14 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, growth, karma, lessons, losing friends, naomi horii, new perspective, shifting relationships, societal structures and templates, spiritual advice column, staying on your path, time and space away from loved ones, time and space on your own, validate relationships, vibrations
DEAR DALI MAMA:
Over the last few years, somehow I’ve lost a lot of friends I’ve had for decades. They haven’t died or anything. They’ve just disappeared from my life, even the ones that said we’d be friends forever. Some of them have disappeared without a word or explanation. What is going on?
–Confused (Brazil)
DEAR CONFUSED:
This has been an intense time on the planet, with the vibrations of the planet and of everyone on the planet shifting immensely, causing instability in societal templates and structures such as in our economic system, government, religious institutions, and elsewhere. Accordingly, we’re feeling those shifts in our relationships as well.
If you’ve asked them if anything’s wrong and they refuse to communicate, the best thing you can do might be just to let them be wherever they’re at. Keep on your path and do what you need to do in your divine vibration.
Some people you think you have lost might catch up with you later down the road. Some people maybe just had to go their own way as you go yours in order for everyone to experience the growth and lessons they came to learn in this lifetime. Sometimes we need some space and time away from our familiar loved ones in order for us to gain a new perspective and growth in a different direction before we come back together again. Sometimes, too, maybe you have finished up your karma with someone and it’s time to move on.
In every case, just validate and appreciate the time you had together and create space for each of you to be on your true paths, wherever that might lead. Create space too for you to reconnect with the ones you’re meant to reconnect with and to let go of the ones with whom you’ve completed your time together, creating space for new people you are meant to connect with to come into your lives in divine timing.
12 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: apathy, ask dali mama, dali mama, employment, job search, keeping in touch, networking, passion, resetting energy, resistance, resumes, spiritual advice column, unemployed, volunteering
DEAR DALI MAMA:
At this point in life I have a weak resume, no real connections and all I’ve done for the past eight years is send out resumes to nonprofits, which I’d eventually like to work in, to no avail. My plan B has always been to just work for a college but it ALL seems so ho-hum. Do you have any suggestions as far as bringing something about easily–I’m pretty tired of trying to figure it out and going that route just makes everything seem hard and a little pointless. Am I apathetic or what?
–Ann (United States)
DEAR ANN:
I understand the challenges of seeking work during this time in the United States. Don’t just send out resumes as many jobs are not actually filled solely through the standard resume route. Only target places you really want to work for. Find a place that does work you’re passionate about and, if you can, volunteer a couple hours a week so they can get to know you.
Another target maybe five top places with causes that you want to champion and call the person who is in charge of the area you are most interested in and talk to them. Tell them your skills, your experience, ask how you can help, and ask if they can meet with you or at least have a chat about how you can get in at their organization. It doesn’t hurt to ask.
Once they know you and what you’re capable of, they’d be smart to hire you. Even if nothing is available at the time, leave your contact info and keep in touch periodically (maybe a postcard every month or something) and keep yourself in the forefront of their minds so hopefully they’ll contact you when an opening does come up.
Finally, reset the energy of your job search. Go in and HAVE the job you want in the powerful energy that is divinely yours. Don’t go in with the energy of needing a job, like they’d be doing you a favor to hire you, or like a beggar asking for a handout. HAVE the energy of your dream job first, then go in, offering and allowing them the honor and gift of you working for their organization. Once you do this, the energy will start to build.
As far as apathy, apathy is a form of resistance, and resistance can create walls between you and what you’re trying to create. So have enthusiasm and fun in your job search. The human resource people will sense that, even when they’re just looking at your resume.
11 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, baby's spirit, birth, birth process, dali mama, full-term pregnancy, miscarriages, releasing grief, spiritual advice column, spiritual meaning of miscarriages, validation, vibration
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I’ve had two miscarriages and am heartbroken. What is happening spiritually?
–Wanting so Badly to Be a Mother (New Zealand)
DEAR WANTING:
I feel for you, love. Sometimes a baby’s spirit has to come into the physical once or more for a pregnancy or two before being able to make it through the whole birth process. Sometimes this is to help the mother release any grief or other energies she needs to let go of so she can carry the baby in a higher vibration during the pregnancy. So be heartbroken for as long as you want and just keep releasing any grief and other old energies that need to go to make room for a new vibration.
