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09 Mar 2014 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, cars, celestial seasonings, dali mama, dandelion, diamonds, everyday treasures, picnics, puppy tails, sand, spiritual advice column
Here’s a mini-essay I wrote for one of the Celestial Seasonings tea boxes:
Diamonds and fancy cars don’t make a life we remember. It’s the quiet picnics in the orchard, the sudden yellow of a dandelion bursting through a crack in the sidewalk, and warm sand between your toes at the beach. It’s a small child grabbing your hand, the ecstasy of puppy tails welcoming you home. These are our everyday treasures, what we take with us as we drift into slumber and what welcomes us back to each new day.
08 Mar 2014 Leave a comment
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Why do I always choose the wrong sort of women to date? I look back on my life and notice I always walked right past really nice and beautiful women but beelined towards the ones who would wreak havoc on my life. I am a decent looking guy with a good job and pretty smart except for when it comes to picking women. When I look back, I see that all the signs were there from the beginning but I was blind to them or something. What is wrong with me?
–Disgusted (Mexico)
DEAR DISGUSTED:
There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s called being human. Ha ha. The good thing, though, is, even as a human, you don’t have to keep repeating the same patterns of the past.
We’re often drawn to those with have karma with—perhaps one of the lessons you’re learning as a spirit is learning how to make choices in relationships that are healthier for you and to learn more deeply about what love is.
The key thing is to develop awareness, which you’re already doing a good job of since you’re asking this question instead of choosing to blindly keep following the same patterns.
The next step is sitting down and meditating on why you are drawn to women who have a chaotic effect on your life. Do you feel you’re not worthy of being with someone who is nice to you (and pretty too since you mention that) and is a positive influence on your life? If so, validate your worth and your right to be with someone who is a positive influence in your life. Do you feel like being with someone who is a disruptive influence is more exciting than being with someone you can count on? If so, maybe you need to find another source of excitement in your life. Like bungee jumping or crocodile wrestling. Ha ha. Do you choose people that are similar to a parent (or choose the opposite of a parent out of resistance to being with someone like one of your parents)? That’s fine if you want to do that but you can choose consciously. Or do you choose these women because you think you can help them or heal them in some way because you do not feel that just being and not working for love is enough in a relationship? If so, notice that instinct when you are getting to know someone and decide if that’s really what you want in a relationship.
Congratulations on opening up your awareness so you can make choices that support and honor you.
Wishing you much love.
07 Mar 2014 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, communication, communication through dreams, dali mama, expectations, free will, spirit guides, spiritual advice column
Why is it that some spirit guides are so unhelpful or not forthcoming with any information at all? As a clairvoyant, have you ever noticed this? And if so, why do some people have guides that are continually like this and others don’t?
–Befuddled (Canada)
DEAR BEFUDDLED:
Spirit guides, like people, each have their own unique way of communicating, which can vary according to the person they’re communicating with or with what’s called for in each situation. Also, they must communicate in a way that does not interfere with their person’s free will or highest good.
Sometimes they do not explicitly communicate about things because it might create expectations where their person blocks the upcoming miracle or situation if they are told about it in advance out of nervousness or fear or simply misinterpreting the communication because of their own mental or energetic filters.
All spirits guides do communicate in some way if you ask for communication. Often, they communicate to people through their dreams where the person’s conscious, analytical mind can’t get in the way quite as much. Also, spirit guides often communicate to people but their communications might get interpreted as “having a hunch” or “getting a good or bad feeling about something” or getting an inspiration or an idea about something. Thus the person is getting the communication even if they don’t consciously recognize that their spirit guide was helping them out.
Even when you do not realize it, you are getting communication from your spirit guides as well as the information they are conveying, even if it is not on a fully conscious level. Start by communicating more with your spirit guides and getting to know each better on a daily basis, and your friendship and working relationship and communication will develop even further.
