13 Sep 2014
by askdalimama
in Uncategorized
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, beings, dali mama, hearing conversations in my head, obsessors, spiritual advice column, telepathic abilities
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Sometimes I think I hear people’s conversations in my head—talking to me or talking to someone else about me. Is this really possible?
–Am I Crazy? (Canada)
DEAR AM I:
Sometimes people with strong telepathic abilities can hear people’s telepathic conversations with you, or about you. Sometimes, however, people hear other entities communicating with them—sometimes entities who do not have your or anyone else’s highest good in mind. The question is discerning which it is. I recommend you look into signing up for a clairvoyant program so you can develop the awareness to learn the difference between the two.
Don’t be afraid of this gift. Although it may seem a burden, it can be a gift once you learn to use it safely.
If the voices are telling you to do anything harmful to yourself or to others, these are likely negative entities. In this case, email me and I will refer you to people or organizations who could help you with this. But I also urge you to consult your medical doctor to see if anything medical needs to be done as well.
12 Sep 2014
by askdalimama
in Love & Relationships
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, bonding, dali mama, growing apart from husband, love, marriage, quality time, spiritual advice column, spouses growing apart, stale marriage
DEAR DALI MAMA: sept 12
I love my husband dearly and we have been married 17 years. I feel we’ve grown apart, however, and he has no interest in talking about or doing many of the things that have come to be very important to me. What should I/we do?
–Drifting Away (United States)
DEAR DRIFTING AWAY:
That’s important that you’re recognizing this drifting so you can both do something to address it. First, keep in mind that no one person can ever be everything that you want or have compatible characteristics on every level. For example, if you love going to the theater and your husband would rather be hung upside down for three hours than stuck in a theater for three hours, find a friend who loves the theater as much as you do and buy season tickets with that friend.
And hopefully there is at least one thing in all of the million possible things to do that you can both enjoy together. Play with the possibilities and find one or two things you can do together regularly to bond and spend quality time with each other. Since you still love him dearly, that is the most important thing and there is hope for the two of you. Ultimately, though, you both will have to do the work necessary or to decide together to let the marriage go if you’ve both truly drifted away to the point of no return.
Congratulations on doing the hard work necessary and taking a look at this.
11 Sep 2014
by askdalimama
in Love & Relationships
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, friendship, friendship dynamics, mothering, relationship dynamics, smothering, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I often hang out with two female friends (I am a guy). I really like them but sometimes I feel picked at, like maybe they’re mothering me. Like they critique my clothes or talk about how to find a girlfriend for me—none of which I ever asked them to do. How do I change this dynamic? Still want to hang out with them but this is getting old.
–A Man (United States)
DEAR MAN:
Good awareness for looking at this. This is quite a common dynamic in U.S. culture, where women are often trained to “mother” men or try to “fix” them in some way, even when he doesn’t need fixing.
You might want to have a conversation with both of them at the same time and let them know how you feel. You’re probably going to have to train them to start interacting with you in a different way.
You might also want to notice if this is a common dynamic in your life—with friends, with your mother, with women at work, or whatever. If so, this could be a sign that you’re learning how to own your authority and certainty. When you’re obviously in your power—wearing your clothes with confidence no matter what you’re wearing, or certain and confident in dating and your choice of partners, most people don’t have the desire (or the nerve) to try to tell you what to do when you’re really owning your choices. Play with that and see what happens in your life and with the dynamic with your two friends.
09 Sep 2014
by askdalimama
in Love & Relationships
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, etiquette, flaky friends, friendship, integrity, spiritual advice column, trust
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I have a friend that constantly schedules with me, then cancels at the last minute. My friend’s sweet and fun but I’m beginning to feel the friendship is not worth it. What are your thoughts?
–Feeling Not So Friendly Anymore (United States)
DEAR FEELING:
Well, first you might want to use this opportunity to clear any energetic matches you have with your friend. It sounds like you’re not the type of person to schedule then flake out with your friends. Are you just as reliable at work? Or with family? Or with things that are just for you—like exercise, quiet time for yourself, journaling, staying within your budget, or whatever it is that you need to do just for you? Observe if you have any similar energetic matches with your friend and release them if you want, and call back all your reliability for yourself.
Next, you might want to sit down with your friend and have a talk if you haven’t already. Let them know this habit bothers you and let them know some specifics of how it has inconvenienced you—for example, maybe you turned down an invitation to a concert because you had already committed to getting together with this friend.
You might want to decide on the consequence of this behavior should it recur in the future. For example, in the future, maybe either you’ll only invite them to group parties where it doesn’t matter exactly how many people there are, or maybe you will decide to just use your time and energy getting together with people who keep their commitments to you in the same way you keep your commitments to them.
08 Sep 2014
by askdalimama
in Money
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, business partner, dali mama, entrepreneur, spiritual advice column, starting a business, starting a business alone
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Do you think it’s better to start a business alone or with someone else?
–Beginning Entrepreneur (Brazil)
DEAR ENTREPRENEUR:
Whether you should do a business alone or with a partner has a lot to do with your personality and how you work best.