Often, but not always, it is the same baby spirit coming in that was miscarried that comes back again and goes through the full-term pregnancy and birth with you later on.
Sometimes, too, a baby’s spirit just wants to be with you in the physical even for that short blessed time together.
In either case, validate that time you had together even if it wasn’t for as long as you had hoped.
Praying for love and peace and for whatever your spirit wishes.
10 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: ask dali mama, dali mama, donating old clothes, elements of style, fear, frumpy, getting help from a friend, photos from magazines, shopping in your closet, spiritual advice column, wanting to create a new style, wardrobe staples, women whose style you admire
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am in the process of changing my life. I have been divorced for 12 years and I think I am finally ready to start dating again. I know I’ve let myself dress frumpy all these years since my husband left and I want to create a whole new style but I feel scared. I don’t know why. Any suggestions on how to create a new style?
–Almost Stylin’ (United States)
DEAR STYLIN’:
Congratulations on changing your life. You might feel scared because, by letting go of your old frumpy style, you’re stepping out into the world and allowing yourself to connect with people as a woman who is willing to be seen (and even admired).
Cut out photos from magazines of women whose style you admire. Think about what elements of the styles you like and how you can start to incorporate those elements into your own style.
Next, take the photos of outfits of women who have a similar body type to you and notice what makes those outfits work.
Then, I suggest inviting one of your stylish friends to lunch and asking them if they’d help you pick out some simple wardrobe staples that flatter you. It always helps to have a neutral eye and someone who can guide you to things you might not think of trying on. You might even start by shopping in your closet to see what you have that would work for you. And donate whatever doesn’t. Once you have the basic pieces you need, you can add color and other elements, perhaps even with accessories you already have.
Pick things you feel comfortable in but also allow yourself to go outside of your comfort zone now and then while you’re exploring what your unique style is that both flatters and uplifts you and allows the true you to shine.
Most importantly, let yourself play and have fun expressing your true self through your new style.
Have fun and let yourself shine!
09 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, emotional man, emotions, female energies, male and female energies, male energies, sensitive man, social programming, spiritual advice column, stereotypes
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I’m a poet and am a very sensitive male. My female friends, and even past girlfriends when they first met me, complain that there aren’t many sensitive men and yet, I feel like they (or at least my exes) don’t actually like being with a sensitive man. Namely me when I’m feeling “sensitive” or emotional. What is going on here?
–Wondering What It Means, Really, to be a Man (United States)
DEAR WONDERING:
This is an interesting question. You are witnessing the disparity between what people say they want (or think they want) versus what they actually want. This discrepancy lies in the stereotypical pictures of what a man should be. Sometimes people say they are looking for a sensitive man who feels and expresses emotions, but they can’t handle the reality of that, which truly does men (and women) a disservice. As a culture, our society tends to punish boys and men for crying or being too emotional, and then when some males accordingly shut down their emotions and expression of these emotions in response, how can they be expected to easily break through a lifetime of rigid and unrealistic social programming?
The reality is that all of us—men and women—run both male and female energies. Each individual may run different proportions of the male and female energies, which can fluctuate in each moment as well. To try to categorize any person and make them fit strictly into rigid gender roles is both ridiculous and impossible.
Just keep being the sensitive and emotional man that you are. And when women who say they want a sensitive man complain when you’re sensitive, just laugh and ask them, “Isn’t that what you said you’re looking for?” That will help them confront their own issues or pictures around what a man should be like and help them see the discrepancies between what they say they want and their responses to what they said they want in a light-hearted but very clear way.
08 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, artists, ask dali mama, athletes, chefs, communication, conversation, creative types, dali mama, eating style, healthy lifestyle, musicians, people who do what they love, priorities about sex, relationship chemistry, sex drive, sexual compatibility, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I spent many years in a sexless marriage and am newly divorced. Could you tell me, is there a profession or professions that typically have men with more of a sex drive and/or that are good in bed? Because if there is, I want to date someone in that profession.
–SINGLE WOMAN IN HER 30’S
DEAR SINGLE:
Sexuality is a complex aspect of self so there are no hard (ha ha, yes, pun intended) rules as far as men in a certain profession. There are very sensual engineers and ardent accountants, so prevailing stereotypes are false (as are all stereotypes inherently).
