18 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, condo association, dali mama, eyesore, havingness, health hazards, homeowners association, living environment, neighbor who doesn't care for their home, physical support system, raising the vibration, spiritual advice column, validation
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I live in a building that has six condominiums and have been here for twelve years. I am fortunate to have a good relationship with our neighbors in each unit.
Here is the situation: The condo directly above my home is a rental unit. The landlord (who has owned this unit for about 35 years) refuses to invest any money into the upkeep of this unit. The windows are broken and held together with tape. All of the appliances are very old models while the dishwasher and the clothes washer are not usable. The furnace, hot-water heater, and the bathroom plumbing are all in very bad shape. The tenant has lived without hot water or a properly functioning toilet for extended periods of time. The wall-to-wall carpeting is smelly, greasy, and stained. In short, the whole apartment is a total eyesore.
The tenant of this unit is indifferent to the condo’s condition. He is content with his living situation because the monthly rent is cheap–a bargain in this high-rent town.
I have two questions: 1) Will this condo ever be sold to a new owner who will care for the property? If so, how soon? 2) Will the current tenant (a chain smoker who has lived there for about 11 years) ever move out? If so, how soon?
Living here has been a practice of tolerance and patience, and for that I am grateful. It would be wonderful to have a neighbor who cherished living in a beautiful home. Thank you for your insight!
–Leena in Paradise, USA
DEAR LEENA:
First of all, congratulations for recognizing the teachings of your situation.
As an intuitive who believes in the power of every individual to shift the energy of a situation, I never “predict” a particular outcome or timeline because every choice we make changes the future. Likewise, every time we shift the energy in ourselves and in each situation, we are shaping the future as well.
With this in mind, there are a few practical and energetic things you can do. You might want to start by contacting the Homeowners Association or Condo Association if there is one for your condominium. If they cannot assist you, you might want to contact the city and see what they can do. Some of the conditions of the unit above that you describe may not adhere to minimum-standard health codes.
As far as what you can do to energetically shift the situation, start by releasing any resistance to the current state of the unit above and to the tenant in it, and shift the energy to neutrality and, if you can, amusement.
Next, release any energetic matches you have to the property and to the current tenant and the tenant’s landlord. For example, one energetic match could be any resistance you have towards spending money on creating a living environment that is beautiful and supportive of you. Another energetic match could be resistance to the necessity of spending money to maintain anything on the physical plane (perhaps your own resistance to beautifying your place or spending money on making repairs to your place or even resistance to the landlord’s resistance to spending money on the adjoining unit, or also things like resistance to spending money on maintaining your body’s physical health such as not wanting to pay to see a dentist or to get your hair cut or to get new glasses). Just intend to release any matches and notice what energies come up for you.
Once you’ve released your energetic matches to the property upstairs and to its tenant and landlord, fill yourself up with havingness of beauty and a physical support system for your body, your home, and for your life. Validate the beauty of your own living space and start delighting and rejoicing in your living environment and even, as you pay bills to live in and maintain or improve your living space, pay them with joy and appreciation, validating the worth of the space you live in and validating your ability to pay for a beautiful space with a heart full of joy.
Finally, keep raising the vibration of your home and the space above it by validating your home and the unit above you. Shifting the vibration of your space and the space above you will shift the energy so that both the landlord and the tenant may either match that raised vibration or may want to make them leave that vibration, making space for a new landlord and tenant that can match that high vibration. A simple example of this is when one person paints their house or plants a nice flower garden, it inspires the other neighbors to do the same thing because it looks so beautiful.
Enjoy the journey and living in paradise!
17 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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DEAR DALI MAMA:
My fiancée and I recently got engaged. Our wedding is planned for next Spring. Ever since I proposed, she’s gone a little crazy with the wedding plans. The cost is spiraling out of control and so many people are on the invite list and I feel like when I give feedback about a few things I want for the wedding, the plans are railroaded by her and her posse and I’m feeling scared this is a glimpse of what is to come in my future. Please advise.
–Nervous Groom-to-Be (United States)
DEAR NERVOUS:
It’s completely natural to be nervous when you are making a lifelong commitment. Start by communicating with your fiancée about your reservations and how you feel like the wedding plans are getting out of control and that your wishes aren’t really being respected as far as what you’d like for the wedding. Understand that she might just be so excited, she’s not thinking straight.
