15 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Uncategorized
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, effort, how to reclaim my old self, joie de vivre, perfectionism, procrastination, resistance, small steps towards your dream, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I used to be a very capable, bright, talented, high-achieving person. Then life happened! So I wanna ask: How do you get your motivation/joie de vivre/get up and go/your drive and pizzazz back, when life has kicked it out of you over a prolonged period of unbearable hardship? The rollercoaster of horror is over now and life and I are a zillion times better–THANK GOD–but I want the old fiery me back. I miss her….
Everything I used to touch would turn to gold–big or small. I want to be able to manifest things like I used to–in a nano-second. I don’t mean in a spiritual sense–wish or ask for something and it manifests. I mean through my hard work, which used to be as fun, enjoyable and effortless as child’s play. Now what used to be spontaneously done without a second thought feels like an obligation or heavy chore. Procrastination is where I’m at.
I’m getting worked on by the Entities of Light and Love that work through John of God in Brazil. This is helping immeasurably and they’ve cleaned me up good and proper from depression, etc. They’ve been my savior–for want of a less evangelical word.
Any ideas on how I can help this situation along? Gain momentum and get me, myself, and I back–in all her glory…. I feel the need to achieve big in life again!! Thank you.
–Me, Myself and I (Brazil)
DEAR ME, MYSELF, AND I:
First of all, validate that you still are a very capable, bright, talented, high-achieving person. The joy is still in you as well, even if sometimes it gets a little buried under other stuff.
You are lucky to be getting healings through John of God from the Entities of Light and Love. Sometimes when you’re getting massive healings such as at the Casa in Brazil, in the process of dumping a lot of old energies that no longer serve you, it may temporarily seem even more overwhelming to get things done but remember, it’s just temporary.
Enjoy exactly where you’re at and don’t try to be anywhere but where you are for the moment. If you try to go back to the old joy and the old ways, it creates a form of resistance/effort. Perfectionism is also a form of resistance, as is procrastination. The more you can just be and take little steps towards your dreams, embracing the joy of the present moment, the more you will be able to produce and achieve. Play with this process and play with what manifesting looks like from your new state of being.
I suspect you will be able achieve even more, as well as to resonate in joy as you immerse yourself in the divine flow.
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14 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Health
Tags: absorbing energies for others, advice column, alcohol, ask dali mama, being present to energies, dali mama, energies related to difficulties in losing weight, healthy boundaries, losing weight, spiritual advice column, weight loss
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I’m trying to lose weight but am having a really hard time. What causes this difficulty?
–Overweight, Overdo (Canada)
DEAR OVERS:
There are many physical and energetic aspects related to both being overweight and difficulty losing weight.
One of the primary energetic challenges I see is that sometimes the extra weight has served as a buffer for the person feeling the energies within themselves that they’re buffering against. Common energies may include a need for healthier boundaries between themselves and others, a tendency to absorb unwanted energies for other people, and simply not wanting to feel energies within themselves (including energies from childhood) that made them pop out of their body somewhat by excessive drinking, eating more than their bodies truly wanted, or other reasons.
When a person begins to cut down on unwanted weight, they can hit up against all those energies that made them put it on in the first place. If you can be present to these energies and process them, you’ll be able to drop the weight that much easier on an energetic level.
Congratulations on looking at this so you can move forward more consciously and confidently. I wish you good health.
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13 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Health
Tags: advice column, alcohol, ask dali mama, dali mama, doctor, drugs, high-glycemic foods, nutritionist, protein, spiritual advice column, sugar addiction, sugar withdrawal
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am addicted to sugar. It’s as bad as if I were an alcoholic, only sugar is my poison—pastries, ice cream, straight sugar, you name it. What causes this and how do I get this bitter/sweet monkey off my back?
–Tweaking (United States)
DEAR TWEAKING:
You are exactly right that sugar can be just as much an addiction as alcohol. Or drugs or anything for that matter.
You might have to go off sugar totally for a few weeks—pastries, ice cream, sodas, fruit juice, and maybe even high-glycemic stuff such as pasta and rice. You might even be one of those people that pretty much needs to go off certain sugary foods for good in order to control your consumption of sugars. You’ll have to experiment with that. The first couple weeks, you might go into major withdrawal.
Try to recognize triggers that make you want to eat sugar and substitute healthy activities into your life instead—eating protein such as raw almonds or going for a walk. Sometimes stress or sadness or other emotions may make you want to eat sugar. Sugar, like alcohol or drugs, tends to pop you out of the body, temporarily making it easier to “deal” with whatever you’re avoiding by popping you out of the emotional or psychic pain you’re trying to escape from, consciously or not. However, those energies never really get dealt with if you pop out through sugar or other substances so kudos on really dealing with this so you can get to the root of the issue.