Also, if you pick a partner, picking the right match for you is paramount. It must be someone who is compatible with your working style, someone trustworthy, someone who has skills you don’t have who can complement your skill set, etc. If you start a business with someone, it must be the right person for it to work.
Keep in mind that, no matter how ideal your business partner is, running a business alone or together will force both of you to look at all kinds of issues within yourself as you’re creating this time. Learn these lessons willingly before you’re forced to look at them the hard way.
Also, no matter how great a match that business partner is for you, it is important for you both to sit down and clarify your expectations of each other, delineate responsibilities, and decide how you would divvy the assets and profits in every possible circumstance and outcome up front so there is no quibbling over the details later. All this should be in writing so there is no confusion over the two of you remembering things differently, etc. Plus writing everything out will force both of you to really plan everything out ahead of time and think about potential outcomes and scenarios.
Check into available resources such as www.entrepreneur.com or your Chamber of Commerce or other business organizations for more information.
07 Sep 2014
by askdalimama
in Sunday's Share
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, Charlie Brown, dali mama, Hey Ya, Hey Ya song, Outkast, peanuts, Snoopy, Song, spiritual advice column, sunday share
TODAY’S SUNDAY SHARE: Outkast song “Hey Ya” to Charlie Brown animation
This one always makes me laugh and want to dance:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XuGvBJ6-PjA
06 Sep 2014
by askdalimama
in Uncategorized
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, birthday present, dali mama, present, present for boyfriend, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
My boyfriend has a birthday coming up. Are there certain things that I should avoid getting him as a present—energetically, that is?
–Birthday Buyer (England)
DEAR BIRTHDAY BUYER:
Certain cultures say to avoid certain types of presents. Some say, for example, avoid buying him a knife because that signifies cutting the relationship energetically.
I say to get him whatever he would like that feels good to you to buy for him—both budgetwise and as far as what you’d like to give him. If the object feels energetically good to you to purchase for him AND he’d like it, go for it!
05 Sep 2014
by askdalimama
in Sex
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, casual sex, celibate, dali mama, sex, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am a single would but would like to have sex again. It’s been a long time and I’m thinking maybe I should just have casual sex rather than continuing being celibate while waiting for the right person. Your thoughts?
–Getting Nun (Canada)
DEAR GETTING NUN:
I suggest taking matters into your own hands. Ha ha. And maybe getting a vibrator.
With the different diseases floating around as well as general weirdness, you might want to be careful whom you let into your life, much less your body. Also, people (particularly women) tend to take on a whole lot of energy from their sexual partners, so it can be somewhat unhealthy energetically as well as physically.
Of course, you’ll have to decide what’s best for you, but those are factors I would consider as you’re deciding.
Also, when you’re sexually satisfied (including with yourself) and your sexual energy is running smoothly, you will tend to attract people into your life, some of whom may be a better match for you for something more than for simply sex.
04 Sep 2014
by askdalimama
in Money
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, buying a home, dali mama, financial stability, renting a home, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Is it better to buy a house or to rent? I think we should rent until we’re more financially stable but my wife would really like to a buy a place and this is causing some friction in our marriage.
–Reluctant (United States)
DEAR RELUCTANT:
Whether to buy or rent depends a lot on your particular situation and your long-term goals.
Some things to think about: Buying a place can tie you to a particular area and make it difficult to easily relocate if you have a job opportunity come up in a different state or country.
Waiting till you’re financially stable before buying a home makes good sense in any case. Perhaps you and your wife can sit down and make a budget and a plan if you decide to buy a home. If you both agree on what feels financially secure and comfortable, including price ranges of a place to purchase, monthly mortgage payments, savings needed before purchasing a place, that will help you both be invested in the process of purchasing a place and feel comfortable in the plan you have created together to make that happen.
03 Sep 2014
by askdalimama
in Sex
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, date, dating, double-date, eroci movies, erotic literature, flirting, hormone levels, libido, low libido, meetup.com, relationship, sexual energy, spiritual advice column, vibrator
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am a woman in her mid-40s and I feel my libido is low. It’s been that way for some time. What can cause this and how do I boost my libido?
–Low Libido (Canada)
DEAR LOW LIBIDO:
First, check with your doctor. He or she might want to do some tests, including a hormone test, which can affect your libido. If your low libido has medical causes, there are always allopathic or naturopathic treatments you can try.
Also, I recommend you do more activities to foster passion in your life. If time flies when you’re painting, take a painting class. If you get an adrenal rush performing, try doing music or comedy at open-mic night at your local café. Do something that feels a little scary but fun.
If you are single, go meet new people. You can meet nice folks in groups through places like Meetup.com. Meeting new and interesting people can reawaken your spark, even if it is simply making new platonic friends. It’s also important to rev up your sexual energy to get it flowing more. Perhaps you could find some tasteful erotic literature or movies to get the energy moving. You might want to also invest in a vibrator and use it every day, even if you’re not that into it at first. It’ll at least start to get the energy moving gradually in your sexual space. The more you feed your sexual energy and space, the stronger it’ll get.