Once you’ve had these conversations, including possibly, about how you’d rather invest in your life together than have an enormous wedding (maybe have money towards a down payment for a house rather than put out so much for a one-day ceremony), notice how she reacts. You might also want to see a relationship counselor together before or during these discussions to ensure you both can learn how to communicate clearly and grow as a couple.
If you still feel you’re not being heard and your wishes aren’t taken into account at all, then spend time meditating on your relationship and on whether you want to move forward with the wedding. You might even want to postpone the wedding so you both have a chance to work more on building an unbreakable foundation for your life together before you enter into this lifelong commitment together. This is a chance for you to still back out before you pledge your lives to each other. Keep in mind, also, that many catering companies and hosting facilities will not return any of your deposit, so you might want to wait until you are sure you will move forward before putting down a deposit for any of the wedding costs.
Give it your best but also recognize that she must be willing to give it her best as well for you to grow together in a relationship that will last a lifetime. Keep in mind, too, that every relationship takes work, no matter how well suited a couple is. EVERY relationship.
It is good you have a year before the wedding is planned so you have time to work on your relationship together and really make sure this is what you both want. You might feel guilty breaking the engagement but guilt is not a good reason to move forward if it comes to the point that you know this is not the right situation for you. Also, it is kinder to break things off earlier if you know it is not the right match for you rather than later down the road when you have kids or are even more enmeshed.
Your courage to look at this is wonderful. Use that courage to see if you and your fiancée can get really honest with each other and put your relationship on a solid, forever-lasting track. If it can’t, use that courage to let both she and you free to find someone whose values and needs aligns with each other more.
16 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, bicycling, camping, cooking classes, dali mama, enjoying active social activities, extra weight, focus on the positive, hiking, picked on, recipes, softball, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am a guy who is maybe 20 pounds overweight. My wife is always on me about losing weight although technically she’s maybe 20 pounds overweight as well. What’s the deal? I think she’s hot at any weight but I feel like she’s always picking on me, especially as she’s not a stick either. And I wonder if she thinks I don’t look hot like this and if that’s why she keeps nagging me about my weight.
–Feeling Picked on (United States)
DEAR PICKED:
A couple things could be happening. She could be concerned about your health and, in an effort to push you towards your optimal health, is pursuing this goal in a way that feels very invalidating to you.
Another possibility is that maybe she wishes she was closer to her own healthy weight and is in resistance to her own extra weight that she carries. Instead of dealing with her own desire to be thinner or healthier, maybe she is directing her resistance to extra weight in your direction, which is no doubt not terribly fun.
Why don’t you reset the tone of this conversation? Like suggesting to her instead of her pointing out your extra weight, it would behoove you both to focus more on the positive and create a plan for the end goal. For example, maybe you could enjoy more fun social activities together like hiking, camping, dancing, bicycling, or joining a community softball group or something. Also you could check out some cooking classes or recipes that focus on healthy eating and make delicious concoctions together that will offer you healthy fats while helping you drop unhealthy fats and cholesterol, etc. Then you can both have fun living a healthy lifestyle together while simply enjoying yourselves.
15 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: ask dali mama, blue collar, dali mama, finances, marriage ceremonies, naomi horii, one partner makes more than the other, parents don't like boyfriend, parents' blessing, picture, white collar
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I’ve been dating this fellow for a few years but my parents don’t like him at all. They say he’s just not right for me but I think it’s because he’s blue collar and I am a white-collar professional woman who does pretty well financially and because he doesn’t have a lot of money. Do you think it’s important to have your parents’ blessing before marrying?
–Uncertain (United States)
DEAR UNCERTAIN:
Well, it’s always a gift to have your parents’ blessing for your marriage. Some marriage ceremonies even ask the family and friends to pledge their support of the couple. It’s not essential, however.
Have you asked your parents why they don’t like him? Is it because he simply doesn’t fit the picture of whom they think you should be with? Or is there another reason? Ask them, hear what they have to say, and consider it with an open mind but let your inner knowingness make the final decision.
More important than your parents’ blessing is your own happiness. Since you’ve been with this man for a while, I’m guessing his “collar” status or income isn’t that important to you, especially since you’re bringing in enough money. So as long as he makes an effort to contribute and is not frivolous with the finances or is not energetically mooching off of you, it’s probably not an important factor as long as it doesn’t matter to you.