Talk to your doctor or nutritionist for specific suggestions tailored to your individual health needs. Congratulations on making this positive change to support your optimal health!
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12 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Love & Relationships
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, broken heart, dali mama, loss, mourning, spiritual advice column, twin flame, twin flame has passed away
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Please, I need help. The love of my life of 46 years has passed, I know he was my twin flame and I can’t go on without him. It has only been a few days I have gotten so many signs, but that is not enough. I want him incarnate back to earth somehow in another person (you know what I am saying). Have you ever heard of this? Please tell me what you know about this and how can I make this happen.
–Missing Him (Country Unknown)
DEAR MISSING HIM:
I am very sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine exactly what it is like for you to lose your twin flame. Your love will reincarnate on earth but it might not be right away. You might need to wait until your next time as well so you can both be closer in age to each other or able to meet more easily next time around.
Although there have been some cases where people incarnate into another’s body (like a walk-in), it is not always the best thing in every circumstance.
I suggest you pray that you will both come together in the physical and meet again in divine timing that is right for both of you.
In the meantime, although it is not the same of course, keep communicating to your beloved in spirit. We all are spirit and therefore we are all eternal. Please know that your spiritual and love bond will never be broken even when he is without his previous body.
My heart is with you in this challenging time. I hope that, if you want, you will try to have joy and love as your twin flame would wish for you to have.
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11 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Love & Relationships
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, competition, dali mama, family friend, insecurity, one-ups, one-upsmanship, resistance to competition, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I have this family friend I work with that is driving me nuts. Anytime I mention anything, she has to one-up me. If I say I went to the mountains over the weekend, she says her husband is taking her on a one-week cruise to Hawaii. If I say my daughter is excited about going to college, she says her daughter won some big scholarship to a great school. If I mention my husband at all, she brings up how these head hunters are trying to recruit her husband for some huge-paying job. (My husband was laid off and is between jobs at the moment, so this one smarts a little.)
I don’t really buy into the status game or materialism thing or anything, but I find myself getting so irritated nevertheless. Please advise.
–Baffled (United States)
DEAR BAFFLED:
First of all, know that this woman must be very insecure and unhappy with her life if she constantly needs to one-up you on everything. This is probably exacerbated by the fact that you are family friends. I don’t know how long you have known each other, but sometimes family friends can light up a person’s insecurity and competition even more than general acquaintances or friends.
Second, know that resistance to competition (even when you’re not necessarily a competitive person) can sometimes make you stuck in the competition energy, AKA the good ole rat race. So whenever your friend tries to drag you into the one-upmanship game, just validate you and your life for exactly what it is and be grateful to all that is. If you want, you can also keep the details of your life to yourself so as not to give her any ammunition to use to try to pull you into that game. And give her space to be exactly where she is at, knowing she’s doing her best as she knows it to be.
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08 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Uncategorized
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, changing negative thinking, dali mama, how to think positively, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
How do I change my negative thinking patterns?
–Negative Nellie (United States)
DEAR N.N.:
Well, by asking this question, I’d say you’ve already done the most important thing. You became aware of existing negative-thinking patterns and did something with conscious effort to change—you wrote in with this question!
The next step is an ongoing process. Notice whenever a negative thought pops into your mind and then transform it into a manageable, positive thought. For example, if you look around at clutter around you and think, “I can never organize my house,” you could perhaps instead think, “I am going to throw away any dried-up pens from my desk,” thereby breaking up what seems an impossible goal into smaller manageable tasks and validating what you accomplished.
This is something you can do with any type of negative thoughts. I congratulate you on making this important change in your life.
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07 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Children, Work
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, how to deal with parents, spiritual advice column, teachers
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am a junior-high teacher. How do I handle parents that think everything their kid does wrong is my fault?
–Fed up (United States)
DEAR FED UP:
I can empathize with all of the responsibility put on teachers in this era. While you cannot force parents (or the kids, for that matter) to take responsibility for their own obligations, perhaps you can improve the situation with clear communication. Perhaps you could make a clear plan with three sections (parental responsibilities and agreements, student responsibilities and agreements, and teacher responsibilities and agreements).
Create a chart and perhaps you could meet with the parents and student together to come to an agreement about what part each of you will take in improving the situation. That way, you create buy-in from all parties as well as clear, agreed-upon delineation of each party’s responsibilities and obligations. Fill out the chart together and make copies for each party and have everyone sign their name to signify their understanding of the agreement and their promise to do their part.
Try it and see what happens. Let me know if you want how it goes.
Thanks for your hard work. Good teachers are an essential part of a good future.
