You picked the perfect time in history to be born. The internet offers a democratization of media that did not exist before. You don’t have to be born into a position like that. You don’t even really have to have connections. If you do know anyone or anyone who knows anyone, though, start by asking them about internships or entry-level positions or other opportunities.
If you don’t, start a blog and faithfully write some reviews of your favorite movies. They don’t all have to be new releases, although at least one or two should be. You can have a “Classics” section or “See it Again” or something. Then write the best reviews you possibly can and post them on a website or blog. These days, there are many blog hosts that are free. Once you get a decent sampling of say ten to twenty reviews up, start contacting some of the big and indie movie companies and ask them to put you on their list for review copies. They might not all respond, but you can build your. Right now, truly, hard work and innovation and your talent can get you everywhere. Once you get at least 10 reviews up, set aside time every day for administrative stuff, marketing, etc., and do it faithfully. You can have the best site ever but you need to spread the word too, including through friends and other connections.
Have fun, female Ebert!
01 May 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, beliefs, blocking a healing, dali mama, energy healing, fear, havingness, healing, healing modalities, in-person hewing, karma, long-distance healing, resistance, spirit, spiritual advice column, subtle effects of a healing, teachings of an illness
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I’ve had healings and had amazing results and so I sent my husband to get a healing with this woman that really helped me, but he didn’t notice any changes. Why do some people heal and others don’t?
–Wondering (Canada)
DEAR WONDERING:
That’s a great question. There are a number of possible reasons. Here are just a few of the common ones:
1) Some modalities may work better for one individual or their particular condition at that time than for others.
2) Sometimes different illnesses or conditions have teachings that a spirit has signed up for in this lifetime and the person may have not yet completed the lessons and is therefore not ready or willing as a spirit to finish the teaching of their condition.
3) An individual’s beliefs may affect how much they can HAVE the healing. For example, some people can have just as powerful a remote, long-distance healing as an in-person healing, while another person may believe that a long-distance healing cannot be as effective, so they may not allow as much of the healing.
4) Sometimes different energies, such as fear or resistance, can block an individual’s ability to heal at that time.
5) With particular conditions, sometimes a healer has to start at a particular point that the individual may not be aware of and something has in fact changed, but the person did not notice or may not notice as the healing process can continue over as long as six months or longer. Sometimes, too, the physical body can only process a little of the healing at that time because processing all of it at once would be too much of a shock for the body.
30 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, following your heart, motivation, paying the bills, quitting my job, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I’ve had this same job for 18 years but now I feel so unmotivated. They pay is good and the people are nice but sometimes I just want to scream. I don’t know what else I’d do if I left though, or how I would pay the bills. Do you have any suggestions?
–Am I Lazy or What? (United States)
DEAR AM I:
A very wise man and teacher, Michael Tamura, once told me that motivation doesn’t disappear. It just goes somewhere else.
Follow your motivation to wherever it has gone. What excites you? What would you love to do? Then start doing it, even as a hobby and see where it leads. You don’t have to quit your job for now. Just start exploring and follow your heart. It may lead you to some miracles.
Have fun cultivating your passion.
29 Apr 2014
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Is it possible that there is a part of my soul that is wandering around in another body? I get the weird feeling that this is happening for me. Am I crazy?
–??? (United States)
Dear ???:
It is indeed possible. Sometimes pieces of your soul might be in other times or even in other bodies that are wandering around doing their own thing. A good example of soul efficiency and delegation, if you will. Sometimes you can get more done with two bodies/lives than with one.
So much is possible that the human cannot even begin to comprehend.
Trust your intuition.
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26 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: adjustment period, advice column, ask dali mama, creating space for a partner, dali mama, ego, ex and best friendship are in a relationship, fear, intimacy, partner, power, process your emotions, romantic relathionship, spiritual advice column, staying friends with an ex, trust, wholeness
DEAR DALI MAMA:
This is kind of a stupid question. Nobody wants to sleep with me. Women find me really creepy. But I don’t see where I’m any different than my buddies who say the same kinds of things or dress the same way or drive the same kinds of cars or have the same sorts of jobs or whatever the hell else. But women go off with them and one even told my friend that I am creepy. What do YOU think is going on?
–What the $@C!? (United States)
DEAR WHAT THE:
Congratulations on taking a look at this. Many people would not have the courage to look at this and would simply dismiss it and not deal with it.