I suggest having a conversation early on (before you sleep with someone but definitely way before you’re either getting undressed or are already naked!) about your individual priorities regarding sex. If you’re getting along well with someone and it’s a huge priority for you but not at all a priority for them (like maybe they’re happy having sex once a month or not at all), you both know right away that is an issue and you both have a chance to evaluate whether the compatible areas outweigh the differences in opinions about sex—frequency, quality, styles, etc.
Another option is getting a reading to determine your sexual and other compatibilities before the relationship progresses too far. But a general conversation on the topic is still important. And of course, certain factors may affect someone’s sex drive temporarily—stress, medications, illness, energy levels, etc.
When you’re on a first date, notice too how he eats. Does he savor each bite or does he wolf things down with one eye on the sports channel and the other on his smartphone?
Also, is he in a job where he can move a lot or is he in a desk job but goes for walks or goes to the gym? Men who exercise may tend to be healthier, which can sometimes translate into a healthy sex drive. Also, men who drink too much or do drugs may sometimes have impaired sexual function.
Personally, I have noticed that people who are doing in life what they love seem to generally have strong sex drives. This is true but not limited to many creative types. Some artists and musicians and chefs (yes, chefs) are quite delightful in bed. But then again, chefs or musicians or artists who are very in their heads (but the upper heads and not the lower heads—oh I am on a roll today, just cracking myself up) and more oriented to technical details without the energy or heart of the music or art or food, may sometimes reflect similar propensities in their lovemaking as well. Athletes can sometimes be a lot of fun, too, and tend to have lots of stamina.
In any case, for every person out there, there are a number of great matches for them, and of course certain partners may bring out certain aspects of their sexuality more than others simply because of the chemistry of that particular relationship combination.
For every person who finds it ideal to have sex once a month, there are a number of people who would be equally happy with this arrangement. It’s just a matter of finding someone with compatible needs.
NOTE: I invite you to write in with your own question, either in the Comments section or by emailing askdalimama@gmail.com. THanks for joining us today and every day, readers!
07 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, astral travel, camping, dali mama, inexpensive travel, low funds, Netflix, saving, spiritual advice column, trading places, travel, travel fund, www.couchsurfing.org, youth hostels
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am longing to travel the world but have no money, even really to go anywhere nearby. Do you have any suggestions for how to make this happen?
–Gypsy at Heart (Canada)
DEAR GYPSY:
Even if you don’t have funds, start saving 10% of any money that comes in and start putting together a travel fund. Don’t touch it until you have enough to take a trip. You’ll be surprised how it adds up over time.
There are ways you can do it cheaply—hostels, camping, trading places with friends in other locations, or www.couchsurfing.org.
In the meantime, go to your local library and read books about other cultures and regions and time periods and countries. You can also do the same with Netflix or some other movie subscription, allowing yourself to visit other places through film and literature and art.
A third thing you can do is to set your space before you go to sleep, intending to visit other places with your astral body. Doing it this way, you can even travel beyond this galaxy or dimension! When you wake up, write down anything you remember. Over time, you’ll probably remember more and more from your astral visits.
Happy travels!
04 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, Better Than Bouillon, cooking, dali mama, gelato, how to cook, ice cream, love, salad, spiritual advice column, tortellini, what to make for a date
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I don’t know how to cook but a potential boyfriend is coming over and I’d really like to make something special for him.
–Newbie (United States)
DEAR NEWBIE:
Since you’re just learning, start with something simple and delicious. Maybe a nice hearty soup. You can do vegetable or chicken broth (I love the Better Than Bouillon brand, which has veggie broth, mushroom broth, chicken broth, and other flavors), boil the broth and throw some refrigerated tortellini in with some nice veggies (maybe carrots and spinach) and boil it for the time recommended on the packaging. Maybe get some packaged salad from the grocery store and a bottle of salad dressing, some delicious bread, and some fresh fruit or frozen sorbet or gelato. Then it’ll be delicious and easy.
Don’t stress too much about the food. If he’s the right guy for you, he’ll the most delicious part of the meal is the the effort and the intention behind the meal.
Put lots of love in the soup as you’re stirring it. That’ll make it taste even better!
Bon appetit!