At the end of the day, when you are both at home alone in those quiet moments on the couch or at the dinner table or in the garden or in bed, are YOU happy? If you are, that’s what matters the most. Even if someone had a platinum collar, it still couldn’t buy your happiness if he is just not the right match for you.
14 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, growth, karma, lessons, losing friends, naomi horii, new perspective, shifting relationships, societal structures and templates, spiritual advice column, staying on your path, time and space away from loved ones, time and space on your own, validate relationships, vibrations
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Over the last few years, somehow I’ve lost a lot of friends I’ve had for decades. They haven’t died or anything. They’ve just disappeared from my life, even the ones that said we’d be friends forever. Some of them have disappeared without a word or explanation. What is going on?
–Confused (Brazil)
DEAR CONFUSED:
This has been an intense time on the planet, with the vibrations of the planet and of everyone on the planet shifting immensely, causing instability in societal templates and structures such as in our economic system, government, religious institutions, and elsewhere. Accordingly, we’re feeling those shifts in our relationships as well.
If you’ve asked them if anything’s wrong and they refuse to communicate, the best thing you can do might be just to let them be wherever they’re at. Keep on your path and do what you need to do in your divine vibration.
Some people you think you have lost might catch up with you later down the road. Some people maybe just had to go their own way as you go yours in order for everyone to experience the growth and lessons they came to learn in this lifetime. Sometimes we need some space and time away from our familiar loved ones in order for us to gain a new perspective and growth in a different direction before we come back together again. Sometimes, too, maybe you have finished up your karma with someone and it’s time to move on.
In every case, just validate and appreciate the time you had together and create space for each of you to be on your true paths, wherever that might lead. Create space too for you to reconnect with the ones you’re meant to reconnect with and to let go of the ones with whom you’ve completed your time together, creating space for new people you are meant to connect with to come into your lives in divine timing.
13 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: James Radcliffe
Today I’d like to feature musician James Radcliffe.
His music and lyrics are powerful and haunting, singing to a part of yourself you might have forgotten or left somewhere along the way. His songs resonate for me long after the last note. I hope you love his work as much I do.
To hear his work, click: http://jamesradcliffemusic.com/track/album-trailer.
About James Radcliffe: Radcliffe is a 100% listener-supported independent musician, based in Edinburgh, Scotland. He has been performing music live since the tender age of 8. He plays live and makes records in his home studio, which he then distributes thru his website: http://jamesradcliffe.com/. His music is aimed at taking the listener out of time. To that space where everything falls away, leaving only the joy of the present moment. James believes any business should have an ethical component so, 10% of all his profits go straight to a charity called VSN which houses, feeds, and educates orphaned children in Nepal.
To contact Radliffe, visit http://jamesradcliffe.com/ or email jrad47@gmail.com.
Here is a link to buy his album: http://jamesradcliffemusic.com/album/i.
James Radcliffe, Musician
12 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
in Uncategorized
Tags: apathy, ask dali mama, dali mama, employment, job search, keeping in touch, networking, passion, resetting energy, resistance, resumes, spiritual advice column, unemployed, volunteering
DEAR DALI MAMA:
At this point in life I have a weak resume, no real connections and all I’ve done for the past eight years is send out resumes to nonprofits, which I’d eventually like to work in, to no avail. My plan B has always been to just work for a college but it ALL seems so ho-hum. Do you have any suggestions as far as bringing something about easily–I’m pretty tired of trying to figure it out and going that route just makes everything seem hard and a little pointless. Am I apathetic or what?
–Ann (United States)
DEAR ANN:
I understand the challenges of seeking work during this time in the United States. Don’t just send out resumes as many jobs are not actually filled solely through the standard resume route. Only target places you really want to work for. Find a place that does work you’re passionate about and, if you can, volunteer a couple hours a week so they can get to know you.
Another target maybe five top places with causes that you want to champion and call the person who is in charge of the area you are most interested in and talk to them. Tell them your skills, your experience, ask how you can help, and ask if they can meet with you or at least have a chat about how you can get in at their organization. It doesn’t hurt to ask.
Once they know you and what you’re capable of, they’d be smart to hire you. Even if nothing is available at the time, leave your contact info and keep in touch periodically (maybe a postcard every month or something) and keep yourself in the forefront of their minds so hopefully they’ll contact you when an opening does come up.