“Creepiness” doesn’t really have anything to do with clothes or car or jobs per se although certain things can contribute to a creepy vibe.
Maybe one of the things that is going on is that women are noticing things on an energetic level, which may not even have to do with your own authentic energy.
When I have met people who had a creepy vibe, usually what was happening was one or more of the following:
1) They were unaware of what their energy was doing and they were cording other people energetically (hooking into their energy and sometimes sucking it sort like an energy vampire) and/or their energy was invasive and not respecting of the other person’s boundaries. In this case, it’s helpful to meditate regularly and keep intending to call all your energy back to you in divine form and intend to release any cords. Also release any anger, any resistance, and any “creepy energy” and any other energy that is not yours and intend to fill in your body and aura layers with your true divine energy.
2) They had other people’s creepy energy absorbed into and running through their bodies, making them seem creepy. For example, if you’ve been on a fishing boat, cleaning fish or just riding on the boat, you’d probably come home with your body and your hair and your clothes smelling like fish even if you aren’t a fish. Which would require you to take a shower and wash your clothes before you no longer smelled fishy. Fortunately, you can do the same thing with your energy, cleaning off energy that’s not yours, by meditating or getting a healing.
3) Sometimes people carry around pictures that get stuck on them that they resist and they attract even more pictures in a similar vibration. For example, maybe one day, someone a long time ago told you that you were creepy or you heard them say their were creepy and you resisted that because of course who wants to be thought of as creepy? But when you resist the picture that gets in your space that you unconsciously wear around on your auras, it attracts even more creepy pictures or maybe people just notice the big old creepy picture on you and mistakenly think that you are creepy. Try not to resist being thought of as creepy and just keep validating the beautiful clean, respectful, light spirit you are inside and it’ll act like Teflon for any creepy pictures that happen to be stuck to you.
Have fun developing and seeing and showing the real you.
25 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, breeds, certainty, Cesar Millan, communicate with dog's spirit, dali mama, dog trainer, dog whisperer, exercise, love, picking a breed that fits your personality, picking a breed that's a good fit for your lifestyle, psychic pictures, spiritual advice column, vibration of love and certainty
DEAR DALI MAMA:
What do you recommend for training dogs? I’m thinking about getting a dog but I’ve never had a dog before.
–Puppy Lover (United States)
DEAR PUPPY LOVER:
Congratulations for thinking about this BEFORE getting a dog. How you set the tone and provide a good foundation for a long life together with your dog is essential.
Once you establish a relationship with your dog and train your dog properly, you might even want to consider getting a second dog if, for example, the dog would be alone during the daytime while you’re at work. That way, your dog would have a pal to hang out with while you’re at work.
First, research what kind of dog you want to get so you can ensure that you can pick a dog that is a good match for you. Some dogs need tons of exercise, which is great if you’re an avid hiker or walker but not so great if you aren’t.
Next, check out Cesar Millan, the dog whisperer. He has a show and books and DVDs.
Also, communicate with your dog’s spirit and be consistent and communicate in psychic pictures as much as possible in a vibration of love and certainty.
Wishing you a wonderful life with your dog, who is very lucky to be with someone like you.
24 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, agitated, anger, ask dali mama, dali mama, emotional, energetic damage, feeling worse, grief, growth period, healing, healing damage from a "healing", irritable, raw, resistance, shaman, spicy, spiritual advice column, stuck energy, tired, wired
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I had a healing with this shaman and I’ve felt really awful since then. What’s going on?
–Feeling Worse than Before (Brazil)
DEAR FEELING WORSE:
Sometimes when someone gives you a “healing” but the energy isn’t really clean or the healer isn’t truly aware of what’s happening with the energies, sometimes you could be affected by foreign energies or your etheric body may be damaged and you may feel worse than you did before the healing.
Sometimes, however, a person may feel worse after a wonderful healing for a period of time, usually immediately after to a few days or longer. We call this a “growth period,” a period of time during which you continue to release the old energies that needed to go while your body integrates the new shifts in energies. The most intense part of the growth period is usually no longer than a week or so, but a milder form of the growth period may continue months.
For example, if you released grief during the healing, you may feel more emotional or raw. If you released anger, you might feel irritable for a while. Some people experience growth periods as a time where they feel spacy or tired or wired and agitated. If you’re experiencing a growth period, just keep validating the healing process and stay neutral to the energies you’re releasing. If you resist them, they tend to get stuck again.