04 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, boundary roses, caretaker, dali mama, energetic roses, energy roses, exercise, feeding your spirit, grounding, meditation exercises, parent, psychotherapist, running your energy, sleep, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am a busy psychotherapist with a thriving practice and many clients but, over the years, I find I am feeling less and less well over time. After a full day of sessions, I sometimes have a throbbing headache and my body is sore like I have the flu but I’m not really sick. Sometimes I even feel nauseous. Usually by Sunday evening, I’m feeling okay again but then the whole cycle starts again the next week. Is there a spiritual or energetic cause for this?
–Trying to Keep on Keeping on (Canada)
DEAR KEEPING ON:
This is actually a very common experience. Start by consulting your doctor to doublecheck that there are no physical causes for these symptoms.
Next, start taking care of your energy. Psychotherapists and other wellness providers (including caretakers, teachers, parents, or anyone that works deeply with people and/or with large groups of people) often pick up energy from the people they’re working with, resulting in physical symptoms and discomfort. When you’re sensitive to energy, this can be even more exacerbated.
You can take better care of your energy through the following steps:
- Ground and run your energy regularly (email holdinglightproductions@yahoo.com with “SEND FREE MEDITATION EXERCISES” in the subject line if you don’t know how to do this and would like to learn).
- When starting each day, imagine creating fresh boundary roses on all sides of you (in front, back, on the sides, and above and below you) and allow the roses to absorb any energies from clients and other people, instead of you absorbing them into your body or your aura layers surrounding your body. When the roses get full of energies you don’t want, you can imagine exploding them and creating a brand-new set.
- Make sure you take good care of yourself always, getting adequate sleep and exercise, and taking time to do what feeds your joy and your spirit.
Have fun taking great care of yourself, just as you do as you’re caring for others.
READERS: I invite you to send in a question of your own, either in the comment section or via email to askdalimama@gmail.com. And sorry I missed posting on March 27, which I just realized. I thought I had posted it but wi fi has been variable on the road and apparently it didn’t go through. Thanks for joining me here.
02 Apr 2014
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, astral, astral experiences, child molestation, communication, dali mama, hypnotherapist, leaving children with a molester, leaving children with a suspected molester, molested, past-life recall, repressed memories, reputable therapist, spiritual advice column, therapist
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I am a 45-year-old man and recently I’ve been thinking that maybe my father molested me when I was little. I’m not really sure, though, but sometimes I see pieces of what are maybe memories or maybe they’re dreams. My father is still alive. Should I talk to him about this?
–Am I Crazy? (Canada)
DEAR AM I CRAZY:
This is a difficult situation but you will be able to handle it. Sometimes we may have dreams or even strange astral experiences where someone may be disguised as your father. Or even flashes of past-life recall about someone, which makes “reality” a little murky. On the other hand, it could certainly be something you experienced in this lifetime that you have repressed that is now emerging into your consciousness.
You may want to consider seeing a reputable therapist, possibly a hypnotherapist that can regress you through your childhood. Be sure you choose someone excellent as some therapists who are not qualified may unintentionally lead their patient or plant memories of what they think happened versus what actually happened.
Depending on what you learn during your explorations, you may also want to speak to your father about this, perhaps in the presence of your therapist who can help you navigate the dynamics with your father and who can also provide a neutral opinion of his response when you discuss this with him.
In any case, to be on the safe side, if you have children, don’t leave them unsupervised with your father, just as a precaution. You can do this subtly and without accusing him if you are not sure. And if you have children and have left them with your father, you might ask them general questions (being careful not to lead them in any way) about what they do when they’re hanging out with your father. You may also wish to carefully broach the subject with your siblings if you have any. This might give you some answers as well.
In either case, I applaud your courage to discover the truth and work through these energies.
01 Apr 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: accuracy in readings, advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, divine knowingness, healer, karma, programming, recognizing energies within ourselves, something a healer told me didn't resonate for me, spiritual advice column, trust, truth
DEAR DALI MAMA:
I just came back from a bodywork session and the practitioner did something where she’d ask me questions and then feel the resistance in my outstretched left arm for her answers. She told me a bunch of stuff and there were times during the session where the energy felt right, and I trusted her, and then she told me something that just doesn’t feel right. I’m still open to the idea, and trying it on, but something about it feels off.
She somehow came up with the age 17 and asked me who during that age in my life, a man in my life, was very punishing, and I had the hardest time coming up with someone. The only person remotely close was my childhood close friend, Garth, who called me a lot for support, help, etc., whenever he was in some crisis, which was a lot. Anyway, according to this woman, I have, all these years been carrying around his punishing energy because of my empathy and wanting to help him…. I am having a hard time believing this, and wonder what you think of this. I have never heard this from anyone else before.