06 Mar 2014 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, credit cards, dali mama, id theft, identity theft, passion, reclaiming identity, reclaiming your identity, security, security breach, spiritual advice column, validation
DEAR DALI MAMA:
We canceled and got three new credit cards over the last couple months, due to security breaches. Since then, and particularly over the last week, two of our newly issued cards were compromised. I can’t help but wonder if there is something funky going on energetically to make this happen, and so many times. It seems like too much too often to be simply coincidental. Is there anything we could do/not do to protect ourselves from financial and identity fraud? Thank you.
–Enough of This (United States)
DEAR ENOUGH:
Start by contacting your banks and your credit-card companies requesting more secure credit-card technology. Other countries already have more secure credit-card systems using chips, for example, so the technology does exist already–it just needs to be adopted in the States. The more consumers demand this technology, the quicker it’ll be adopted.
On an energetic level, two things are probably going on:
1) You might be getting a warning from the universe now to pay more attention to your money and security-related issues, and also to get a chance to look at what are really the most important things in your life so you don’t have to undergo anything more extreme.
2) Pay attention too to where you are losing your own identity—forgetting what is most important to you as an individual, not spending time on your own true passions, constantly sacrificing yourself and your own needs for family or friends or work. Own and reclaim your true identity for yourself so no one else can take it. And as you’re owning and rediscovering yourself, also validate and have your worth just for you!
Enjoy the process!
05 Mar 2014 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, mirror, soul agreement, soulmates, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Do you believe in soulmates?
–Wondering if They Really Exist (United States)
DEAR WONDERING:
Yes, soulmates do exist and are not some mythical idea. However, many people ask to meet their soulmate but do not understand what a soulmate is and may not even recognize them when they show up in their life. Also, a person does not have just one soulmate but a number of them.
Often people have a misconception that meeting their soulmate means happily ever after, no more work involved in relationships or love. Often, however, we have a soul agreement with our soulmate to hold mirrors up for each other, reflecting to each other the energies that no longer serve us (including those energies we’ve been running away from all our lives and are terrified of looking at)—the energies that we must release to become more of our true authentic selves. Some soulmates stay together and have very deep and profound love for each other but it takes commitment, constant growth, honesty, and a lot of hard work. Some don’t stay together, but simply catalyze a huge energetic shift then leave because it is very intense to constantly be doing this kind of deep work long term and examining of all the stuff we need to change, as you can imagine.
02 Mar 2014 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, earth's shadow, Flannery O'Connor, Flannery O'Connor's prayer, journal, moon, prayer, self shadow, spiritual advice column, The New Yorker
Here is an excerpt from a young Flannery O’Connor’s journal quoted from The New Yorker (http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2013/09/16/130916fa_fact_oconnor):
Dear God, I cannot love Thee the way I want to. You are the slim crescent of a moon that I see and my self is the earth’s shadow that keeps me from seeing all the moon. The crescent is very beautiful and perhaps that is all one like I am should or could see; but what I am afraid of, dear God, is that my self shadow will grow so large that it blocks the whole moon, and that I will judge myself by the shadow that is nothing. . . .
01 Mar 2014 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: advice column, aloe, ask dali mama, big penis, communication, dali mama, lubricant, painful sex, sexual positions, spiritual advice column, Sylk, woman on top
DEAR DALI MAMA:
My boyfriend is really huge, if you know what I mean. It feels really painful when we have sex. What do you recommend?
–C.D. (United States)
DEAR C.D.:
I’m going to answer this from the perspective of you being a female and if that’s not the case, let me know the specifics and I’ll answer it from a different perspective.
First of all, be sure to communicate what is going on so he can be more aware of what’s going on with you so he can go more slowly and gently, and so he can know the exact point that it becomes uncomfortable. Maybe you could start for a month or so with you being on top so you can have more control over how far he goes in and at what pace. Use tons of lubricant too. Try Sylk or you can even make your own with aloe if you have any aloe plants. Over time, your vaginal canal will start to stretch more to accommodate him (both girthwise and lengthwise) but never push yourself beyond what is comfortable for you, or your body will start to resist and you could also damage something.
