21 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: acknowledgment, advice column, appreciation, ask dali mama, authority, boss, communication style, corporate culture, cultivating qualities within yourself, dali mama, dress, power, relationship dynamics at work, spiritual advice column, voice
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I work at an advertising company. My boss never listens to me even when I have great ideas. But someone else will say the same thing I said, and suddenly she’ll listen to that person even though she completely ignored me or dismissed my idea that was exactly the same. What do you recommend?
–Invisible Woman (Singapore)
DEAR INVISIBLE:
Perhaps she is reflecting to you where you are still working on owning and expressing your authority, your power, and your voice. Cultivate these aspects of yourself and notice how the way she treats you starts to change over time. Also notice if you say things and hope or wait to be acknowledged or heard or appreciated, or if you say things knowing that you are heard and appreciated. It will make a difference as well if you communicate with power from inside of you.
You might also want to take note of the things that work in your company’s culture that she and other management responds to. Do the people that are heard in your company dress a certain way? Carry themselves a certain way? Or communicate in a certain style? Does she seem to treat the women differently? Notice what you notice and play and experiment with how people respond to you and then pick a way that aligns with your authentic self and make it all your own.
Enjoy the journey!
20 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, beings, crime, criminals, dali mama, malevolent beings, memory lapses, not remembering a crime, responsibility, soul agreement, spirit, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Sometimes you hear about criminals committing crimes they say they can’t remember? Is that really true, do you think?
–Curious (United States)
DEAR CURIOUS:
Sometimes people who commit violent acts or other crimes may in fact not remember if their spirit popped out of their body and a malevolent being came in and used their body to commit these crimes. That doesn’t mean, however, that we don’t have some kind of responsibility nevertheless, both in the justice system and with the universal karmic system. Another spirit can only come into our body to commit a crime when we allow it or through some kind of soul agreement. You have to be strong and aware and senior to any energies trying to use your body.
19 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, core level of happiness, dali mama, expectations, happy individuals, happy relationship, important qualities in a mate, important qualities in a partner, looking for a mate, looking for someone to complete you, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
What do you think is the most important quality to look for when you’re looking for a special someone?
–Wondering (United States)
DEAR WONDERING:
I have a brilliant friend named Devin. I once asked him what kind of person he was looking for, in case I knew anyone who might be a good match for him. He told me something that stuck with me a decade and a half later. He said he was looking for someone with a core level of happiness. That didn’t mean that they never get sad or overwhelmed but that they are generally a happy person.
It makes sense to me because if you choose someone with a core level of happiness, they will not have unrealistic expectations of you making them happy or the relationship making them happy or that you will somehow complete them. If you pick someone with a core level of happiness, they can be happy, you can be happy, and you can maybe be even more happy together.
18 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, brother, dali mama, family relationships, growth periods, loving yourself, non-supportive family members, releasing old energies, shifting vibrations, sibling relationships, space, spiritual advice column, validating yourself
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Growing up, my younger brother and I used to be close. Now he is generally irritated with me and dismissive of anything I have to say or do. How does one deal with family members who aren’t supportive anymore?
–M.M. (United States)
DEAR M.M.:
You might want to tell him you feel like he’s been acting irritable and dismissive and ask what’s going on if you haven’t already. If he refuses to talk about it, just give him space to be where he’s at and be extra loving and validating with yourself.
A lot of people are going through really intense growth periods (feeling irritable or emotional as they’re releasing old energies such as anger and grief as they shift vibrations) and unfortunately many may often take it out on those they love the most.
Don’t try to “heal” him or the situation—just let it be and see what happens as you continue to love and support yourself while continuing to move forward on your path. It’s all too easy to falter on your own path in a subconscious effort to hold yourself back till others catch up with you. But you can make the most difference for yourself (and ultimately even your brother and others by modeling a different way of being) by continuing on your spirit’s path. Don’t wait for anyone. It’s time to be the leader in your life, so move onward with joy.
17 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: accusations, accusing, advice column, ask dali mama, communication, counseling, dali mama, deal breaker, jealous girlfriend, resistance, spiritual advice column, therapist
DEAR DALI MAMA:
My girlfriend is always accusing me of cheating on her. I am a faithful woman who has been in this relationship for several years and used to be very committed but now every time she does this, it just makes me want to actually go out and cheat on her although this is not my style at all. Should I break it off? Or is there a way to fix this?
–Had It up to Here (Portugal)
DEAR HAD IT:
You might want to try relationship counseling if you have not already and she should also go to counseling on her own to address the root of her self-sabotaging behavior and fears. With the guidance of your relationship counselor or therapist, perhaps you could both set a timeframe for this behavior to change and agree on the consequences of this behavior continuing past this time.
Communicate clearly to your girlfriend how this behavior is damaging the relationship and what the consequences of this behavior entail; e.g., your leaving the relationship since it seems you’re near a breaking point.
