06 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, credit cards, dali mama, id theft, identity theft, passion, reclaiming identity, reclaiming your identity, security, security breach, spiritual advice column, validation
DEAR DALI MAMA:
We canceled and got three new credit cards over the last couple months, due to security breaches. Since then, and particularly over the last week, two of our newly issued cards were compromised. I can’t help but wonder if there is something funky going on energetically to make this happen, and so many times. It seems like too much too often to be simply coincidental. Is there anything we could do/not do to protect ourselves from financial and identity fraud? Thank you.
–Enough of This (United States)
DEAR ENOUGH:
Start by contacting your banks and your credit-card companies requesting more secure credit-card technology. Other countries already have more secure credit-card systems using chips, for example, so the technology does exist already–it just needs to be adopted in the States. The more consumers demand this technology, the quicker it’ll be adopted.
On an energetic level, two things are probably going on:
1) You might be getting a warning from the universe now to pay more attention to your money and security-related issues, and also to get a chance to look at what are really the most important things in your life so you don’t have to undergo anything more extreme.
2) Pay attention too to where you are losing your own identity—forgetting what is most important to you as an individual, not spending time on your own true passions, constantly sacrificing yourself and your own needs for family or friends or work. Own and reclaim your true identity for yourself so no one else can take it. And as you’re owning and rediscovering yourself, also validate and have your worth just for you!
Enjoy the process!
05 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, mirror, soul agreement, soulmates, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Do you believe in soulmates?
–Wondering if They Really Exist (United States)
DEAR WONDERING:
Yes, soulmates do exist and are not some mythical idea. However, many people ask to meet their soulmate but do not understand what a soulmate is and may not even recognize them when they show up in their life. Also, a person does not have just one soulmate but a number of them.
Often people have a misconception that meeting their soulmate means happily ever after, no more work involved in relationships or love. Often, however, we have a soul agreement with our soulmate to hold mirrors up for each other, reflecting to each other the energies that no longer serve us (including those energies we’ve been running away from all our lives and are terrified of looking at)—the energies that we must release to become more of our true authentic selves. Some soulmates stay together and have very deep and profound love for each other but it takes commitment, constant growth, honesty, and a lot of hard work. Some don’t stay together, but simply catalyze a huge energetic shift then leave because it is very intense to constantly be doing this kind of deep work long term and examining of all the stuff we need to change, as you can imagine.
04 Mar 2014
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Sometimes when I wake up in the morning, I’m still so exhausted. Do you know why I’m so tired even after sleeping enough?
–Sleepy in Seattle (United States)
DEAR SLEEPY:
If you’ve addressed the standard possibilities (having blinking or other lights in your sleeping area, electronics near your bed, caffeine or alcohol disrupting sleep, or sleep apnea), try setting the intention to have a restful night’s before you go to bed and calling your energy back to you in divine form from the astral when you wake up. A lot of times when we’re working hard on the astral, we may forget to call all our energy back from the astral, which can help your energy levels a lot.
See http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/features/6-surprising-sleep-wreckers for more information on potential sleep disrupters.
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03 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: cold, cold and flu season, colloidal silver, filling in with health, filling in with your energy, flu, grounding, matching vibration, resistance, running your energy, staying healthy
DEAR DALI MAMA:
What do you suggest for not getting sick during this cold and flu season?
–Healthy and Wanting to Stay that Way (United States)
DEAR HEALTHY:
In addition to the basics you know such as washing your hands, vitamin C, etc., here are some energetic tips that can help support your health so you don’t catch a cold or any other bugs going around:
1) Ground and run your energy regularly (email holdinglightproductions@yahoo.com if you want a free recording of grounding exercises).
2) Be sure to fill in with your wholeness and health and a strong immune system and fresh new life force anytime you release any energy. Sometimes when people release energy after getting a healing or simply moving a lot of energy but don’t fill in afterwards with the energy they want, that can leave them more open to catching a cold.