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06 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Love & Relationships
Tags: advice column, am I obligated to marry, ask dali mama, commitment, dali mama, don’t want to get married, marriage, relationships, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am a 53-year-old man and have never been married. I have been with my girlfriend for 9 years. She is pushing to get married, but I just don’t want to. I feel like I owe her because we’ve been together so long. Any advice?
–Feeling obligated (Canada)
DEAR FEELING OBLIGATED:
Be clear with her you don’t want to get married if you don’t want to get married. Obligation and guilt are not good reasons to make a lifelong commitment with someone.
Also, a marriage built on obligation is unlikely to succeed, much less last.
If you are very clear with her that you do not want to get married and never want to get married, it is her choice to stay or to go under those circumstances.
Also, if the two of you end up breaking up, if you want, be clear right from the get-go that you never wish to get married when you start dating someone (preferably before you sleep with them).
I wish you both whatever is for your individual and mutual highest good.
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05 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Uncategorized
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, body insecurity, body issues, butt, dali mama, flat butt, loving your body, loving your butt, spiritual advice column, validating your body
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Hi. I just read your post on jealousy (from July 29, 2014) and it makes for interesting reading as I’m into a guy who loves big, curvy butts on women. He keeps talking about his love affair with big J.Lo-type butts…! I have a fairly flat, non-existent butt which I have never had an issue with before but with him I now feel a little insecure—what if my butt’s not sexy enough for him to find me attractive when the clothes come off…
Don’t think it’s a past life dynamic. But it makes me feel not good enough physically. What to do?
—Buttless (Ireland)
DEAR BUTTLESS:
Love your butt and, for that matter, your whole body exactly how it is. When you feel sexy, you are sexy.
Sometimes people may make comments like that to bring up insecurity in someone so they may have a better chance with him/her or to gauge if they have a chance with them if they get jealous. Sometimes people make comments like that because they’re just saying whatever pops into their head.
If he is not satisfied with you because you don’t have a bigger butt, he doesn’t deserve to be with your butt and you can make room for someone who appreciates your butt and all of you exactly how you are.
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04 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Uncategorized
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, balance issues, clumsiness, clumsy, coordination, dali mama, doctor, grounded, grounding, klutzy, medical, spiritual advice column, ungrounded
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Why am I sometimes so klutzy and sometimes not? It’s weird.
–Semi-Klutz (United States)
DEAR SEMI:
Consult with your doctor and make sure there isn’t a medical cause for this.
Barring any medical issues, sometimes we can be very grounded and graceful—fully inhabiting our body, present in the moment on the physical plane, etc. Sometimes we can float around, mostly out of our body, which is when limbs tend to go akimbo and cracks in the sidewalk appear under our feet, and we start stumbling over things.
The more you can focus on being grounded and fully in your body, the less klutzy you will be.
Play with that and see!
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02 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Love & Relationships, Sex
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, dating a married man, my boyfriend is married, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
My boyfriend is married. He says he no longer sleeps with his wife and that they have an understanding. I am really not feeling good about this, though. Is it ever okay to sleep with someone that’s married even in these circumstances?
–Doormat (United States)
DEAR DM (I so don’t want to call you “Doormat”:
I think the main issue here is that you don’t feel good about the situation and that you feel like a doormat for sleeping with someone even though he says he’s no longer sexually involved with his wife. Because of this, I would end it unless/until he is actually divorced.
Also, sometimes unfortunately some people say they have an understanding with their partner and are no longer sleeping with them but that is not always the truth. The energy is much cleaner and clearer if they’re either legally divorced or if his wife comes up to you and says, “Yeah, we’re married but no longer sleep together and you have my blessing.” Which is not terribly likely.
Even if you’re alone for a while, being alone and proud of your choices will be worth it and will create space for you to meet someone who is truly available.
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01 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Sex
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, g-spot, heart, mind, penis size, spirit, spiritual advice column, vagina
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Do you think penis size matters to women? Women have told me it doesn’t but I wonder.
–Worried (Somewhere)
DEAR WORRIED:
The way you use your penis is probably much more important than its size. Also, the majority of the interior of the vaginal canal doesn’t really have a whole lot of nerve endings. It’s the outer third of the vagina, especially near the opening, that’s more sensitive.
Also, keep in mind the G-spot is generally within 1 to 3 inches from the vaginal opening. Maybe you could actually invent some cool technique with your assets and use it to target your woman’s G-spot perhaps.
Remember, too, that confidence is the sexiest thing in a man, so be confident and proud of your penis. Validate it and your woman will appreciate you (and it) all the more.
I would also add that your heart, your mind, and your spirit and the way you treat your woman are much more important and invaluable than anything that can be measured by a ruler.
At any rate, the woman who is right for you will love all of you and find your penis to be the perfect one for her.
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