Only you can decide if this is a deal breaker for you or not. Do the positive aspects of this relationship outweigh the frustrations of this ongoing issue? If not, perhaps it is time to go once you’ve given it your best.
Your girlfriend’s behavior is a good example of how people can create the situations they dread the most through their own resistance and fear.
Either way, let go of any resistance to her false accusations. It is natural to want to do something you’re accused falsely of but it will only hurt both of you.
16 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, artist, ask dali mama, caroline douglas, dali mama, potter, spiritual advice column, sunday share
Today I am blessed to feature another wonderful artist, Caroline Douglas, whose work I have admired for years. You can contact her or find our more about her work at www.carolinedouglas.com. She has taught and published extensively over the years. Her work has been exhibited and received awards and acclaim internationally.
Ancient Sojourn, stoneware, 35″x19″x17″
Artist’s Note: “This is a piece from a dream. I dreamed I was floating above a turtle and when I woke, all I could think about was how to make clay float. I am still working that out. Turtles are my symbol for patience and the meditator celebrates our inner light and gives us permission to Be.”
Healing Session, stoneware, salt fired. 14x10x10
Artist’s note: “Not only are hands-on healing sessions valuable, making it in clay is healing for me too.”
15 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, boredom, cheating, dali mama, escape, intimacy, love, meditation, prince, princess, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I have a hard time staying in relationships long. When I’m with someone, I get bored and I am often tempted to cheat although I haven’t ever done that. But I end up breaking things off quickly, maybe because of this. Part of me really wants to find my fairytale princess and part of me I think gave up a really long time ago.
–Prince Looking for His Princess (United States)
DEAR PRINCE:
Part of being in relationship means loving the person as they are, not just a fairytale idea of who they should be. Even princesses get skinny and shrivelly or gain weight, fart or burp, or get weary doing the laundry, kissing frogs, waving with little white gloves on, or the multitude of invisible thankless tasks expected of princesses.
True love (and intimacy) means holding space for someone with their own unique set of needs and desires in their divine perfection while loving them in their divine imperfection as they figure out the whole being a spirit in a human body thing—no easy task for any of us here on earth.
As far as getting bored and being tempted to cheat, meditate on the energy underneath these impulses. Is it because you have to start facing parts of yourself or parts of the relationship you don’t want to look at and you want to be with someone else as a way to escape looking at these issues? The issues you most want to run from in yourself or in your relationships are likely what will reward you most profoundly in the future if you really stop to delve into these energies and shift them. Do this and you might find you’ve suddenly become a king, not just a prince, and you may just find a queen to co-create a true and profound love and life together if that is what you want.
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14 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, caffeine, calling your energy back, dali mama, doctor, exercise, low energy, spiritual advice column, sugar
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I have very low energy. What do you recommend?
–Tired (Canada)
DEAR TIRED:
First of all, check with your doctor to make sure there’s nothing going on physically that needs to be addressed.
In addition to avoiding the usual suspects (sugar, excess caffeine, etc.), you might want to try calling your energy back in its divine neutral form from every place you’ve left it (with other people, your workplace, projects, various places, the past, the future, etc.) and fill yourself (your body and your aura layers, the layers of energy surrounding your physical body) with your energy in its divine neutral form. It can be amazing how much of our energy we’ve got scattered all over the place and how different we can feel when we’ve reclaimed it for ourselves.
Also, make sure to give your body enough exercise every day. Even when you feel too tired, if you can manage to get your body moving for even half an hour or an hour every day, you’ll start to feel more and more energetic.
Have fun playing with that!
13 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, alone, ask dali mama, connection, connection with self, dali mama, lonely, lonely in a crowd, sensitive to energy, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Why do we feel alone and lonely in a crowd?
–M.C. (India)
DEAR M.C.:
When you’re sensitive to energy, sometimes you could be picking up how other people are feeling. Sometimes, too, if you’re born with a spirit awareness of what it means to truly connect with others, individually or as a group, the physical experience of human connection may pale in comparison and feel less than satisfactory. Usually it is not necessarily because people don’t care about you, but most people are themselves learning how to truly connect with another, much less themselves.
Start by practicing a deep connection with yourself—your heart, your soul, your body, and your mind, and by loving all parts of you, and by validating yourself as “the party,” whether you’re on your own or hanging out with others. Also, keep validating the oneness of all. When you do this, you will feel less and less lonely in a crowd over time.
12 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, beings, boundary roses, communication, dali mama, disrupted sleep, lost souls, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I have for a while been having disrupted sleep. I have to go to bed really early as I know I will be woken up at least twice by upsetting or scary dreams that keep me up for an hour or so each time.
Is it beings (lost spirits) trying to scare me as I have heard this is possible? And if so, can I do anything before I sleep to safeguard myself and stop this from happening?
–T.W. (Brazil)
DEAR T.W.:
Part of the reason you are having disrupted sleep might be that things have been super intense on the astral level (as well as on the planet) lately.