3) When you’re with a person who is sick, don’t resist their cold or the germs. Simply be in your health. When you resist catching a cold from someone, your energy will tend to match the vibration of that illness, making you more prone to actually catching a cold.
Oh, and I love a dropper full of colloidal silver every now and again if I feel like I’m fighting something. It seems to work for me really well as long as I take it the moment I’m starting to drag a bit.
Happy health!
02 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, earth's shadow, Flannery O'Connor, Flannery O'Connor's prayer, journal, moon, prayer, self shadow, spiritual advice column, The New Yorker
Here is an excerpt from a young Flannery O’Connor’s journal quoted from The New Yorker (http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2013/09/16/130916fa_fact_oconnor):
Dear God, I cannot love Thee the way I want to. You are the slim crescent of a moon that I see and my self is the earth’s shadow that keeps me from seeing all the moon. The crescent is very beautiful and perhaps that is all one like I am should or could see; but what I am afraid of, dear God, is that my self shadow will grow so large that it blocks the whole moon, and that I will judge myself by the shadow that is nothing. . . .
01 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, aloe, ask dali mama, big penis, communication, dali mama, lubricant, painful sex, sexual positions, spiritual advice column, Sylk, woman on top
DEAR DALI MAMA:
My boyfriend is really huge, if you know what I mean. It feels really painful when we have sex. What do you recommend?
–C.D. (United States)
DEAR C.D.:
I’m going to answer this from the perspective of you being a female and if that’s not the case, let me know the specifics and I’ll answer it from a different perspective.
First of all, be sure to communicate what is going on so he can be more aware of what’s going on with you so he can go more slowly and gently, and so he can know the exact point that it becomes uncomfortable. Maybe you could start for a month or so with you being on top so you can have more control over how far he goes in and at what pace. Use tons of lubricant too. Try Sylk or you can even make your own with aloe if you have any aloe plants. Over time, your vaginal canal will start to stretch more to accommodate him (both girthwise and lengthwise) but never push yourself beyond what is comfortable for you, or your body will start to resist and you could also damage something.
Play with this gradually and see how it goes. At the very least, you both should be able to find a happy medium over time.
Note: Readers, I invite you to send in your own questions. You may email them to askdalimama@gmail.com or write them in the comments section.
28 Feb 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, breastfeeding, breastfeeding consultant, control energy, dali mama, doula, love, OB/GYN, releasing control energy, spiritual advice column, visualization
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am having trouble breastfeeding. Do you have any tips for that?
–Having Difficulty (United States)
DEAR HAVING DIFFICULTY:
I suggest asking your OB/GYN or your doula, or ask them if they have a breastfeeding consultant who can watch you with your baby and demonstrate some tips.
Energetically, it can help if you intend to release any control energy you no longer need and just allow yourself to be and visualize and set the intention of the milk flowing freely from your breast into the baby’s mouth.
If you want to, you can also imagine your whole body and surrounding aura layers as well as the milk inside of you overflowing with love and you can let the baby feed on the love in the milk as it is flowing from you.
Enjoy this beautiful time together with your baby.
27 Feb 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, boundary roses, dali mama, energetic roses, protecting energy, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Sometimes when I get together with people (even people that I like), I tend to take on their energy and feel drained or heavy. How do I handle my energy so I don’t take on other people’s stuff?
–S.L. (United States)
DEAR S.L.:
That’s very common, especially for people sensitive to energy, to take on other people’s energies inadvertently. One great way you can protect your energy is to imagine putting energetic boundary roses on each side of you (and above and below you). Each morning, put a fresh set of energetic roses around you and let any energy from other people be absorbed into the roses so that the roses absorb the energy, not you. When the roses get full of energy, you can imagine exploding them and creating a brand-new set of roses. You can even do that when you’re on the phone by putting a rose between you and the phone, or between you and the computer when you’re working on the computer.
Play with that and see how you feel. Have fun!
26 Feb 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, competition, dali mama, holding your space, mirror of self, relationships, resistance, spiritual advice column, validation, wholeness
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I have a friend who till relatively recently meant the world to me but I have hugely grown and grown up as a person and I see her more for who she really is now.