Finally, reset the energy of your job search. Go in and HAVE the job you want in the powerful energy that is divinely yours. Don’t go in with the energy of needing a job, like they’d be doing you a favor to hire you, or like a beggar asking for a handout. HAVE the energy of your dream job first, then go in, offering and allowing them the honor and gift of you working for their organization. Once you do this, the energy will start to build.
As far as apathy, apathy is a form of resistance, and resistance can create walls between you and what you’re trying to create. So have enthusiasm and fun in your job search. The human resource people will sense that, even when they’re just looking at your resume.
11 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, baby's spirit, birth, birth process, dali mama, full-term pregnancy, miscarriages, releasing grief, spiritual advice column, spiritual meaning of miscarriages, validation, vibration
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I’ve had two miscarriages and am heartbroken. What is happening spiritually?
–Wanting so Badly to Be a Mother (New Zealand)
DEAR WANTING:
I feel for you, love. Sometimes a baby’s spirit has to come into the physical once or more for a pregnancy or two before being able to make it through the whole birth process. Sometimes this is to help the mother release any grief or other energies she needs to let go of so she can carry the baby in a higher vibration during the pregnancy. So be heartbroken for as long as you want and just keep releasing any grief and other old energies that need to go to make room for a new vibration.
Often, but not always, it is the same baby spirit coming in that was miscarried that comes back again and goes through the full-term pregnancy and birth with you later on.
Sometimes, too, a baby’s spirit just wants to be with you in the physical even for that short blessed time together.
In either case, validate that time you had together even if it wasn’t for as long as you had hoped.
Praying for love and peace and for whatever your spirit wishes.
10 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: ask dali mama, dali mama, donating old clothes, elements of style, fear, frumpy, getting help from a friend, photos from magazines, shopping in your closet, spiritual advice column, wanting to create a new style, wardrobe staples, women whose style you admire
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am in the process of changing my life. I have been divorced for 12 years and I think I am finally ready to start dating again. I know I’ve let myself dress frumpy all these years since my husband left and I want to create a whole new style but I feel scared. I don’t know why. Any suggestions on how to create a new style?
–Almost Stylin’ (United States)
DEAR STYLIN’:
Congratulations on changing your life. You might feel scared because, by letting go of your old frumpy style, you’re stepping out into the world and allowing yourself to connect with people as a woman who is willing to be seen (and even admired).
Cut out photos from magazines of women whose style you admire. Think about what elements of the styles you like and how you can start to incorporate those elements into your own style.
Next, take the photos of outfits of women who have a similar body type to you and notice what makes those outfits work.
Then, I suggest inviting one of your stylish friends to lunch and asking them if they’d help you pick out some simple wardrobe staples that flatter you. It always helps to have a neutral eye and someone who can guide you to things you might not think of trying on. You might even start by shopping in your closet to see what you have that would work for you. And donate whatever doesn’t. Once you have the basic pieces you need, you can add color and other elements, perhaps even with accessories you already have.
Pick things you feel comfortable in but also allow yourself to go outside of your comfort zone now and then while you’re exploring what your unique style is that both flatters and uplifts you and allows the true you to shine.
Most importantly, let yourself play and have fun expressing your true self through your new style.
Have fun and let yourself shine!
09 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, emotional man, emotions, female energies, male and female energies, male energies, sensitive man, social programming, spiritual advice column, stereotypes
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I’m a poet and am a very sensitive male. My female friends, and even past girlfriends when they first met me, complain that there aren’t many sensitive men and yet, I feel like they (or at least my exes) don’t actually like being with a sensitive man. Namely me when I’m feeling “sensitive” or emotional. What is going on here?
–Wondering What It Means, Really, to be a Man (United States)
DEAR WONDERING:
This is an interesting question. You are witnessing the disparity between what people say they want (or think they want) versus what they actually want. This discrepancy lies in the stereotypical pictures of what a man should be. Sometimes people say they are looking for a sensitive man who feels and expresses emotions, but they can’t handle the reality of that, which truly does men (and women) a disservice. As a culture, our society tends to punish boys and men for crying or being too emotional, and then when some males accordingly shut down their emotions and expression of these emotions in response, how can they be expected to easily break through a lifetime of rigid and unrealistic social programming?
The reality is that all of us—men and women—run both male and female energies. Each individual may run different proportions of the male and female energies, which can fluctuate in each moment as well. To try to categorize any person and make them fit strictly into rigid gender roles is both ridiculous and impossible.