Play with this gradually and see how it goes. At the very least, you both should be able to find a happy medium over time.
Note: Readers, I invite you to send in your own questions. You may email them to askdalimama@gmail.com or write them in the comments section.
28 Feb 2014 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, breastfeeding, breastfeeding consultant, control energy, dali mama, doula, love, OB/GYN, releasing control energy, spiritual advice column, visualization
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am having trouble breastfeeding. Do you have any tips for that?
–Having Difficulty (United States)
DEAR HAVING DIFFICULTY:
I suggest asking your OB/GYN or your doula, or ask them if they have a breastfeeding consultant who can watch you with your baby and demonstrate some tips.
Energetically, it can help if you intend to release any control energy you no longer need and just allow yourself to be and visualize and set the intention of the milk flowing freely from your breast into the baby’s mouth.
If you want to, you can also imagine your whole body and surrounding aura layers as well as the milk inside of you overflowing with love and you can let the baby feed on the love in the milk as it is flowing from you.
Enjoy this beautiful time together with your baby.
27 Feb 2014 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, boundary roses, dali mama, energetic roses, protecting energy, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Sometimes when I get together with people (even people that I like), I tend to take on their energy and feel drained or heavy. How do I handle my energy so I don’t take on other people’s stuff?
–S.L. (United States)
DEAR S.L.:
That’s very common, especially for people sensitive to energy, to take on other people’s energies inadvertently. One great way you can protect your energy is to imagine putting energetic boundary roses on each side of you (and above and below you). Each morning, put a fresh set of energetic roses around you and let any energy from other people be absorbed into the roses so that the roses absorb the energy, not you. When the roses get full of energy, you can imagine exploding them and creating a brand-new set of roses. You can even do that when you’re on the phone by putting a rose between you and the phone, or between you and the computer when you’re working on the computer.
Play with that and see how you feel. Have fun!
26 Feb 2014 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, competition, dali mama, holding your space, mirror of self, relationships, resistance, spiritual advice column, validation, wholeness
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I have a friend who till relatively recently meant the world to me but I have hugely grown and grown up as a person and I see her more for who she really is now.
I know now that I am easily her equal and no longer need a teacher/counselor (though she’d like to keep me in this position). Then when I look at her side of the friendship it’s based on her trying constantly to get me to use my spiritual gifts for her gratification (though she disguises it as a big need); or dumping her emotional stuff on me and generally trying to get me to her level of being–sad, frustrated, angry, lonely, etc.
On my side of the friendship, I used to get in touch with her when I felt I couldn’t cope with life as my mother never listened so I’ve always turned to other strong women. I need also to change this. How do I feel like I’m enough for myself to be able to cope with the emotional reactions I have without reaching out to others?
I fear her reaction as my mother shows rage and subsequent withholding of love I have been petrified of when I stand up to her. So my friend is a mirror. I want to find the courage not only to speak my truth but to also stand my ground and not shake inside or feel bad. I want to break this lifelong behavior pattern.
Also how do I discover what remains of our friendship when I make changes based on the above?
–M.L. (Switzerland)
DEAR M.L.:
It’s great you’re looking at both sides of the relationship as well as what you have to learn from this relationship. That’s an essential skill for any solid relationship.
The most important thing is for you to hold your space and be who you are—a strong woman in your power. Do this and your friend will either rise up to meet you at this new vibration or fall away. Sometimes, too, people have to withdraw for a little while first before they can meet up with you later at your true vibration.