I know now that I am easily her equal and no longer need a teacher/counselor (though she’d like to keep me in this position). Then when I look at her side of the friendship it’s based on her trying constantly to get me to use my spiritual gifts for her gratification (though she disguises it as a big need); or dumping her emotional stuff on me and generally trying to get me to her level of being–sad, frustrated, angry, lonely, etc.
On my side of the friendship, I used to get in touch with her when I felt I couldn’t cope with life as my mother never listened so I’ve always turned to other strong women. I need also to change this. How do I feel like I’m enough for myself to be able to cope with the emotional reactions I have without reaching out to others?
I fear her reaction as my mother shows rage and subsequent withholding of love I have been petrified of when I stand up to her. So my friend is a mirror. I want to find the courage not only to speak my truth but to also stand my ground and not shake inside or feel bad. I want to break this lifelong behavior pattern.
Also how do I discover what remains of our friendship when I make changes based on the above?
–M.L. (Switzerland)
DEAR M.L.:
It’s great you’re looking at both sides of the relationship as well as what you have to learn from this relationship. That’s an essential skill for any solid relationship.
The most important thing is for you to hold your space and be who you are—a strong woman in your power. Do this and your friend will either rise up to meet you at this new vibration or fall away. Sometimes, too, people have to withdraw for a little while first before they can meet up with you later at your true vibration.
Also, don’t resist any energies as far as her dumping energies on you. She can do that all she wants but it will only stick if you allow it to or if you resist those energies. Just validate your wholeness and love and power and see her as a whole and divine being as well and you can best enjoy her company (or not) while understanding both of you are divine beings in bodies and that you both are teachers in some areas and students in some, as we all are. In spirit there is no competition—no better than or less than, only wholeness and divinity. Keep validating that wholeness in yourself and in her and she can choose to match that more easily in her expression of her spririt in the physical plane.
Note: Readers, I invite you to send in your own questions. You may email them to askdalimama@gmail.com or write them in the comments section.
25 Feb 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, aligning with authentic selves, ask dali mama, coping with emotions, counselor, dali mama, deep emotions, distractions, drink, drugs, energy, grand cross, mindless entertainment, rage, sadness, spiritual advice column, strong emotions
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I have such deep emotions, and I don’t know what to do with them. Most of my daily existence is tinged with an undercurrent of sadness, and then sometimes I do things out of rage that I later regret deeply. How can I deal with these strong emotions?
–S.R. (United States)
DEAR S.R.:
It’s great you’re allowing yourself to feel these intense emotions. During the current intense energies, many are turning to drink, drugs, constant mindless entertainment, and other distractions to try to escape from these intense energies, but that doesn’t ultimately help us make productive changes for the long run.
First of all, know that you are not alone. So many people on the planet have been feeling these huge energy shifts, one after another. Sometimes we can feel like we’re drowning in a tsunami and feeling like we’re finally coming up for air when we get hit with another big wave. Astrologically, we’re working up to a Grand Cross, and things will continue to get more intense, particularly over the next couple months. What’s happening on an energetic level is we’re being pushed to align our lives with our authentic selves, and something’s got to give. We’re also in the process of releasing a lot of old energies that no longer serve us, from this life and from way before this lifetime even.
Second, when you allow yourself to feel the grief and release it, you might notice that, as you release each layer of grief, you may find layers of anger underneath. Also notice how you can change your life little by little to create more peace, more joy, and more fulfillment.
Sometimes we settle into a way of living that doesn’t really fit who we are as spirit, with pressures from others as well as pressures that we put on ourselves because we think that’s how we’re supposed to live. I’m sensing this is an opportunity for you to take stock of how you’re living, really examine what parts work and don’t work, and start to make gradual changes to build a life that really fits you, with the help of counselling.
Another thing you might want to do is to channel these intense feelings you’re experiencing into some sort of creative expression—painting, sculpture, dance, or music. Really allow yourself to feel and experience these emotions and transmute them through a medium that resonates for you.