Just keep being the sensitive and emotional man that you are. And when women who say they want a sensitive man complain when you’re sensitive, just laugh and ask them, “Isn’t that what you said you’re looking for?” That will help them confront their own issues or pictures around what a man should be like and help them see the discrepancies between what they say they want and their responses to what they said they want in a light-hearted but very clear way.
08 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, artists, ask dali mama, athletes, chefs, communication, conversation, creative types, dali mama, eating style, healthy lifestyle, musicians, people who do what they love, priorities about sex, relationship chemistry, sex drive, sexual compatibility, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I spent many years in a sexless marriage and am newly divorced. Could you tell me, is there a profession or professions that typically have men with more of a sex drive and/or that are good in bed? Because if there is, I want to date someone in that profession.
–SINGLE WOMAN IN HER 30’S
DEAR SINGLE:
Sexuality is a complex aspect of self so there are no hard (ha ha, yes, pun intended) rules as far as men in a certain profession. There are very sensual engineers and ardent accountants, so prevailing stereotypes are false (as are all stereotypes inherently).
I suggest having a conversation early on (before you sleep with someone but definitely way before you’re either getting undressed or are already naked!) about your individual priorities regarding sex. If you’re getting along well with someone and it’s a huge priority for you but not at all a priority for them (like maybe they’re happy having sex once a month or not at all), you both know right away that is an issue and you both have a chance to evaluate whether the compatible areas outweigh the differences in opinions about sex—frequency, quality, styles, etc.
Another option is getting a reading to determine your sexual and other compatibilities before the relationship progresses too far. But a general conversation on the topic is still important. And of course, certain factors may affect someone’s sex drive temporarily—stress, medications, illness, energy levels, etc.
When you’re on a first date, notice too how he eats. Does he savor each bite or does he wolf things down with one eye on the sports channel and the other on his smartphone?
Also, is he in a job where he can move a lot or is he in a desk job but goes for walks or goes to the gym? Men who exercise may tend to be healthier, which can sometimes translate into a healthy sex drive. Also, men who drink too much or do drugs may sometimes have impaired sexual function.
Personally, I have noticed that people who are doing in life what they love seem to generally have strong sex drives. This is true but not limited to many creative types. Some artists and musicians and chefs (yes, chefs) are quite delightful in bed. But then again, chefs or musicians or artists who are very in their heads (but the upper heads and not the lower heads—oh I am on a roll today, just cracking myself up) and more oriented to technical details without the energy or heart of the music or art or food, may sometimes reflect similar propensities in their lovemaking as well. Athletes can sometimes be a lot of fun, too, and tend to have lots of stamina.
In any case, for every person out there, there are a number of great matches for them, and of course certain partners may bring out certain aspects of their sexuality more than others simply because of the chemistry of that particular relationship combination.
For every person who finds it ideal to have sex once a month, there are a number of people who would be equally happy with this arrangement. It’s just a matter of finding someone with compatible needs.
NOTE: I invite you to write in with your own question, either in the Comments section or by emailing askdalimama@gmail.com. THanks for joining us today and every day, readers!
07 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
in Uncategorized
Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, astral travel, camping, dali mama, inexpensive travel, low funds, Netflix, saving, spiritual advice column, trading places, travel, travel fund, www.couchsurfing.org, youth hostels
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am longing to travel the world but have no money, even really to go anywhere nearby. Do you have any suggestions for how to make this happen?
–Gypsy at Heart (Canada)
DEAR GYPSY:
Even if you don’t have funds, start saving 10% of any money that comes in and start putting together a travel fund. Don’t touch it until you have enough to take a trip. You’ll be surprised how it adds up over time.
There are ways you can do it cheaply—hostels, camping, trading places with friends in other locations, or www.couchsurfing.org.
In the meantime, go to your local library and read books about other cultures and regions and time periods and countries. You can also do the same with Netflix or some other movie subscription, allowing yourself to visit other places through film and literature and art.
A third thing you can do is to set your space before you go to sleep, intending to visit other places with your astral body. Doing it this way, you can even travel beyond this galaxy or dimension! When you wake up, write down anything you remember. Over time, you’ll probably remember more and more from your astral visits.
Happy travels!
06 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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If you bring forth that which is within you,
then that which is within you
will be your salvation.
If you do not bring forth that
which is within you,
then that which is within you
will destroy you.