If you feel that you’re not in a growth period but actually had some energetic damage done to you, please see a reputable healer that you trust who can help repair any damage.
23 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, boyfriend, communication, dali mama, dog, dog hates my boyfriend, dog trainer, jealousy, protective, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I just started dating someone and my dog, who usually likes everybody, really hates my new boyfriend. She starts growling and barking at him. I’ve never seen her react like that to anyone else. Should I find a dog trainer? What should I do?
–Wondering What’s Going On (Australia)
DEAR WONDERING:
If your dog never acts like this with anyone else, pay attention. If your dog has seen you with other boyfriends and has not acted aggressively, she is probably trying to tell you something. If she has never seen you with a boyfriend before, she might just be protective or even jealous. Sit down and try to communicate with your dog about what she is trying to tell you. Notice, too, if there are particular times she barks at your boyfriend. Notice also how your boyfriend treats your dog. She might be trying to alert you to various energies coming through him that you’re not aware of. Or she may be trying to let you know something about your boyfriend in general.
I wouldn’t worry about a dog trainer just yet but keep an eye on how things are going and call one if you need to.
Thank your dog for her communication. Most of all, though, pay attention to your own intuition and your own knowingness in response to your boyfriend.
22 Apr 2014
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am 36 years old and have a new boyfriend after having been single for a few years. I find intercourse painful every time and wonder what suggestions you might have. I almost want to give up dating but maybe there is another way.
–Embarrassed (England)
DEAR EMBARRASSED:
Please continue dating. There is no reason this has to keep you from being in a relationship.
Keep communicating with your boyfriend. If he’s the one for you, he’ll understand and work through this with you.
First of all, talk to your doctor or health-care professional to ensure there’s not a physical issue that needs to be addressed. There are a number of possible medical causes for this, so talk to your doctor about possible causes and solutions.
If there are no particular medical conditions, start by experimenting with the following:
1) Be sure to use condoms and practice safe sex.
2) Engage in lots of foreplay and wait till you feel completely comfortable and turned on before penetration, and use plenty of lubricant.
3) When you’re not sexually active and your hormone levels could be changing, it may help to keep everything nicely elastic on your own while you’re single. It’s generally easier to keep things maintained through regular sex (including with yourself even when you are not with a partner). However, you can still get your body used to accommodating something inside of you with yourself or with your partner, perhaps starting with something smaller like maybe a finger, then two, etc. Medical vaginal dilator kits are also available, and you can go up in size gradually, getting your body used to accommodating something inside of you until you can physically enjoy intercourse with your new boyfriend without discomfort.
On an energetic level, release any fear or blocks about intimacy and any energy that doesn’t serve you between you and your partner as well as any fears about being vulnerable or getting hurt. Then reset your sexual space to comfort and ease and pleasure.
Enjoy the journey!
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21 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, changing dynamics at work, dali mama, how to interact with former colleagues, promotion, socializing at work, spiritual advice column, transition
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I have been working at my company for seven years. I got promoted recently and now I feel very awkward with my former workmates, who are now working under me. How should I handle this transition? I’m not quite sure what to do. I still want to socialize with them but I feel like I can’t.
–In Transition (United States)
DEAR IN TRANSITION:
When your position changes within your workplace, it can be a bit of an adjustment. This is a good opportunity to show your leadership in other ways than just managing work activities. Be friendly yet professional. This means you may have to interact with your former colleagues differently. Don’t engage in any sort of gossip. Treat everyone with respect but you may have distance yourself socially from any close personal relationships so you don’t seem to be playing favorites. You might want to also ask your former coworkers for suggestions for your department as well as for feedback. Get to know your new peers more (people in the same corporate levels as you, etc.). Once you’re really settled in your new position and have had a chance to do thorough research while in your new position, you can start to gradually make changes at work. Finally, really own your new position—the authority and the right to do your new job well, having done your former job successfully and worked your way up. On an energetic level, this will help set the tone for your new job and will help your former colleagues see you as a leader in your new role.
Enjoy your new position!
20 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, can't lose, clear eyes, dali mama, Friday Night Lights, full hearts, spiritual advice column, sunday share, tv shows
“Clear eyes, full hearts. Can’t lose.”
—Friday Night Lights
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