24 Feb 2014
DEAR DALI MAMA:
My psychic gifts are quite developed and I find I can know a lot about a situation or a person through using them. I can ask particular questions and then see psychic pictures about people that tell me what’s going on or I see and feel an energy I read that gives me the same result. I also can contact the spirit of people and ask them questions. Sometimes someone’s talking about their friend for example and I get images of what that friend feels or thinks. Do I pass that on?
But I am equally very aware that you can accumulate bad karma by misusing your psychic abilities. And as that’s not working for the light obviously it is not somewhere I want to go….When would it be considered as misuse by the Universe/God to use your gifts? Where do you draw the line?
Also how do you shut down your gifts when you want time out?
–J.P. (New Zealand)
DEAR J.P.:
That is wonderful you are developing your gifts as well as contemplating how to use them in a positive way.
As far as getting psychic hits when someone’s talking about their friends, it’s not always helpful to pass them on. Look at the energy case by case of whether or not it is appropriate, helpful, or even wanted in each situation. Even when you’re accurate, some people do not want to know. Especially when you are accurate! Ha ha.
And that is an important question about what it means to use your gifts for good. Generally, I would say never use your psychic abilities to manipulate or control others. Also, never spy on anyone psychically. Those are the kinds of things that generally create the kind of karma you don’t want.
The intention is the most important. If someone is missing and thought to be in danger and you’re trying to help them, it’s okay to check in psychically if you have permission on a spirit level from them and maybe their family has asked you to help find them. If, however, you’re simply curious about what someone you like (or don’t like) is doing, doing remote viewing or psychic surveillance on them is not good psychic etiquette. If you have any doubts that anything you’re thinking of doing is okay, don’t do it.
As someone that works as an intuitive and healer, I always turn down my psychic space, including turning down my sixth chakra, when I am not in session by consciously setting that intention when I am done with each session. I find that I have more than enough to look at in myself rather than paying attention to all the energies around me when I am not in session.
Don’t worry that you will miss any hits you need necessary for your survival—if you stay grounded in yourself, you will know anything you need to know, like maybe you forgot to turn off the stove or you need to call your mom.
Have fun with this! Congratulations on really delving into how to best use your gifts for the light.
Note: Readers, I invite you to send in your own questions. You may email them to askdalimama@gmail.com or write them in the comments section.
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23 Feb 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, john saxon, music, piano reader, saxon, spirit rendition through music, spiritual advice column, sunday share
Today we have a very special gift. I asked healer and award-winning musician John Saxon to do a group piano reading specifically for us. A piano reading is like a psychic reading, but rather than receiving images to describe, John receives music that he then plays on the piano. It faithfully renders your deepest, truest self in piano music form, bringing your hidden gold to consciousness. Read more about his work at Http://www.pianoreadings.com. You can also email him at John.saxon@pianoreadings.com to find out more about his work or to commission a piano reading for you as an individual or for someone special.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Tx2Sfm7-OM
22 Feb 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, divine right, free will, karma, love, love spells, relationships, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
What do you think about love spells and do they work?
–Wanting Love (Brazil)
DEAR WANTING LOVE:
Although love spells do work sometimes, I do not recommend them nor do I perform them for clients that come for energy work. Doing love spells can interfere with a person’s free will, pulling a person’s energy or influencing it in a way that I don’t believe is ethical. Also, doing a love spell on someone is, I believe, creating unwanted karma for yourself.
Instead of doing a love spell, perhaps you might want to ask the Universe to bring into your life the person who is of your divine right. Also, create the energy first for yourself of love and a loving relationship with yourself in order to create the optimal energy for a relationship that matches this love vibration to come into your life. And, of course, do the practical basics such as getting out into the world (even through the Internet on an online dating site if that feels right to you) where people can meet you and have the opportunity to fall in love with you.
Validate the love you have, including for yourself, and even more love will find you in divine time.