—The Gnostic Gospels
NOTE: BECAUSE I HAVING TECHNOLOGICAL PROBLEMS WHILE ON THE ROAD, MY PAGE WITH LAST SUNDAY’S SUNDAY SHARE FEATURING DIVA JONES DIDN’T APPEAR PROPERLY ON THE MAIN HOME PAGE SO I AM ADDING IT HERE BELOW IN CASE YOU MISSED IT. CHECK HER OUT IF YOU DID. HER VOICE IS AMAZING!
For today’s Sunday Share, I am honored to feature Diva Jones, a powerhouse voice and spirit. The London Times calls Diva Jones “a mezzo with the stature of (opera legend) Shirley Verrett, plus the flash of Dorothy Dandridge.” Make sure you’re sitting down before you listen to the recording of her singing! Click on http://www.msdivajones.com/ABOUT.html and http://www.msdivajones.com/LISTEN.html to listen. You may find out more about her at www.msdivajones.com, and you can also find out about her wellness work at http://thewellthydiva.com as well as hearing her sing a blessing song written by composer Ricky Beckwith.
Diva Jones is truly a star as well as an exceptional teacher of intuitive voice lessons, which she gives in person and on Skype. Each lesson she gives is tailored for each student, with her guides helping shape each lesson. She helps each student own their voice as the original expression. “I believe we all can sing and need that expression,” says Ms. Jones.
04 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, Better Than Bouillon, cooking, dali mama, gelato, how to cook, ice cream, love, salad, spiritual advice column, tortellini, what to make for a date
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I don’t know how to cook but a potential boyfriend is coming over and I’d really like to make something special for him.
–Newbie (United States)
DEAR NEWBIE:
Since you’re just learning, start with something simple and delicious. Maybe a nice hearty soup. You can do vegetable or chicken broth (I love the Better Than Bouillon brand, which has veggie broth, mushroom broth, chicken broth, and other flavors), boil the broth and throw some refrigerated tortellini in with some nice veggies (maybe carrots and spinach) and boil it for the time recommended on the packaging. Maybe get some packaged salad from the grocery store and a bottle of salad dressing, some delicious bread, and some fresh fruit or frozen sorbet or gelato. Then it’ll be delicious and easy.
Don’t stress too much about the food. If he’s the right guy for you, he’ll the most delicious part of the meal is the the effort and the intention behind the meal.
Put lots of love in the soup as you’re stirring it. That’ll make it taste even better!
Bon appetit!
04 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, boundary roses, caretaker, dali mama, energetic roses, energy roses, exercise, feeding your spirit, grounding, meditation exercises, parent, psychotherapist, running your energy, sleep, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am a busy psychotherapist with a thriving practice and many clients but, over the years, I find I am feeling less and less well over time. After a full day of sessions, I sometimes have a throbbing headache and my body is sore like I have the flu but I’m not really sick. Sometimes I even feel nauseous. Usually by Sunday evening, I’m feeling okay again but then the whole cycle starts again the next week. Is there a spiritual or energetic cause for this?
–Trying to Keep on Keeping on (Canada)
DEAR KEEPING ON:
This is actually a very common experience. Start by consulting your doctor to doublecheck that there are no physical causes for these symptoms.
Next, start taking care of your energy. Psychotherapists and other wellness providers (including caretakers, teachers, parents, or anyone that works deeply with people and/or with large groups of people) often pick up energy from the people they’re working with, resulting in physical symptoms and discomfort. When you’re sensitive to energy, this can be even more exacerbated.
You can take better care of your energy through the following steps:
- Ground and run your energy regularly (email holdinglightproductions@yahoo.com with “SEND FREE MEDITATION EXERCISES” in the subject line if you don’t know how to do this and would like to learn).
- When starting each day, imagine creating fresh boundary roses on all sides of you (in front, back, on the sides, and above and below you) and allow the roses to absorb any energies from clients and other people, instead of you absorbing them into your body or your aura layers surrounding your body. When the roses get full of energies you don’t want, you can imagine exploding them and creating a brand-new set.
- Make sure you take good care of yourself always, getting adequate sleep and exercise, and taking time to do what feeds your joy and your spirit.
Have fun taking great care of yourself, just as you do as you’re caring for others.
READERS: I invite you to send in a question of your own, either in the comment section or via email to askdalimama@gmail.com. And sorry I missed posting on March 27, which I just realized. I thought I had posted it but wi fi has been variable on the road and apparently it didn’t go through. Thanks for joining me here.
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