Also, don’t resist any energies as far as her dumping energies on you. She can do that all she wants but it will only stick if you allow it to or if you resist those energies. Just validate your wholeness and love and power and see her as a whole and divine being as well and you can best enjoy her company (or not) while understanding both of you are divine beings in bodies and that you both are teachers in some areas and students in some, as we all are. In spirit there is no competition—no better than or less than, only wholeness and divinity. Keep validating that wholeness in yourself and in her and she can choose to match that more easily in her expression of her spririt in the physical plane.
Note: Readers, I invite you to send in your own questions. You may email them to askdalimama@gmail.com or write them in the comments section.
25 Feb 2014 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: advice column, aligning with authentic selves, ask dali mama, coping with emotions, counselor, dali mama, deep emotions, distractions, drink, drugs, energy, grand cross, mindless entertainment, rage, sadness, spiritual advice column, strong emotions
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I have such deep emotions, and I don’t know what to do with them. Most of my daily existence is tinged with an undercurrent of sadness, and then sometimes I do things out of rage that I later regret deeply. How can I deal with these strong emotions?
–S.R. (United States)
DEAR S.R.:
It’s great you’re allowing yourself to feel these intense emotions. During the current intense energies, many are turning to drink, drugs, constant mindless entertainment, and other distractions to try to escape from these intense energies, but that doesn’t ultimately help us make productive changes for the long run.
First of all, know that you are not alone. So many people on the planet have been feeling these huge energy shifts, one after another. Sometimes we can feel like we’re drowning in a tsunami and feeling like we’re finally coming up for air when we get hit with another big wave. Astrologically, we’re working up to a Grand Cross, and things will continue to get more intense, particularly over the next couple months. What’s happening on an energetic level is we’re being pushed to align our lives with our authentic selves, and something’s got to give. We’re also in the process of releasing a lot of old energies that no longer serve us, from this life and from way before this lifetime even.
Second, when you allow yourself to feel the grief and release it, you might notice that, as you release each layer of grief, you may find layers of anger underneath. Also notice how you can change your life little by little to create more peace, more joy, and more fulfillment.
Sometimes we settle into a way of living that doesn’t really fit who we are as spirit, with pressures from others as well as pressures that we put on ourselves because we think that’s how we’re supposed to live. I’m sensing this is an opportunity for you to take stock of how you’re living, really examine what parts work and don’t work, and start to make gradual changes to build a life that really fits you, with the help of counselling.
Another thing you might want to do is to channel these intense feelings you’re experiencing into some sort of creative expression—painting, sculpture, dance, or music. Really allow yourself to feel and experience these emotions and transmute them through a medium that resonates for you.
24 Feb 2014 Leave a comment
DEAR DALI MAMA:
My psychic gifts are quite developed and I find I can know a lot about a situation or a person through using them. I can ask particular questions and then see psychic pictures about people that tell me what’s going on or I see and feel an energy I read that gives me the same result. I also can contact the spirit of people and ask them questions. Sometimes someone’s talking about their friend for example and I get images of what that friend feels or thinks. Do I pass that on?
But I am equally very aware that you can accumulate bad karma by misusing your psychic abilities. And as that’s not working for the light obviously it is not somewhere I want to go….When would it be considered as misuse by the Universe/God to use your gifts? Where do you draw the line?
Also how do you shut down your gifts when you want time out?
–J.P. (New Zealand)
DEAR J.P.:
That is wonderful you are developing your gifts as well as contemplating how to use them in a positive way.
As far as getting psychic hits when someone’s talking about their friends, it’s not always helpful to pass them on. Look at the energy case by case of whether or not it is appropriate, helpful, or even wanted in each situation. Even when you’re accurate, some people do not want to know. Especially when you are accurate! Ha ha.
And that is an important question about what it means to use your gifts for good. Generally, I would say never use your psychic abilities to manipulate or control others. Also, never spy on anyone psychically. Those are the kinds of things that generally create the kind of karma you don’t want.