21 Feb 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, energy body, qi gong, spiritual advice column, strengthening the energy body, tai chi, yoga
DEAR DALI MAMA:
What are some really good ways to strengthen our energy bodies?
–T.A. (England)
Dear T.A.:
Strengthening your energy body is just as important as maintaining your physical body. There are many components of the energy body and many ways, but some basics for starters include grounding, running your energy, and doing things that help strengthen and integrate your physical and energy bodies (yoga, tai chi and qi gong, acupuncture, as just a few examples). (If you want some free meditations on how to ground and run your energy, please email holdinglightproductions@yahoo.com to request the free recordings and I will send them to you.)
Also, it’s very important to exercise your physical body as well. Some people that are interested in energy can sometimes focus all of their attention on their spirit or their energy bodies without providing proper exercise and movement for their physical bodies, but physical movement and care of the physical body (healthy nutrients and foods) are very important to the energy body as well.
Likewise, training your energy body can help with physical health and performance. That’s why it helps for athletes to imagine their energetic kinesthetic bodies training or going through a dance routine, or why it helps musicians if they practice on an “air piano” even when they’re not on a real piano, or why it helps someone who has been in an accident if they can imagine their bodies moving, practicing moving their energy bodies even when they cannot yet move their physical bodies. We are, after all, spirits in a physical plane.
Thanks for asking this important question.
Note: Readers, I invite you to send in your own questions. You may email them to askdalimama@gmail.com or write them in the comments section.
20 Feb 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, ending a friendship, friendship breakup, ho'oponopono, Morrnah Nalamaku Simeona, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Today I just broke up a friendship. I moved to a small town in the Midwest and have been very careful when it came to friendships (as small towns always involve gossip) and I became close friends with someone that I knew did not have many friends in town, which I never understood because she is a nice person. After a while, it became hard for me to be friends with her, especially after I became close friends with other people who were not huge fans of her. It was hard for me to be neutral and in the middle of this “war” and I just wanted to avoid these things.
Tonight I mentioned to her how I felt pressure being friends with her as it was hard to stay in the middle of what was going on and being friends with both sides. The friendship ended and it was sad to have to “choose” a side. In one way, that was a relief, but what was hard was what she said about me as we were breaking up the friendship. I got upset about the comments she made about me, what she thought about me.
I would like to ask if that decision was right and also some comments about why I felt this way. Was it because of her judgment? Of her projecting things on me?
–A.T. (United States)
DEAR A.T.:
Perhaps this is an opportunity to practice feeling and knowing what is best for you and holding your space in complicated social groups. Human relationships are very complex when there are just two people, and even more so when you factor in a group of people.
If you were still enjoying hanging out with this former friend (other than feeling conflicted about other people not liking her), you might want to look at the peer pressure (energetic or otherwise, or even the pressure you put on yourself) to disengage from this person.
If you still enjoyed hanging out with her other than because of the outside energies, it could have been a good opportunity to practice holding your space and still loving her and hanging out with her and allowing others to have their own opinions while not having to take responsibility or to choose a side or heal this situation but, rather, simply enjoying being her friend and continuing to do so.
You might want to meditate on why what she said to you stings and lingers. Is there some truth to her comment? Or are you simply resisting her judgments of you? Or a little of both? Look at it and release what needs to go and this will help you have beautiful solid relationships with yourself and with others that are true soul friends.
Also, you might want to check out http://www.wanttoknow.info/070701imsorryiloveyoujoevitale and do the Hawaiian healing technique of ho’oponopono (see also http://www.hooponopono.org for information on Morrnah Nalamaku Simeona’s technique. Perhaps she is reflecting to you where you have abandoned parts of yourself to make others more comfortable with you. Doing this exercise will heal where you have rejected parts of yourself and abandoned parts of yourself and bring them into wholeness and love.
Thanks for having the courage to really look at this to discover your spirit’s truth about the situation. Wishing you much love and the joy of discovering more of yourself.
Note: Readers, I invite you to send in your own questions. You may email them to askdalimama@gmail.com or write them in the comments section.
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