Set your space before you go to sleep, imagining putting boundary roses on each of the walls of your space and on the ceiling and floor. And fill your room with rest, relaxation, safety, and security.
Sometimes beings do try to mess with people to scare them. For this particular level of activity, try asking them what they want. Have your certainty and neutrality as you’re communicating with them. Usually they will either communicate with you or leave you alone if you’re not afraid of them.
11 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, astrology, compatibility, dali mama, effectiveness of astrology, expertise of astrologer, free will, shift the energy, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Do you think astrology really works?
–Skeptical (New Zealand)
DEAR SKEPTICAL:
I do indeed. I too used to be skeptical before I researched astrology. Before, to me, astrology was just those 3-sentence bits you’d read in the newspaper for each sign. I tried it out, though, to see. I was blown away by how accurate my astrologer was. She knew very specific things, including timeframes of certain key events, solely from my chart. Of course, it depends on the expertise of your astrologer as well as your compatibility with your astrologer to some extent.
Keep in mind, however, that astrology is your tool, not your master. Your astrological chart does not definitively dictate your entire life. There is always free will and if you don’t like the energy of a situation that you’re in or that you’re headed towards, you can always shift the energy.
09 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, cars, celestial seasonings, dali mama, dandelion, diamonds, everyday treasures, picnics, puppy tails, sand, spiritual advice column
Here’s a mini-essay I wrote for one of the Celestial Seasonings tea boxes:
Diamonds and fancy cars don’t make a life we remember. It’s the quiet picnics in the orchard, the sudden yellow of a dandelion bursting through a crack in the sidewalk, and warm sand between your toes at the beach. It’s a small child grabbing your hand, the ecstasy of puppy tails welcoming you home. These are our everyday treasures, what we take with us as we drift into slumber and what welcomes us back to each new day.
08 Mar 2014
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Why do I always choose the wrong sort of women to date? I look back on my life and notice I always walked right past really nice and beautiful women but beelined towards the ones who would wreak havoc on my life. I am a decent looking guy with a good job and pretty smart except for when it comes to picking women. When I look back, I see that all the signs were there from the beginning but I was blind to them or something. What is wrong with me?
–Disgusted (Mexico)
DEAR DISGUSTED:
There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s called being human. Ha ha. The good thing, though, is, even as a human, you don’t have to keep repeating the same patterns of the past.
We’re often drawn to those with have karma with—perhaps one of the lessons you’re learning as a spirit is learning how to make choices in relationships that are healthier for you and to learn more deeply about what love is.
The key thing is to develop awareness, which you’re already doing a good job of since you’re asking this question instead of choosing to blindly keep following the same patterns.
The next step is sitting down and meditating on why you are drawn to women who have a chaotic effect on your life. Do you feel you’re not worthy of being with someone who is nice to you (and pretty too since you mention that) and is a positive influence on your life? If so, validate your worth and your right to be with someone who is a positive influence in your life. Do you feel like being with someone who is a disruptive influence is more exciting than being with someone you can count on? If so, maybe you need to find another source of excitement in your life. Like bungee jumping or crocodile wrestling. Ha ha. Do you choose people that are similar to a parent (or choose the opposite of a parent out of resistance to being with someone like one of your parents)? That’s fine if you want to do that but you can choose consciously. Or do you choose these women because you think you can help them or heal them in some way because you do not feel that just being and not working for love is enough in a relationship? If so, notice that instinct when you are getting to know someone and decide if that’s really what you want in a relationship.
Congratulations on opening up your awareness so you can make choices that support and honor you.
Wishing you much love.
Aside
by askdalimama
07 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, communication, communication through dreams, dali mama, expectations, free will, spirit guides, spiritual advice column
Why is it that some spirit guides are so unhelpful or not forthcoming with any information at all? As a clairvoyant, have you ever noticed this? And if so, why do some people have guides that are continually like this and others don’t?
–Befuddled (Canada)
DEAR BEFUDDLED:
Spirit guides, like people, each have their own unique way of communicating, which can vary according to the person they’re communicating with or with what’s called for in each situation. Also, they must communicate in a way that does not interfere with their person’s free will or highest good.
Sometimes they do not explicitly communicate about things because it might create expectations where their person blocks the upcoming miracle or situation if they are told about it in advance out of nervousness or fear or simply misinterpreting the communication because of their own mental or energetic filters.
All spirits guides do communicate in some way if you ask for communication. Often, they communicate to people through their dreams where the person’s conscious, analytical mind can’t get in the way quite as much. Also, spirit guides often communicate to people but their communications might get interpreted as “having a hunch” or “getting a good or bad feeling about something” or getting an inspiration or an idea about something. Thus the person is getting the communication even if they don’t consciously recognize that their spirit guide was helping them out.
Even when you do not realize it, you are getting communication from your spirit guides as well as the information they are conveying, even if it is not on a fully conscious level. Start by communicating more with your spirit guides and getting to know each better on a daily basis, and your friendship and working relationship and communication will develop even further.
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