–Sara (New Zealand)
DEAR SARA:
Congratulations on taking a look at these energies. Ultimately, the most important thing is learning to trust your divine knowingness, which will never let you down. The only thing is that sometimes it takes a while to differentiate between divine knowingness and other energies, including that of our ego or fears or resistance or whatever other energies we’re carrying, which can sometimes feel more real than our divine knowingness when we’re not in full alignment with spirit.
As you continue to look at this, a couple things to think about:
- No healer or psychic is ever 100% accurate. Even the most gifted may have an off day or be influenced by unclear energies.
- Sometimes we may not recognize certain energies within ourselves, for a little while or even for a lifetime. We may recognize them after we release the karma or release the energies or maybe get some time and distance from them, at which point we can see the energy more clearly. Sometimes there may even be a lot of energetic programming or energy in the way of us seeing various energies that have been in place for some time with good intention or not-entirely-conscious motivations such as hiding the energy so we won’t notice and so we’ll keep carrying them around so the other person doesn’t have to.
I recommend you ground out any punishment energy (and any other energies that no longer serve your highest good) and notice what comes out. Keep doing this over time and also keep filling yourself in with wholeness and validation and notice what you notice.
Enjoy the journey of exploration.
31 Mar 2014
by askdalimama
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Tags: addiction, advice column, ask dali mama, being present during sex, counseling, couples' counseling, dali mama, escaping, intimacy, porn addiction, running away, sex, spiritual advice column, tantric class, therapy
DEAR DALI MAMA:
My husband of twenty-three years is addicted to porn. He watches it on the Internet, staying up late at night in his office, and hides magazines in the garage and other places. His porn life has largely replaced our actual sex life and on the rare occasion we do have sex, I feel like a live blow-up doll and it makes me sick and I’m pretty much at the point I don’t even want him to touch me anymore. We’ve had many conversations and now fights about this but nothing ever changes. What do you recommend?
–Fed up (United States)
DEAR FED UP:
Porn addiction is an extremely common problem these days in “developed” countries. Whether porn itself is a problem depends on the couple and their agreement with each other, but when it’s affecting your satisfaction with the relationship, particularly in regards to your sex life, it is definitely a problem. And your comment that you feel like a live blow-up doll suggests that he isn’t emotionally or energetically present even when you two are actually having sex.
When someone’s addicted to anything—whether it’s porn, drugs, alcohol, or work, they’re usually running away from something in themselves, so it’s important that your husband get counseling or therapy to get to the root of this issue. Once he’s been in therapy for a little while, I would recommend couples’ counseling as well. Eventually, you might even want to look into taking a tantric class together so you can rebuild your relationship and sex lives on true intimacy, helping both of you be fully present in the new vibration of your relationship.
Great job at looking at this issue in your marriage.
30 Mar 2014
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, dali mama, Diva Jones, http://www.msdivajones.com/ABOUT.html, intuitive voice lessons, London Times, opera, opera star, Ricky Beckwith, spiritual advice column, thewellthydiva.com, voice lessons
For today’s Sunday Share, I am honored to feature Diva Jones, a powerhouse voice and spirit. The London Times calls Diva Jones “a mezzo with the stature of (opera legend) Shirley Verrett, plus the flash of Dorothy Dandridge.” Make sure you’re sitting down before you listen to the recording of her singing! Click on http://www.msdivajones.com/ABOUT.html and http://www.msdivajones.com/LISTEN.html to listen. You may find out more about her at www.msdivajones.com, and you can also find out about her wellness work at http://thewellthydiva.com as well as hearing her sing a blessing song written by composer Ricky Beckwith.
Diva Jones is truly a star as well as an exceptional teacher of intuitive voice lessons, which she gives in person and on Skype. Each lesson she gives is tailored for each student, with her guides helping shape each lesson. She helps each student own their voice as the original expression. “I believe we all can sing and need that expression,” says Ms. Jones.
29 Mar 2014
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, clean energy from objects, clean objects physically, dali mama, energy of previous owners in objects, garage sales, grossed out, grounding cord, grounding energy from objects, prosperity, resourcefulness, spiritual advice column, thrift stores, thriftiness, used stuff
DEAR DALI MAMA:
My wife likes to buy everything at thrift stores and garage stores and she even picks up junk she finds on the street but it grosses me out to use stuff like that. What do you think about garage sales and thrift stores and stuff?