If you are in a relationship, try spicing things up together. Go out like you’re on a first date and flirt madly with each other and make each other laugh, forbidding each other to talk about the groceries or the laundry or the kids or the car needing a tune-up. Tell each other what you find sexy about each other. Maybe even go on a double-date with some new friends and see things about your partner from fresh eyes and remember why you fell in love with your partner in the first place.
02 Sep 2014
by askdalimama
in Uncategorized
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, books, creativity, dali mama, finishing, how to finish projects, movies, painting, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I think I am a pretty creative person. I have a lot of great ideas for creative projects (books, movies, paintings, stuff around the house), but I never seem to get anywhere although I have a bunch of things I’ve started but not completed. How do I get to the next stage?
–Expert at Starting but not Finishing (United States)
DEAR EXPERT:
Well, the great thing is you have the most difficult piece covered—having a lot of creative ideas.
Maybe you could pick two small projects and finish them to give you a boost in confidence in your ability to complete them. Later, if you’re a person that fares better with multiple projects going on, you can have one small project and one longer-term project going on at the same time. And even with the larger project, you can break it into smaller, more manageable segments (like having a goal to finish three pages a day or a chapter a week).
Also, ground yourself (email holdinglightproductions@yahoo.com to request a free exercise on grounding) and ground your creative space as well (both the physical space you work in as well as the energetic space of each project).
Notice too any anxiety or fear that comes up as you imagine having all your projects complete and let all of those fears go.
30 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Love & Relationships
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, friend’s son in prison, prison, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
My friend’s son recently went to prison. I want to support her but I don’t know what to say. Your thoughts?
–Wanna be a good friend (United States)
DEAR WANNA BE A GOOD FRIEND:
Perhaps you could tell her you are thinking of her and that you love her. Maybe you could also take her to lunch and talk—talk about fun things if she wants to or just listen if she wants to talk about what she’s experiencing. Let her guide the conversation as far as what she needs and wants.
If you know her son well, perhaps you could send him a letter in prison, letting him know that you are thinking of him. If you care about them both, showing that you still care about him regardless of his situation might just be the best thing you can do for your friend.
29 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Children, Love & Relationships
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, BABY, bonding with a baby, dali mama, doctor, post-partum depression, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I have a very big problem. I have a baby and I don’t even like her. I feel so strange and I can’t even talk to anyone about this. What is wrong with me?
–Not a Natural Woman (United States)
DEAR N.A.N.W.:
Please speak to your doctor immediately and your partner or family if you have one. Many women experience post-partum depression, which affects their ability to bond with their baby. Sometimes certain operations can temporarily disrupt the bonding process with your baby as well.
If you feel at all like you want to hurt your baby, please let someone you trust know right away—your parents, your partner, your doctor, your clergy, etc., and find someone who can take care of the baby until you feel like you can handle this safely.
If, however, you and your doctor and partner feel you can safely take care of this baby, there are some things you can do to develop a bond with her.
Sometimes past-life dynamics can affect a relationship between a mother and a child. Practice gently holding your baby and just being love, letting love emanate from your center through your aura layers and out your arms and hands as you hold your daughter. Let the love flow through you to everything and everyone around you, including your baby.
Also practice holding your baby, looking upon her face and her eyes with love, and giving her lots of love with the intention of also giving yourself love as you express that love to her.
Kudos on taking steps to strengthen this important relationship in your life, which is the first step to being a great parent.
28 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Uncategorized
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, balancing the scales, dali mama, power, retribution, spiritual advice column, stealing, theft
DEAR DALI MAMA:
If someone steals something from you, is it bad karma to steal something of equal value from them?
–Wondering (Brazil)
DEAR WONDERING:
I would recommend you do not steal anything, even from a person who stole from you. By doing what they do, you are becoming like them by committing the same mistakes they did to you and it keeps you stuck even more in the energy of theft.
Perhaps one thing you could do is ask that person to either returning your belonging (if you’re sure they took it) or to give you a specific item of equal value as recompense. Ask from a space of your power. If they give it back to you, you’ll have kept your honor and integrity and found a more positive way of balancing the scales. If they don’t give you anything or return the item, you’ll still have your honor and integrity, which is worth way more than whatever they took from you.
27 Aug 2014
by askdalimama
in Love & Relationships
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, gossip, spiritual advice column, toxic behavior
DEAR DALI MAMA:
One of my friends I’ve known for years is always gossiping about other people to me, including our mutual friends. I can’t stand it. At this point, I don’t think I even want to continue being friends. Your advice?
–Fed up (United States)
DEAR FED UP:
Congratulations on not engaging in the gossip mill. It’s smart, too, as she probably would gossip about you if she gossips about others. The next time she tries to tell you gossip, simply tell her you don’t want to hear it. If she keeps going, say, “I have to go,” and either get off the phone or walk away. Then see what she does. It’ll make her think and hopefully she’ll think about her toxic behavior and will apologize and stop doing it. You might have to do this a few times as it’s probably become such an ingrained habit, she’ll fall into it sometimes. If she doesn’t stop, perhaps you can transition her from friend status to a friendly acuqintance, and make space in your life instead for someone who honors the true meaning of friendship.
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