The intention is the most important. If someone is missing and thought to be in danger and you’re trying to help them, it’s okay to check in psychically if you have permission on a spirit level from them and maybe their family has asked you to help find them. If, however, you’re simply curious about what someone you like (or don’t like) is doing, doing remote viewing or psychic surveillance on them is not good psychic etiquette. If you have any doubts that anything you’re thinking of doing is okay, don’t do it.
As someone that works as an intuitive and healer, I always turn down my psychic space, including turning down my sixth chakra, when I am not in session by consciously setting that intention when I am done with each session. I find that I have more than enough to look at in myself rather than paying attention to all the energies around me when I am not in session.
Don’t worry that you will miss any hits you need necessary for your survival—if you stay grounded in yourself, you will know anything you need to know, like maybe you forgot to turn off the stove or you need to call your mom.
Have fun with this! Congratulations on really delving into how to best use your gifts for the light.
Note: Readers, I invite you to send in your own questions. You may email them to askdalimama@gmail.com or write them in the comments section.
23 Feb 2014 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, john saxon, music, piano reader, saxon, spirit rendition through music, spiritual advice column, sunday share
Today we have a very special gift. I asked healer and award-winning musician John Saxon to do a group piano reading specifically for us. A piano reading is like a psychic reading, but rather than receiving images to describe, John receives music that he then plays on the piano. It faithfully renders your deepest, truest self in piano music form, bringing your hidden gold to consciousness. Read more about his work at Http://www.pianoreadings.com. You can also email him at John.saxon@pianoreadings.com to find out more about his work or to commission a piano reading for you as an individual or for someone special.
22 Feb 2014 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, divine right, free will, karma, love, love spells, relationships, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
What do you think about love spells and do they work?
–Wanting Love (Brazil)
DEAR WANTING LOVE:
Although love spells do work sometimes, I do not recommend them nor do I perform them for clients that come for energy work. Doing love spells can interfere with a person’s free will, pulling a person’s energy or influencing it in a way that I don’t believe is ethical. Also, doing a love spell on someone is, I believe, creating unwanted karma for yourself.
Instead of doing a love spell, perhaps you might want to ask the Universe to bring into your life the person who is of your divine right. Also, create the energy first for yourself of love and a loving relationship with yourself in order to create the optimal energy for a relationship that matches this love vibration to come into your life. And, of course, do the practical basics such as getting out into the world (even through the Internet on an online dating site if that feels right to you) where people can meet you and have the opportunity to fall in love with you.
Validate the love you have, including for yourself, and even more love will find you in divine time.
21 Feb 2014 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, energy body, qi gong, spiritual advice column, strengthening the energy body, tai chi, yoga
DEAR DALI MAMA:
What are some really good ways to strengthen our energy bodies?
–T.A. (England)
Dear T.A.:
Strengthening your energy body is just as important as maintaining your physical body. There are many components of the energy body and many ways, but some basics for starters include grounding, running your energy, and doing things that help strengthen and integrate your physical and energy bodies (yoga, tai chi and qi gong, acupuncture, as just a few examples). (If you want some free meditations on how to ground and run your energy, please email holdinglightproductions@yahoo.com to request the free recordings and I will send them to you.)
Also, it’s very important to exercise your physical body as well. Some people that are interested in energy can sometimes focus all of their attention on their spirit or their energy bodies without providing proper exercise and movement for their physical bodies, but physical movement and care of the physical body (healthy nutrients and foods) are very important to the energy body as well.
Likewise, training your energy body can help with physical health and performance. That’s why it helps for athletes to imagine their energetic kinesthetic bodies training or going through a dance routine, or why it helps musicians if they practice on an “air piano” even when they’re not on a real piano, or why it helps someone who has been in an accident if they can imagine their bodies moving, practicing moving their energy bodies even when they cannot yet move their physical bodies. We are, after all, spirits in a physical plane.
Thanks for asking this important question.
Note: Readers, I invite you to send in your own questions. You may email them to askdalimama@gmail.com or write them in the comments section.
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