–Grossed Out (United States)
DEAR G.O.:
Validate your wife’s thrift. Thriftiness is actually a trait many men are looking for in potential mates these days. In actual mates too! Ha ha.
Certain things I wouldn’t buy used—underwear, shoes, mattresses or bedding, and other stuff like that. But sometimes you can get great deals at garage sales and thrift stores and it’s fine as long as they’re things that can be washed and cleaned. It’s a great way to keep the energy of objects moving and the ultimate in recycling for the good of the planet and the people on it.
Sometimes you can even find clothes with tags on them at garage sales or thrift shops. If you think about it, it’s likely that even if you buy your clothes at a department store, someone probably tried those clothes on before you, so there’s not much difference.
As far as stuff from the street, it depends. Sometimes people throw out great stuff. Sometimes they throw out things because they’re gross. Like maybe they’re getting rid of that couch because their dog threw up on it or maybe they had an outbreak of bedbugs, which can infest all kinds of objects, including clothes. And clothes need to be washed in hot water and dried at a certain temperature to actually eradicate bed bugs, should there be anything like that.
One thing you might want to do, though, is clean the objects you buy used—both physically and energetically. If they can be washed, do so. Even wipe down any furniture or clean plastic toys with a nontoxic cleaning solution. To clean the energy from an object, imagine a grounding cord going from the object into the center of the earth, allowing any energy that no longer belongs there to be cleaned out. Then reset the object to your vibration and reset it to support you and give you joy.
Sometimes when we have a negative reaction to used stuff, what we’re actually responding to (whether we know it or not) is the energy of the previous owner that’s still in the object.
As far as you and your wife, maybe you can sit down together and make an agreement about what kinds of thing come (and don’t come) into the house. Because you both share the living space, of course you should feel completely comfortable with the things in your home as well and of course only objects that have a use in your home should be brought in. Free junk is still junk. But validate your wife and her thriftiness and reset the space of what comes into the home at an energy of smart and resourceful prosperity.
26 Mar 2014
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Tags: advice column, ask dali mama, being attracted to a type, dali mama, expressing your authenticity, imprinting, lookalike, sense of identity, spiritual advice column
DEAR DALI MAMA:
We had some mold in our house from flooding from the upstairs bathroom and I was going through all the stuff from the master closet and found a bunch of photos (most of them moldy that had to be thrown away) of my boyfriend’s. I am blond with blue eyes and petite and they all (all former girlfriends, I’m guessing—lots of them) kind of look like me, even sort of similar facial structure, etc. Now I feel really weird about the whole thing. Am I just some type he’s attracted to or what?
–Creeped Out (Australia)
DEAR CREEPED OUT:
I understand why you would feel disturbed about this discovery. A few things for you to think about:
1) Do you look like his mother or other family members at all? Sometimes people are drawn to those who look like them, which may include looking like their mothers. Is that creepy enough for you? Ha ha. No, seriously, in this case, it’s not necessarily something to be disturbed about unless he treats you like his mother or thinks of you as his mother.
2) Sometimes people imprint on a certain type, or are simply attracted to a certain type of look. This is not necessarily a problem unless he, for example, doesn’t actually see you as an individual but rather more as a replicate or extension of the original petite blond (first girlfriend maybe, or even some celebrity?) on whom he imprinted. Then it is indeed pretty creepy. And if he’s having you dress in his mother’s old dresses or buying copies of his old girlfriend’s clothes, I’d say look for bodies in the basement and put on your running shoes and hightail it out of there. Or maybe just hightail it! Ha ha.
3) Here’s another thought–a possibility, although I’m sensing this is not the case here. All along, he’s been looking for you and had some vague idea as spirit what you looked like and kept picking your lookalikes in the hopes of finally finding you.
On a spiritual level, maybe one thing you’re working on is developing your own sense of identity and expressing your authenticity, whether that’s in thought, style, creative expression, or anything else. You’re also developing your own sense of discernment as far as what qualities are important in the mate of your choosing, which may include seeing you for who you are, as the unique one-of-a-kind divine original that you are. Enjoy the process of meditating and exploring this energy.
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